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Sassee
06-09-2007, 06:02 AM
Alright, this is just a general question to anyone who feels like answering. I'm not going to give a description of anything currently happening in my WIP, who the characters are, or anything like that. Just answer off the top of your head.

My main character is bringing home her new boyfriend. Who is more likely to disapprove of him or treat him with caution?

Mom or Dad?

sunna
06-09-2007, 06:08 AM
In my family, it definitely would have been (and was) dad.

He actually met one of my sister's boyfriends at the door with a rifle and a ridiculous looking ten-gallon stetson on the eve of her senior prom, after he learned that the guy was a country music fan. I have no idea where he got the hat from, but it was a hell of a show. :D

Azure Skye
06-09-2007, 06:48 AM
My mother approved of everyone, at first. My dad never approved of anyone.

T Knight
06-09-2007, 07:14 AM
My mum is more of a dirty stop out then me so she never cared, my dad is dead. So I guess I am lucky lol!

Most parents these days will both instantly hate the bf, but act all nice until he is gone, then get the knives out by picking away at whatever faults his has together.

scarletpeaches
06-09-2007, 07:22 AM
My mother's a whore and no longer in my life and my (step)dad couldn't give a toss who I hang out with, so I never bothered bringing anyone home - I don't come from that sort of family. Far as I'm concerned it's no-one else's business who I go out with and to be honest, it's sad but no-one cares anyway.

Vanatru
06-09-2007, 07:26 AM
As the "Dad"............I would say it was...........dad. I don't trust any of the boys who've dated my daughter. As I tell the wife "I'm a guy, I know how guys think........and we're pigs........trust me."

eliflauta
06-09-2007, 07:26 AM
Dad. Definitely. Mothers have this weird thing in their brains that make them shower motherly love on anyone less than five years of their age. At least the majority of mothers I've seen have it...
Siblings are also fun. They make bringing home a boyfriend really great *gag* :)

PattiTheWicked
06-09-2007, 07:27 AM
Last time I brought a boyfriend home, the person most annoyed was my husband.

No, but seriously, when I was a kid my dad didn't want to even know I had boyfriends. My mother, on the other hand, could wither them wiht a look.

newmod
06-09-2007, 09:07 AM
Id say generally Dad (Ive never had a boyfriend, so I dont know), so it might be more interesting to have the mother be the disapproving one.

katiemac
06-09-2007, 09:21 AM
Also, if your character has siblings, brothers. Older or younger.

newmod
06-09-2007, 09:38 AM
Or the family pet, the granny in the attic, the funny uncle in the basement.

freethinker
06-09-2007, 11:07 AM
Honestly, it depends on the predilections of the household you're considering. In my own personal case, my fiancee's mother has taken the mother-in-law from hell stereotype and made it look puny in comparison; she has never liked me and continues to do everything she can to convince her supposedly innocent Southern Baptist daughter that I am an irreedemable waste of time and going to hell to boot, despite the fact that we've been dating for almost six years and engaged a year this August.

Her dad, on the other hand, invites me over to work on a fixer car every other weekend.

alleycat
06-09-2007, 11:30 AM
From my experience, if the girl is young (under 18), it's about equal, sometime mom won't like the guy, sometimes it's dad. Of course, if mom knows the boy's mother or family, she's more likely to give him a "thumbs up". If she's older, I think mom is more likely to disapprove (they can certainly give you an evil look . . . uh, or so I've heard). I know that goes against conventional wisdom where mom is always trying to marry their daughter off, but that's what I found. I think it has to do with them knowing the daughter is sexually active by then (or admitting it to themselves for the first time); moms are leary that the guy only wants to hop into bed with the daughter and still wants to be involved in the daughter's decisions (moms are like that). Dad has pretty given up by then and tries to ignore the whole thing and goes out to wash the car.

Kudra
06-09-2007, 11:52 AM
In my case, definitely Mom.

sharra
06-09-2007, 05:18 PM
Dad. If mine was anything to go by, they tend to enjoy tormenting the new boyfriend, usually by taking the p**s.
Might be a scottish thing - but mine has a seriously evil sense of humour.
If he outright disliked the guy, said BF would be firmly and occasionally physically escorted to the front door, & on one memorable occasion, down the front stairs..

