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I heard a story on NPR last night and it made me think. The story was about a woman who was diagnosed with severe bipolar disorder and had to be institutionalized, even going so far as to have electroshock therapy. She spoke about the stress it put on her family and her marriage, the angry fights between her husband and her, etc. And somehow, this all sounded totally new to her, as if she had never had a single disagreement with her husband ever before.
But to the point...
Recently, my better half was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Since then, we've been having some serious marital difficulties - stress, fights, the whole magilla. But it's certainly not like we were the perfect couple before the diagnosis. We both come from alcholic families and have a whole mess of problems relating to other people as a result.
So here's my question:
Why is it that any time you read or hear about someone grappling with mental illness, they paint their lives as nearly perfect until they became ill? I mean, let's be candid here - is it unreasonable to think that the illness came from somewhere or that it was showing itself the whole time through and it was only some heroic denial that made things seem so bright?
Or is it just that the torture of dealing with mental illness makes those prior torturous years seem cheery by comparison?
Or maybe I just feel like bitching and this is a good opportunity to do so.
*shrug*
But to the point...
Recently, my better half was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Since then, we've been having some serious marital difficulties - stress, fights, the whole magilla. But it's certainly not like we were the perfect couple before the diagnosis. We both come from alcholic families and have a whole mess of problems relating to other people as a result.
So here's my question:
Why is it that any time you read or hear about someone grappling with mental illness, they paint their lives as nearly perfect until they became ill? I mean, let's be candid here - is it unreasonable to think that the illness came from somewhere or that it was showing itself the whole time through and it was only some heroic denial that made things seem so bright?
Or is it just that the torture of dealing with mental illness makes those prior torturous years seem cheery by comparison?
Or maybe I just feel like bitching and this is a good opportunity to do so.
*shrug*