The cat thing is a little weird but hey, I think Pattie was probably right, it's just her way of trying to hang on a little longer. This is just an observation and not based on anything but it seems to me that it isn't really depression as much as it is fear of losing the saftey zone that people cling to in long relationships. Change is scary, and nothing changes more than losing a long time partner, even if they treated you like shit, or the two of you weren't in love, it's the frontier of the unknown life ahead of us we mourn more than the loss of the life we leave behind,,,, (side note.. I just made up this last line and I realized that it's pretty freaken good, so it's going in a future book of mine, you guys leave it alone) Sorry, you get my point....