Plot Device
06-09-2007, 05:27 PM
Dad.

LloydBrown
06-09-2007, 05:42 PM
This is a perfect reminder of the 10 Simple Rules for Dating my Daughter. I think it will resolve your question perfectly. You can find them at

http://www.funnyhumor.com/jokes/1116.php

I have them memorized.

The_Grand_Duchess
06-09-2007, 08:05 PM
The one and only time I brought a man home it was my mom who had the problem. My step dad didn't care. My little brother threatened to break his knee caps with a baseball bat if he ever hurt me. Quite a brave soul my little brother since the Duke has over a foot on him and outweighs him by something like 200 hundred lbs.

truelyana
06-09-2007, 08:11 PM
Alright, this is just a general question to anyone who feels like answering. I'm not going to give a description of anything currently happening in my WIP, who the characters are, or anything like that. Just answer off the top of your head.

My main character is bringing home her new boyfriend. Who is more likely to disapprove of him or treat him with caution?

Mom or Dad?

My mum disapproved the most of my boyfriends because, of her dramatic and worrying nature. She would invent stories about them. My dad was always honest and happy, with every decision I made so, that did not bother him.

It really depends alot on your characters, and what type of person they are as that would reveal the type of outcome most expected or in some cases least expected. It depends where you want to take your story.

kikazaru
06-09-2007, 08:49 PM
I agree Truleyana.

My parents liked all my boyfriends (or so they said). I do know that my kids will get more grief from me than their dad since unless a person has "Jerk" tattooed on their forehead, my husband has almost no character discernment - he likes everyone he meets. I on the other hand make a judgment almost immediately - and more often than not I am correct.

alleycat
06-10-2007, 08:15 AM
Dad. If mine was anything to go by, they tend to enjoy tormenting the new boyfriend, usually by taking the p**s.
Might be a scottish thing - but mine has a seriously evil sense of humour.
If he outright disliked the guy, said BF would be firmly and occasionally physically escorted to the front door, & on one memorable occasion, down the front stairs..
I like your dad.

alleycat
06-10-2007, 11:59 PM
My mom...well, I don't know. She's a mixed bag. She likes everyone, so she'd probably just sugar him up and ask him when he plans on marrying me and making her some grandchildren.
When I was a teenager, I learned never to take a girl to church. If you take someone to church, people would think you were getting serious. They would then ask my mother when we were getting married . . . and then mom would start wondering herself.

Maryn
06-11-2007, 01:17 AM
At our house, it's my husband who's leery of the boyfriends our daughter brings home. He says it's because he remembers vividly what's going through their minds in regard to Our Sweet Baby Girl.

Maryn, who is more often puzzled by her choices but liked them well enough

Soccer Mom
06-11-2007, 03:44 AM
My dad was the worst. He usually felt the need to clean his guns in front of new boyfriends. I had the last one (Soccer Dad) hooked before he ever met my parents. Smartest move I ever made (with the hindsight of fifteen years.)

Melanie Nilles
06-11-2007, 04:05 AM
in my case it was my mom, but I had a different case. At the time I brought anyone home, I hadn't heard from my "dad" in years and my stepdad just doesn't get concerned too much, even with my sisters. Mom's the biggest worrier. She'd worry about my boyfriend at the time (now my husband of five years) using me--far from reality.

PenTeller
06-11-2007, 07:30 AM
When I was a teenager, I learned never to take a girl to church. If you take someone to church, people would think you were getting serious. They would then ask my mother when we were getting married . . . and then mom would start wondering herself.

Omigosh I know. You can do none of the following at my church without the older people wondering if you and the guy within proximity of you are dating/engaged/married/having an illicit affair:

1. Talk.
2. Sit within three feet of each other.
3. Share a hymnal.
4. Look at each other (not exactly at the same time, either).
5. Be single.

Back on topic, though, well...no, I have nothing else to add.