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My man is going through his mid life crisis, but I don't have to worry about him spending some money because there's none to spend. Now, with that said...
How did you help your man go through his crisis. He's still laughing at this stage but he just told me that I don't look like the youth in my pictures of the younger years. We laughed and I poked fun at him as well. We do this a lot because we've been together since he was 23 and I was 26. Now we're 38 and 40. I noticed he's wanting to sleep a lot and he's grumpy. His dad was just murdered and he never got to have a real relationship with him and he's bent on not growing old very gracefully. He doesn't own a house yet and he doesn't like the job he's in but it does get us by, barely. I have a chronic illness and am unable to work a job until someone figures out how to get me better. His mom is up there in age and he knows she doesn't have long to live and he's bothered by the fact that we do not have money. Now he feels like his life is almost over and everyone around him is dieing and he has nothing to show for his life and if he dies (funny, he's 38) he will have accomplished nothing. Now, he's been at his job for 8 years and was moved up to management for a brief time before he was demoted because of the housing industry being slowed down. And now, yesterday he saw a posted letter for an add for a construction manager two weeks after there was a meeting to ask if he could go back into management. They said no and he's quite qualified he's just not one of the "good O'l boys" because he doesn't drink or party and he's a Christian man.
So there you have it in a nut shell.
I'm trying to be as encouraging as I can but is it enough? Is there more I should be doing? I'm being a tigress in bed and cooking him some tasty food as well.
Thanks!
Terri
How did you help your man go through his crisis. He's still laughing at this stage but he just told me that I don't look like the youth in my pictures of the younger years. We laughed and I poked fun at him as well. We do this a lot because we've been together since he was 23 and I was 26. Now we're 38 and 40. I noticed he's wanting to sleep a lot and he's grumpy. His dad was just murdered and he never got to have a real relationship with him and he's bent on not growing old very gracefully. He doesn't own a house yet and he doesn't like the job he's in but it does get us by, barely. I have a chronic illness and am unable to work a job until someone figures out how to get me better. His mom is up there in age and he knows she doesn't have long to live and he's bothered by the fact that we do not have money. Now he feels like his life is almost over and everyone around him is dieing and he has nothing to show for his life and if he dies (funny, he's 38) he will have accomplished nothing. Now, he's been at his job for 8 years and was moved up to management for a brief time before he was demoted because of the housing industry being slowed down. And now, yesterday he saw a posted letter for an add for a construction manager two weeks after there was a meeting to ask if he could go back into management. They said no and he's quite qualified he's just not one of the "good O'l boys" because he doesn't drink or party and he's a Christian man.
So there you have it in a nut shell.
I'm trying to be as encouraging as I can but is it enough? Is there more I should be doing? I'm being a tigress in bed and cooking him some tasty food as well.
Thanks!
Terri