He dropped off the kids and didn't even say anything. Like, "Hey, sorry you had find out about that this way." He just dropped off the kids and kept on going. In fact when I dropped the kids off at his place he still wasn't home from his new woman's house. I had to leave him with his father.
This sucks. I'm sick to my tummy and my hair is falling out.
And that is why you continue to call him 'Low'.
Look at it this way...he's already moved his nasty tail and his stinking attitude on another person. Wanna bet he's already manipulating her into covering his expenses?
I am so sorry, hon.
You are going to have to build up some defense against this because once he realizes it bothers you he is going to do his lousey best to up the ante.
You say you love him 'horribly'. What does that mean to you? To me it means that you still have feelings and you feel horrible because you have them.
I am sorry. I am mean. Stop reading this post. NOW!!!
Still Here? SIGH:::::::::::::::::::::::::
Ok.
GET OVER IT. FAST. Before he totally screws up your head.
I mean, benefit of the doubt, maybe he will not try to make this person a part of your lives. Maybe this person is just a fling to show off that he has freedom.
But there is just as much chance that he will be using this person to get back at you. Or worse...use her as a lever to get the kids.
"But Byatchie and I have a nice appartment and child care and Duchess doesn't so I should get my kids and she should have to pay support."
Don't shake your head. It happens.
I personally feel that unless yo are relying on him or his parents to provide child care, then HE and not his mother should be picking up the kids for visits.
AND: If he is not there to receive the children when it is time to drop them off, you should not drop them off. The visitation is supposed to be with him. He should have at least the courtesy to be there when they arrive.
And you have the right to insist that he not expose your children to his paramours.
Now...as I said...I am mean.
Stop crying. Get back up on your feet.
You are beautiful. You are worthwhile. You are a great person, a terrific mom and a perfect addition to the human race on this planet.
You are smart, talented, creative, wonderful, magnificent, and just a little funny.
People like you. People want to be your friend. People look out for you. People think you are cool, one of the in-crowd, and they want to be around you.
People cheer for your success and want to hold your hand and hug you when those successes aren't immediately there.
'Low' is no more worth your tears or consideration than 'Wart' is worth mine.
Dry your eyes and stand up. You can do this. The road may look bumpy now, but if you keep on it it will smooth out.
Low is just not worth your consideration. In time you will see him for the clown he is: Someone to be hauled out on the weekend for the amusement of your children and to be shoo-ed away on Sunday afternoon so you can organize your life for the week.
There is someone out there that is much better for you than 'Low'. In the mean time, have heart, because there is much wonderful in the world.
...and if I catch you crying over that diseased excuse for a mentally deficient, mutant silme mold from the bottom of an outhouse that should have been nuked before Stalin ever sat on it...
I'll yell at you again.
I promise.
Hugs/Mama Jay.
(Low, Low,
your brain's too slow
Pull your pants down
Before You GO!!!!!)
Evil 'Low' Cheer of the day....