Wow! You've put into words things I've always pondered. I mean, how can you have instant hate for someone, and you've simply glanced them across a crowded room, parkinglot, shopping isle? Oh, sure, we have 'instinct' and 6th sense, and I'm not discounting that, infact, I think that in itself is an uber fascinating topic, but I have to wonder, when this happens (and thank God it's not often) if I've known this person in a past life. Did they harm me, family? Were they someone I just had much confrontation with? Could it be more in depth--country against country type distrust i.e., Highland Clearances? You know, perhaps not personal, but on a grander scale. If you truly delve into the topic of past lives, and that we seemingly travel in 'circles', the same souls coming into contact with one another, (and keep an open mind) this can be so beyond fascinating, the kind of stuff you stay up all hours of the night discussing.
Here in Germany, walking through a small neighborhood being built, I walked by two construction workers. No, not that whoo hoo type like in America, just your everyday workers. Both kneeling. Doing something with pipes and wiring--can you tell I'm not construction savvy? Anyway, I passed by, not really 'seeing' them, kind of they were more like the woodwork, you know? All of the sudden, I had this overwhelming urge to turn around. Too many Hollywood horror flicks, I immediately obeyed.
One of the guys was staring at me. Both of us tilted our heads, as if pondering: Do I know you?
He stood. No, I wasn't afraid..though normally I would be a bit wary, this time..eh eh. He took a few steps towards me, asking something in German, to which I shook my head & said nein dutch. He smiled. 'Ah, English. I asked if I know you, have we met, you look familiar to me, but I do not know any Americans, so I am wrong." He gave me a curt nod, and turned away. Then turned back. "I am sorry. I KNOW I have spoken to you before. I can see this. I have made you laugh." He shook his head as if completely baffled. In the meantime, I'm staring at him, not in a way that one would at some guy that's nuts.....but in a way The Twilight Zone theme should have been playing, because as he spoke it, I had been thinking it: I've seen this man. I have laughed with this man. Impossible.
He apologized again, pointed to his head in the universal sign that he must be crazy, shrugged helplessly, dropped down to continue what he was doing. Just before stepping out of view, as I was walking down hill, I glanced back. He glanced up at the same time.
I couldn't help feeling a profound sense of loss. But, what do you do? Run up to the person: talk to me, let me get to know you, I feel this weird pull towards you.....nah. Then we're labeled as weird. And placed in a rubber room.
And it's like you said, it wasn't a lover kind of interest, but rather like we had once upon a time simply known each other.
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