Late last night I got a text message from a friend asking what I was doing the following night; this evening. So this afternoon I texted her back saying, "Sorry I didn't reply straight away, it was late when I read your message and I didn't want to wake you; why do you ask?"
Turns out a few guys she knows visited her place of work yesterday and asked her to come out with them tonight for a few drinks. Now I don't know if they asked for me specifically or if she raised my name herself, but she wants me to come with her so she's not the only girl there. No matchmaking going on, she just doesn't want to be the only female present.
I texted her back saying I had a few things to do at home and some work to do, but she's since texted me a couple of times to say, "Oh please! I don't want to be the only girl," or, "It'll be fun and they'll pay for the drinks!"
But here's the point. Money isn't a problem. Okay, it's a bit tight at the moment but I can stretch to a few beers. It's just that I don't like last minute or day-before invitations and I don't like people expecting me to drop everything, or assuming I don't have anything important to do.
I know writing isn't important to everyone. I accept that. But to be honest, I'd rather stay in and work on my WIP than go down the pub tonight. Does that make me sad? 'Cause really, what am I missing out on? Hanging out for a few hours with lads who will no doubt drink too much. I'll get depressed at not feeling like one of the 'in-crowd' because I just don't fit in with that kind of social life. I won't get any male attention because of my bored body language, therefore confirming my idea that I'm not a social animal and destined to be single forever. I'll feel guilty that I'm not at home writing - what I really enjoy doing.
There are plenty of people who think this makes me a bore and they're not afraid to tell me so. But if I was going out tonight I'd like to have planned it so I could have got my hair done, bought something new to wear or put some beer pences aside so I didn't have to worry about funds. I like to be prepared, make an occasion of it.
I'm a creature of habit, I admit, but I'm not afraid to try new things or go out with a bunch of people - as long as I have a warning. I just don't like this, "You can afford to drop everything because you don't have anything else to do," mentality, as if going out and getting pissed is the be-all and end-all of socialising.
I mean, what's wrong with museums, art galleries, cinema, sports, going for a walk, dinner parties? Why does socialising always have to be centred around licensed premises?
Am I being a stick-in-the-mud or is this the nature of being a writer; being more dedicated to that than being willing to say, "Okay, I'll forget chapter four and go out on the piss at the drop of a hat," ?
Turns out a few guys she knows visited her place of work yesterday and asked her to come out with them tonight for a few drinks. Now I don't know if they asked for me specifically or if she raised my name herself, but she wants me to come with her so she's not the only girl there. No matchmaking going on, she just doesn't want to be the only female present.
I texted her back saying I had a few things to do at home and some work to do, but she's since texted me a couple of times to say, "Oh please! I don't want to be the only girl," or, "It'll be fun and they'll pay for the drinks!"
But here's the point. Money isn't a problem. Okay, it's a bit tight at the moment but I can stretch to a few beers. It's just that I don't like last minute or day-before invitations and I don't like people expecting me to drop everything, or assuming I don't have anything important to do.
I know writing isn't important to everyone. I accept that. But to be honest, I'd rather stay in and work on my WIP than go down the pub tonight. Does that make me sad? 'Cause really, what am I missing out on? Hanging out for a few hours with lads who will no doubt drink too much. I'll get depressed at not feeling like one of the 'in-crowd' because I just don't fit in with that kind of social life. I won't get any male attention because of my bored body language, therefore confirming my idea that I'm not a social animal and destined to be single forever. I'll feel guilty that I'm not at home writing - what I really enjoy doing.
There are plenty of people who think this makes me a bore and they're not afraid to tell me so. But if I was going out tonight I'd like to have planned it so I could have got my hair done, bought something new to wear or put some beer pences aside so I didn't have to worry about funds. I like to be prepared, make an occasion of it.
I'm a creature of habit, I admit, but I'm not afraid to try new things or go out with a bunch of people - as long as I have a warning. I just don't like this, "You can afford to drop everything because you don't have anything else to do," mentality, as if going out and getting pissed is the be-all and end-all of socialising.
I mean, what's wrong with museums, art galleries, cinema, sports, going for a walk, dinner parties? Why does socialising always have to be centred around licensed premises?
Am I being a stick-in-the-mud or is this the nature of being a writer; being more dedicated to that than being willing to say, "Okay, I'll forget chapter four and go out on the piss at the drop of a hat," ?
