Conflict caused by the difference between my writing and speaking skills.

Overall, there is a very significant difference between my writing skills and my speaking skills. The evidence of this major difference can be found in the kind of response I receive from others when I write to them versus when I speak to them.

My writing tends to rub people the wrong way. I have been on the receiving end of all manner of unexpected negative response as a result of what I wrote.

It is very different when I speak. After I finish, people come up to hug me or shake my hand. They say thank you and tell me how much they appreciate what I had to say.

I realize there is an existing difference between the way people speak and the way they write however, my differences appear to be extreme.

It isn't my tongue that cuts like a double edge sword, it's my writing!

Any suggestions on how to bridge the gap a little better between writing content and speaking it would be greatly appreciated.

Sincerely,
Gehanna

The best I can do to provide an example is to point out how I write here but, what I write here is not sufficient. Here, I am writing to writers who understand the mechanics of writing. Also, I have been responding to controversial topics indirectly. This is because I know my writing will only serve to start a fight or fuel the spark into a roaring flame. I know this because it has happened many, many times already.

The discrepancy between my writing and speaking blows me away. I am utilized at my place of employment to intervene in conflict. In fact, I teach others how to do it. When I began to prepare my CV for the first time, I realized that the majority of my recognition was based on how I communicate with others. I am not trying to brag. I just do not understand how my written communication seems to create conflict while my verbal is used to end it. I feel like a hypocrite or something.

I don't know. I suppose my writing lacks the conscientiousness I am able to communicate through non-verbal and para-verbal means. I do not know how to incorporate that same conscientiousness into my writing.

The reason this is such a big issue for me is because I have been asked to create additional programs about the subjects I speak on. Needless to say, I was thrilled until... I realized I was also being asked to create written material! The written material will be distributed and used as a resource for reference purposes!! Heh!

Ummm sure. I can do it provided they are willing to overlook the potential my writing has to instigate hate crimes! *smirk*

I was doing just fine with an outline and a few bullet points here and there. The provision of written detail by me is not just wrong, it's a mortal sin!

Yes I became a little dramatic just now but, I am serious about my inability to effectively communicate in writing.

Gehanna

I am not certain rugcat. My prior experiences have left me feeling as if I had been writing to satan and a readership of demons. Doing that would certainly warp a person's reality.

Granted, not everyone is going to accept or understand what others write. My experience is such that I have had more negative response to my writing than positive. Enough to thwart my muse that's for sure.

When I look at a screen to begin typing or a piece of paper to begin writing, nothing happens. I can write here because, it is a different type of writing. It is different because there is an immediate or near immediate exchange of communication. I can't communicate with or to inanimateness.

Gehanna

Hello Karen Junker!

I actually tried that before. Unfortunately, it was then that I discovered I'm only good at faking one thing.

Eventually, I will figure something out. I hope.

And now I'd like to say something completely unrelated. Folding fitted sheets must be an OCD'ers nightmare! Not that I suffer from obsessive compulsive disorder..much..but, I've been struggling with this fitted sheet for 15 min! argh

Gehanna

I realize that this may read as if I am making excuses however, I only have a few things left that I've written. Those things I had help with. Everything else has been deleted. Beyond that, I am unable to post what I have for ethical reasons.

Gehanna

I have realized what is wrong with my writing! By the time I finish explaining this, you may suspect that not only do I have a couple of screws loose but, several are missing to.

The other day I was watching TV while also munching on some of those little white powder doughnuts. I love those things! As I was munching on one of them, an internal voice of mine said, "Describe that doughnut."

Notice I said internal voice as opposed to an external voice or auditory hallucination. I point this out because I do have some loose screws but, I keep the missing ones in my pocket.

My response was such that I began describing the doughnut in my head by means of my thoughts. That's when the internal voice said, "Now describe it on paper."

It was then that I became aware of the major difference between the way I write versus the way I speak. The thoughts I had in my mind when I initially described that doughnut changed. My thoughts were transformed from subjectivity to objectivity. In other words, I get stuck in documentation mode!

Now I understand why I was elected to be on the P&P (Policy and Procedure) Committee! lmao

Gehanna