Words by themselves cannot offend anyone. The intent with which they are spoken and the reaction towards hearing them is what makes them insulting.
Well, here's a really interesting one...
OK, as a white Kiwi I could be called a "pakeha" (which is fine, it's a Maori word) or a "honkey" (which is a supposedly a derogatory slur).
A friend of mine recently made a point with which I tended to agree. He said, "You know, when ******, the radical activist Member of Parliament, says the word pakeha it makes my skin crawl. It's said with a venom, and may as well be stated clearly as 'white colonial pricks who should all pack up and fuck off back to where they come from.'" By the way, I have a pretty good understanding of NZ history and the injustices done, and actually have a great deal of sympathy for most views. But.
Yet if a Maori person said to me "Hey honkey, what's up?" I'd laugh.
The crap that these
pink-shirted, grey-shoed, mohair-jerseyed, wank-obsessed, politically correct social-engineers come up with, it's just ludicrous. People will insult people however they choose to do it, and at the end of the day you can pump however many billions of public dollars you like into pissing around with semantics... it just ain't going to change a thing. You either love your brother, or not.
** Whoops, thought I'd better edit before I get taken before the Human Rights commission by some pink-shirted... etc.