Gay clubs

There are swinger magazines out there and dozens of websites... I did research for a novel too-- that never got finished

Usually gay clubs are for same sex hookups only. If you're looking for a threeway, you generally end up at a swingers' club, although I did know a couple who used to troll for girls together at a lesbian bar. Most of the gay people I know are somewhat offended by the idea of someone "playing gay for a day" just for nookie.

That's not to say people don't do it, it's just that it's an entirely different circle of people.

Patti's got it down. *nods*

I asked a bisexual friend why she hadn't made a pass at me, as she told me she thinks I'm good-looking.

Apparently, I'm "Not gay enough."

Great. Rejected by all colours on the sexual spectrum.

This doesn't contribute to the thread, but I needed to tell someone.

When you say "a couple", do you mean a straight couple?

Of so, then yep -- what Patti said.

"Bi-curious" straight couples would not be welcome in any of the queer places I know in London. I would assume the same to go for the US scene.

There are websites where gay men look for contact for sex, & similar for gay women (although these tend to be less in-your-face about the cruising), & bi-curious / threesome-curious straight couples certainly pop up there every now & then. You might consider a previous hook-up via a website like that, mebbe.

Oh, and...

MarkEsq said:

I've never been to one (he says quickly)

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Nowt wrong with gay bars.

scarletpeaches said:

I asked a bisexual friend why she hadn't made a pass at me, as she told me she thinks I'm good-looking.

Apparently, I'm "Not gay enough."

Great. Rejected by all colours on the sexual spectrum.

This doesn't contribute to the thread, but I needed to tell someone.

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If it makes you feel any better, if I was a lesbian I'd go for you.

:::smooooch:::

Hey baby!

This isn't the Office Party. Keep the thread focussed on the subject, not personal conversations please.

If this something spur of the moment? If it isn't then as has already been said there are loads and loads of websites they could go onto and its very easy to meet people that way (and they aren't all swinger sites either, there's lots of different ones including polyamorus sites).

They would be unlikely to pick someone up in a gay bar (its not impossible but it would depend on many things and is very unlikely). However there are swinger parties etc and other house parties that if they have done their research they should be able to find out about. The parties tend to be very safe affairs and everything is done only if the people want it to occur.

If it doesn't have to be them picking someone up in a gay bar there are loads and loads of different ways it could occur. It would also depend on what sex they are looking for (not massively but it does bias some people)

If you would like more info feel free to message me.

Craig's List, email, then you meet at a neutral place for drinks and discuss terms. It's rude and well, sorta mean to go to a gay bar this kind of thing.

This is predictable motif 1076a in erotic lit or in smut though. Honest.

I've seen swingers advertising in their profiles on myspace too, although I suspect that's less direct than Craigslist.

So go to one. Observe, but don't stare. It's not like it's an expedition to observe the Yanomamo or anything.

If they ask you to leave, leave.



[ETA: that was a very important "it's not like" to leave out....]

There's a very popular club here whose crowd is definitely gay during the week, but it packs in all lifestyles on the weekend. I've seen couples hangin' out, (on weekends) and have had couples approach me on the dance floor. In fact, I've witnessed couples going after single women at 'hetero' clubs as well. There could be those after that kind of encounter, but most would be offended without previous arrangements (like personal ads) and in a place not designated for that kind of activity, (a form of swinging, yes?) - and trolling is ugly.
But it's easy to handle, you give a polite NO if not interested, and if they don't move on, kick 'em in the groin.

hmmm how much time does your couple have? If they can get to know people some chat rooms are good. Also an ad on alt.com (or a fictional variation)

If they don't have time use craigslist. They recently arrested a bunch of folks at the Atlanta airport because they were hooking up between flights in the crappers. Sick stuff.

As with any reply, your mileage may vary.

MarkEsq said:

Would it be normal/acceptable for a couple to go into a gay club in order to pick up either a man or a woman to 'play' with for the night or weekend?

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In part that will depend on what the local GLBT community is like and the club as well. Some will be more or less accepting of that behavior. I've been to several clubs where trolling was ok. And some where the regulars didn't care for it. Not every GLBT group/community is the same.

No one really likes to be used and discarded as a sex toy. That's kinda what it comes down to.

Some of the behavior was dictated by how much they knew the couple. If it was a regular duo then sometimes they found a partner for a night of wild debuachery.

I've rarely seen strangers hook up for a good bit o'fun. It happens regardless of what some say or think.

MarkEsq said:

How would a kinky couple go about finding a third person??

I ask for my novel, I promise.

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Do they have my email address yet? Just kidding.

Back home the local porn stores have about.............6 rows of locally published swing magazines, running from 10$ up to 50$. They list people who have a desire to get freaky with one another. We even have a private swingers club. Generally by invitation only. Single guys need not apply. Couples are ALWAYS welcome.

That or just go to a bar, find some drunks guys and eventually you'll find one who'll do it with the couple.

It would attract negative attention so if they beat the odds out of arogance then the your detective would get some good interviews from colorful characters who usually wouldn't tell tales on their in group.

I would agree it is more a swinger thing. General gay clientelle are typucally no more likely to go for a sudden threesome that a general straight clientelle. After all, it's half out of bounds for either. But swingers have already thought it through and sorted out the guidelines.

I LOVE gay clubs. We have the bestest of the best here in ATL: Backstreet.

Love it.

Don't think you'll find a bi-partner there. The guys want one to themself, the gals want to be left alone, there's coke in the head and wigs at the door...

Sigh. I love that place.

Your character needs to find a partner through an ad or an agency, or on the street. A 'for hire' type of person.

I read an article in Vogue, maybe 6-8 months ago. The topic was nightclubs that offer special services in the back room. Apparently for a hefty cover charge you can go in there, eat and drink freely from the banquet provided and screw your brains out with anyone else there, male or female, if they are willing. The only rule was that you had to leave with the same person you came (in) with. And they had a caveat about the drunks and druggies. Partakers had to be reasonably sober to get the nookie. The article focused on these types of clubs in Paris, but if they are there it's a sure bet they are here too.

Yes there are plenty of US sex clubs of various sorts.