Is anyone else OVER Valentine's Day???

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Ok, Valentine's Day is really starting to annoy me.

Or rather, the shallowness of Valentine's Day. Wouldn't an "I love you" card or a dozen roses mean more ANY OTHER DAY of the year than the one day where YOU HAVE TO give said roses and cards?

It seems like every man I know is scrambling to find The Almighty Perfect Gift for his wife/girlfriend. One told my husband "dude, if I don't get her something, I'll get my ass kicked." Another said, "yeah right, nothing for V-Day? My wife would never put out again." Their V-Day gifts don't really mean "I love you with all my heart, you're my valentine, when we're apart I even miss the smell of your farts"...they mean "here, this is my obligatory gift so you won't be mad at me" or "here's my gift because the calendar says it's the day I'm supposed to buy you something pink, tacky, and expensive."

It has taken me FOUR YEARS of marriage to convince my husband that I DO NOT want anything for V-Day. (not to mention convincing him that I'm not playing the "I'm telling you I don't but I really do and if you don't figure that out you're in deep doo-doo" game) It's just stupid. I've said for a long time: a single rose any day of the year because you want to means way more than a dozen roses on Valentine's Day because you're supposed to.

Am I the only one? Or at least, the only female?
 

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I'm waiting for the Red Tag Sale on February 15th.
mmm....chocolate...
 

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Of course, most of us don't get roses any day of the year, so why take away the one day we do? I want my husband to think he has to get me flowers on Valentine's Day. What's wrong with a day that reminds people to make those extra gestures?
 

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Valentine's Day is just another reason to feel stressed or inadequate.

If anything, Valentines Day should be a celebration of love. Love of family, love of friends. Not LUST. It seems that the focus today is the bigger gift you give, the greater the chances of gittin' some.

I like to make a special meal and sit with my family with a nice chocolate fondue. None of that froo froo crap.
 

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Yeah, it is a bit over-rated, but I love the chocolates. And the
v-day cards aren't much different from year to year, either, but I love the chocolates. And yeah, seeing red all day on everyone and everything can get a bit tiresome, but I love the chocolates!

Anyway, we get past most of that by going out to dinner for my sister-in-law's birthday. There are about 12 family members who go, and she's autistic and loves to celebrate, so that makes it fun.
 

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Am I the only one? Or at least, the only female?
No. It's not called VD day for nothing. ;)

Actually, I have never liked Valentines Day. It's all about commercialism. But my bf wants to do something, so I don't mind so much as long as it is small. Interesting that this is the first guy I haven't minded doing Valentines stuff with.

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Valentine's Day (or "buy me roses and chocolates if you want to get laid tonight") is bad enough. Is there anything more demeaning to women, peeing on their accomplishments and making them out to be shallow, materialistic airheads? Why yes, Randy, there IS something worse: Sweetest Day. At least VD (as we call it at our house) has a bit of history propelling it; the latter was blatantly put together by rapacious candy and greeting card companies to swell their October coffers. I could just imagine the Idea Guys pitching this one: "Gentlemen, we have a problem. February 14 is a distant memory, and Christmas is over two months away. We need something now to cause American males to part with their cash. God knows they have vast reservoirs of untapped guilt about their penury; we just need to turn the valve." And thus Sweetest Day was hatched.
 

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Every day is special with me.
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"I love you with all my heart, you're my valentine, when we're apart I even miss the smell of your farts"
This verse is beautiful. Do you write for Hallmark?

I don't mind Valentine's Day. It sorta reminds me of h.s., when a boy might surprise you with a little stuffed animal or a sappy card and you and your friends get to giggle and speculate all day whether you and he were "meant" to be together.

Ahh. Memories.

But now I'm married, and I already know we're meant for each other, so now Valentine's day is just an excuse for him to remember to do something for me that doesn't involve dishes, laundry, or putting gas in the car. :):LilLove:

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Of course, most of us don't get roses any day of the year, so why take away the one day we do? I want my husband to think he has to get me flowers on Valentine's Day. What's wrong with a day that reminds people to make those extra gestures?

Because the "oh, it's Valentine's Day, I need to give flowers" gesture means just that: "it's Valentine's Day, I need to give flowers." I'm not saying men aren't being genuine when they give their wives flowers, but I do think the obligation to do so is stupid.

I'm not advocating getting rid of Valentine's Day, so I'm not taking it away from you. ;) I just can't stand the day myself. I don't like my husband feeling obligated to make a romantic gesture, so I have asked him not to do anything for V-Day anymore. If he wants to do something to show me he loves me, I want him to do it for that reason only...NOT because he "has" to.
 
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Of course, most of us don't get roses any day of the year, so why take away the one day we do? I want my husband to think he has to get me flowers on Valentine's Day. What's wrong with a day that reminds people to make those extra gestures?

Has to? Wouldn't you want someone to give you gifts because he wanted to, not because he felt obligated?

Of course there's nothing wrong with buying your significant other gifts, nothing wrong at all, but a day where someone is FORCED into it, or feels obligated through emotional blackmail or commercialism; what's that all about? Seems closer to obligation than voluntary gift-giving. If you don't get roses any other day of the year, would one day's enforced floristry really make up for the other 364 days of disappointment and lack of romantic gestures?

I wouldn't want anyone buying me presents becaues they felt they 'had to' - I'd prefer a significant other to do things for me out of love, voluntarily, then I would know the giving was done out of genuine feeling, because they wanted to, and that would mean so much more than, "It's VD; I HAVE to spend money on her."
 
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Valentine's Day (or "buy me roses and chocolates if you want to get laid tonight") is bad enough. Is there anything more demeaning to women, peeing on their accomplishments and making them out to be shallow, materialistic airheads?

Oh, goodness -- there is nothing demeaning about sending me flowers. However, if you pee on my accomplishments, you'll definitely see demean side of me! :D

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I'm a romantic, so I enjoy it.

What's the problem with having a day to show love? Seems like we need more days like that.

Um...I'd say we need 365 days like that.

I think the reason I (and others) object to it is it seems to say, "Show love today; the rest of the year, you don't have to." Too much emphasis on one day takes away from our natural need for love on the other 364 days.

And let's face it, it's getting as commercialised as Christmas now. Teddy bears and chocolates and roses...do material things on February 14th really demonstrate love between a couple? Or would that be more apparent in the little things they (should) do for each other every single day of their lives together?
 

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I'm a romantic, so I enjoy it.

What's the problem with having a day to show love? Seems like we need more days like that.

Because it's turned into a day to BUY things and GET things. I think it's sad that we NEED a day to remind us to show love, and even sadder that said day has become a "let's see which guy gives her girl the biggest present" day.
 

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So, what? No more Christmas gifts, cards or dinner out on our anniversaries - what about our birthdays????

C'mon, VD scrooges! Get with the LOVE. Show momma some LOOOOVE, why dontcha???? :D :D :D Here - some flowers for you :e2flowers-- and it isn't even Valentine's Day, so don't get all huffy about it. :)


ETA: And that's all said in a nice friendly silly joking way -- just in case all the smilies don't tip you off! :) I don't want this thread to have to go to TIO! :D
 
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