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This morning after dropping off my son at school, I was just about to pull into my driveway when I saw a little boy with a backpack walking toward the bus stop. The bus was long gone byt this time, like a half hour, so I turned around. I pull up beside him and ask him if he's ok.

Now, I know this is a huge no-no and I normally do not talk to children I don't know, but our bus stop is on a highway and he was little. Second grade. I couldn't leave him out there by himself. I thought maybe I could let him use my phone or send him home or something.

Turned out, I knew him from my gym and he recognized me.

I asked him where he was going and told him the bus was already gone. He asked me for a ride to the bus stop and I told him again, the bus is gone so how about a ride home. No one is home he told me. So, I did the only thing I could think of and took him to school.

When I got there, the lady in the office rushes out and asks him where he's been. He shrugs and goes inside. Then she informs me that the mother called. She knew they were late but she let him walk away from the house and she didn't know where he was and that could the school please give her call if he showed up. She figured someone had picked him up and taken him to school. She wasn't even going to look for him!!?!?!

Can you believe that? I could have been a freak and he got right in my jeep. She could be in the position right now to be calling the police because he's GONE. She could be at the morge identifying him.

But no, he's at school because obviously I cared more about him than she did.

What the heck is wrong with people?
 

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OMG, that just gives me such a sick feeling. How can people be so careless with a precious little person?! God, how can people be so irresponsible?!

TT, I'm with you. I just don't get it.
 

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Ugh. That's scary.
And people sometimes say I'm overprotective. Sorry, there's just too many nutjobs out there. If I sometimes watch out for my child a little too carefully...wait, IS there such a thing?
 

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Sometimes, the freaks aren't the people trolling in their cars.
Sometimes, the freaks are the parents.
 

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Um, chill out? He got to school okay, just like he ought to have.
 

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The point is clary, anyone could have picked him up. As luck would have it, I didn't have anything extra to do after I dropped off my son and I picked him up.

Chill out? Nice attitude. I'm sure that's what his idiot mother is thinking now that the school is on her back.
 
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I think we can safely say that the story above is the reason why some people just shouldn't be parents.
 

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I don't get it either when a parent leaves a child inside a locked car during the middle of summer only to return an hour later and discover the child dead. This happens a lot in Arizona.
 

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dclary said:
Um, chill out? He got to school okay, just like he ought to have.
Dave, I'm with TinyTerror on this one. I can't understand your attitude. Chill out? That's freaking insane. I have a question for you. Are you a parent? If you were then you'd understand why TT was upset.
 

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dclary said:
Um, chill out? He got to school okay, just like he ought to have.

I think Dave is still high on Bottle Caps and Laffy Taffy from last night.
 

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Why are people like this able to have children but those who will love and cherish them can't? I don't get it, and it's so unfair. She let him go knowing he was late? OMG. That makes me want to hurt that mother.
 

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The whole thing made me feel sick. Just letting a little one wander alone like that by a busy highway? Aaaargh. My head is going to explode.

Thank God you saw him, TT. That is just horrible.
 

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This stuff is all too common. It happens every single day - at every single school.

When my oldest daughter was in kindergarden, my brother was killed in a car accident in Idaho, and I had to entrust my ex-husband to get our kid to school for a few days, (in Vegas,) so I could go to the funeral.

After a day or two, I checked my messages and learned that the school had called me, because my daughter had fell off of her stepbrothers bike on the way to school that morning, and her leg was cut and bleeding. (Stepbrother was in 3rd grade.) They were calling me because my ex-husband and his wife didn't have a phone. They had no problem sending my 6 year old daughter off with a 9 year old boy on his bike - through the streets of Las Vegas, to school. I called my ex-husband at work and told him what I thought of his and his wifes parenting skills.

Lord knows I was going through enough with my brother's death.

So, you'd think the next day - everything would be handled - right? Wrong. Again, the school calls and leaves a message on my answering machine. (This was before cell phones, mind you.) It seems that my 6 year old daughter had been walking to school alone, and picked up by a woman who just happened to drive by. The woman drove her to school and stopped in to give head's up to the principal.

