Writer/Writer Relationships

Lately I've been thinking about this a lot. Every relationship I've had up to this point has been with someone who didn't write at all, or someone who wrote very little.

Not only did they not understand why I spent 2 hours on Word processor and then almost every other hour of the day thinking about my story in some way, but they often complained about it and never took my writing/reading seriously. A few times, it actually led to a breakup ("You have to choose- your writing, or me?" "...Okay, bye then" *type type type*).

Do you think a writer/writer relationship would be different? I have a feeling that there would be more respect and understand for the other person's hobbies/work (depending on what stage you're at), but do you think this sort of relationship would ultimately work out better?

scarletpeaches said:

I was thinking about this last night. My past relationships have all broken up, not because none of the guys were writers, but because they were tit-heads.

I've never dated a writer, but I'd like to, simply for the joy of talking shop during my down time away from the laptop. Plus, there'd be someone to help me with research for the sex scenes. They'd understand how important that is.

"Hi honey, I'm up to chapter seventeen now and I don't know what this position feels like, now drop 'em!"

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Anything for the sake of research....

czjaba said:

I personally think occupation/career choice has anything to do with it. To me, it all comes down to respect.
My husband respects me and anything I want to try, he supports me 100% and vice versa.

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If he ever disrespects you, I'm letting you know right now that I have a rack of weapons unlike anything this world has ever seen before. Just, you know, just in case....

czjaba said:

Maybe, that's why he respects me. It can sometimes be difficult to distinguish between fear and respect.

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Eh, the results each one produces are similar enough.

kristie911 said:

I don't care about a writer but I definitely want my next relationship to be with someone who actually reads...more than fishing and hunting magazines!

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*big nod* I've tried and failed at dating a non-reader. It is, in my opinion, one of the worst things for a writer's nerves (or maybe I just get angry even easier than I thought).

"Put the book down, babe" *smooch smooch*

"For the love the all things worldly, go away! I'm on the last chapter, we can do it later! Dumbledore's in trouble!"

scarletpeaches said:

One of my exes asked me (and this is the very moment I knew it was over), "Why do you read so much?"

I replied, "Because I want to know."

"Know what?"

"Everything!"

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Heeheeheehee

czjaba said:

My husband bought me a booklight for Christmas. (Now, I hear the awwws)

But, then he stole it back from me!

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Booklights are the best!

Rumor has it that these new battery-less clip-on booklights are coming out soon. You shake them for a while and voila! Light!

Saritams8 said:

*sigh* I want to know everything too. Can we learn together? Do you think they teach a class for that?

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I think Uncle Jim said something about hosting a class for that....

scarletpeaches said:

Saritams8, now I've rid myself of the ex, I have more time for reading. Come round to my house. I have a 'cake and books' room. Just be sure not to break the spines or get tea stains on the newer volumes.

Oh, and I find beanbags make more comfortable places to read than chairs.

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The tub is still my favorite place to read. Most people looking at my bookshelf can tell because the corners of some of my older books are wrinkled, waterlogged, and slightly faded (and smell like flowery soap).

Beanbags are wonderful to read in. It gets rid of that obnoxious cramp you get in the back of your neck when you've been reading for 8 hours straight.

scarletpeaches said:

BATH??? BATH???

I wash in the bath. It's about the only place I don't read. I'd be scared of dropping the book. If it's all about being comfortable while you read, I much prefer bed. But then you get the 'propping yourself up on one elbow' cramps, and the red handprint wherever you prop yourself up. I get that on my cheek. Plus, having my hand bent back to prop myself up like that means I get pins and needles when I try to move it.

*sigh*

What I need is a naked Purefoy as a professional book-holder and page-turner, with a lovely Phoenix as a cuppa tea maker and provider of biscuits (ginger crunch creams).

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Just throw some bleach in the water and swish a little- it'll do the cleaning for you.

I LOVE Olympic reading (reading for 9 hours or more nonstop) but I get terrible cramps. My eyes dry out, I have to pee really badly, and I'm hungry and thirsty, but I can't do anything about it because I have a cramp in every limb and then some. It's fun

Saritams8 said:

I'm there! I'll bring my tin of Chinese almond cookies with me to share.

Don't worry, I don't break spines, just legs (mostly my own.)

Oh and Tsuki? I love reading in the tub. It's like that old "Calgon, take me away," commercial.

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Party in the cakes and books room! I'll bring some crepes!

Reading in the bathtub is the best thing in the world. It's nice and relaxing, and you can really let yourself get into the story without worrying about being interrupted.

Plus, it's way less eventful than trying to read in the shower (which I still try to do sometimes....)