Wish me luck...

Just remember that your doing the right thing. THings may go hard from time to time, but just remember what the alternative is.
Keep your chin up and whenever you feel the need for help and support, we're right here.
Right Gang?

Of course.

It'll be scary at first, but the sense of freedom is right behind that, and then it'll be great. And it sounds like you have a good support system. I hope it all goes well.

Good luck. It's good that you'll have your family looking out for you.

Ditto on what the others said, KimJo and that's great you'll have a new start. Congrats & way2go and bet you'll do great!

Good luck, KimJo.

From experience let me tell you, it's much easier being a single parent alone
than it is being a single parent when you're not alone.

Good move, KimJo. Good luck with it.

Hell yeah to what everyone else has said. All the best to you and yours.

Good luck, congratulations and what Maryn said:

And please remember that when your new independence is scary or confusing, you have a network of people here to support and advise you on anything and everything that comes up, whether it's personal, parental, financial, or one of the other biggies.

We are also available when you need to scream. Just so you know.

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Coming from one who didn't post much here at the time, but took complete advantage of the emotional support emiting from the cooler. Stop by anytime to scream, cry, moan, just be comforted.

Nita, crying less each day

We're here for you...you're in my thoughts for a safe and peaceful move.

I left mine after 13 years...its not easy but trust me when I say this..whether or not its easy makes no difference..the big difference is in how much BETTER you will feel and trust me..you will feel better.

The loss is huge and takes time to sink in, but once u are over that part, the great freedom of knowing you are doing it on your own and without the unhealthiness of an abusive relationship, you are gonna feel better about yourself than ever.

Good luck to you, I know what you are going through.

Add me to the chorus saying bravo. It takes real courage to step out into the unknown. If Spooky can start threads about rancid nuts and Tsuki can start threads about the death of a wood spider, there is certainly room for threads about starting a new life. Feel free to vent, scream or cry here whenever needed.

Good luck - and well done!

You're doing the right thing, even if it's difficult.

KimJo, I wish you the best. It's one day at a time, and you will succeed.

Remember, we are here for you. You are not alone.

Karen

Amen to all the messages above! Good luck! Come back to us when you can.

Best of luck KimJo - be strong. You've already been strong for 14 years. You just need to keep on doing the same.

Good for you. Life's to short to be with someone who hurts you. From experiance I can say the holding on to a destructive person can destroy you. Holding on doesn't just include the relationship, it's also that part of him that you must keep with you after 14 years with him. You need to makes sure that you kick this man out of your life in all respects. Don't miss him, and don't even start to think about how you might be hurting him. Worry about yourself and your kids, you've earned the right to apathy in regards to him. If you've got friends and relatives that will help you through this (which it sounds like you do), utilize their support as much as possible. A couple years back, I quit a drug I was supremely addicted to and there's no way I couple have done it without my friends and family. Hell, some of them didn't even know about my problem, but the time they spent with me helped me nonetheless. Good luck to you, and be sure to keep us informed on your progress.