During this time, I was in a custody battle with my ex-husband, and believe me, these things were just a sample of how wonderful my ex was at parenting. Nevertheless - the judge never changed custody from joint to my having primary custody.

Even on the days my husband had my daughter, the judge told me to "drive over to his house and follow her to school in your car - to make sure she gets there ok. Don't pick her up, though. It's his day to see her, not yours."


That's Las Vegas for you.
 

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And there was an incident with my second daughter, here in Missisippi, when she was in kindergarden.

We lived two blocks from the school and I was/am a stay at home mom. I always walked my daughter to school. Anyway - one day the nurse called and told me that my daughter was sick. I told her that I'd come immediately and pick her up.

I changed clothes, and within minutes, I was in the car - headed that way. When I got to the corner of our street - my daughter (age 5,) was crossing the last street home. I almost went into shock when I saw her. I stopped and picked her up. When I got home, I called my husband at work - who became so shook up by the news - that he came home early.

I sent a letter to my daughters school the next day - and within minutes after the bell rang, the teacher called me, completely shaken. She apologized profusely, and a few minutes later, the principal called and did the same. She thanked me for not freaking out, and for understanding what happened.

What happened was, my daughter knew that I was coming to get her - but nobody told her to wait for me. She was so small - she walked past the receptionists desk and nobody saw her. She crossed 4 streets before I saw her on our street.

Scary? Absolutely horrifying.

Because of this incident : the school changed it's policies. After that, whenever a child went anywhere - from the nurses office to the principles office - to the bathroom - she was escorted by another child.
 

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SpookyWriter said:
Dave, I'm with TinyTerror on this one. I can't understand your attitude. Chill out? That's freaking insane. I have a question for you. Are you a parent? If you were then you'd understand why TT was upset.

I am still making installment payments on Clonie. It should be born about Christmas next year, we're guessing.

That said, I don't plan on raising my child any differently than I was raised. Rugged individualism is not taught from the safety of apron strings.
 

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dclary said:
That said, I don't plan on raising my child any differently than I was raised. Rugged individualism is not taught from the safety of apron strings.

He's in second grade. But have fun. I find people who have not raised a child gloating about what they're going to do when they have children laughable.

Hey, teach your kindergardener to hitch-hike to school. After all, let's be rugged individuals.
 
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How to Raise Kids, the Rugged Individualist Way:

Make sure you chuck your kid in the middle of the lake at age 2. He's gotta to learn to swim. Don't look back while you row back to shore.

Kids eat. Alot. By age 3, your kid should be expected to use the stove to create a four-course dinner. Works best when said kid is left home alone to do so.

Darn mall parking lots. You can never get a spot close to the door. By age 4, you should certainly allow your kid to move the car for you when you'd rather not walk all the way to the back lot.

By 5, your kid should be able to handle a cheek full of chewing tobacky and a night at the local tavern.

Enjoy every minute! They grow up so darn fast. :)
 

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dclary said:
That said, I don't plan on raising my child any differently than I was raised. Rugged individualism is not taught from the safety of apron strings.

second grade is 6 or 7 years old! individualism or not you dont put a six year old out there by himself on a highway and hope he will turn up okay at the school - not in todays society. would you say the same thing if the boy disappears or turns up dead or raped or whatever? omg. a six year old needs his apron strings, thank you
 
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Nevermind the fact that the tot got in a JEEP with a lady who goes by the nickname "TINY TERROR!"


Which just goes to show that while she probably looks like a sweet little thing, she does have the ability to put some hurtin on people, and looks can be deceiving. And the little boy shouldn't be getting in anyone's car.
 

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Tiny Terror, thank you for doing that parent's job. It's funny, you need a license to operate a car, but anyone with working equipment can have kids. I am so glad you were there for this little boy - such awful things happen to children, and you may have saved his life.

Now here's hoping his mother will get some kind of help before he gets hurt.
 

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Well done, Tiny. My daughter is 7, in grade 2, and I can't imagine letting her out the door, alone, on a wing and a prayer. How can any parent rest if they aren't sure their child is safe, especially at that age? 6 or 7 is so young.
 
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