Why can't people just be nice?

Did you make your effort to get pregnant known and a topic of discussion?

Well, then people discuss it and offer their opinions.

And with that, you get the opinions you agree with and the ones that you don't.

Maybe you are sharing too much personal info with people.

I don't know that it can always be attributed to folks being mean. I know that men, generally, are often accused of being insensitive to some expressed issues. In our case (at least sometimes/often) it's not that we're insensitive to your feelings as much as it is we're in a hurry to fix you up - to make you feel better - to solve the problem.

We don't like spending precious minutes talking about, or listening to, unhappy feelings. We'd rather just identify the problem, apply some emotional duct tape to remedy it, and get back to the important stuff like the ball game or maybe some neck nuzzling.

Of course, as we mature, we learn that the above behaviour is Just Plain Wrong so we learn to listen, murmur, hold hands and/or hug for as long as necessary, hardly fidgeting at all.

Hero, man I like everyone around here, but you really push it. Why must you jump on every thread and take the most offensive stance possible? Would it kill you to AGREE with someone? Jeeeez.

That personal attack is uncalled for.

My first one ever. That should tell you something.

Christine, maybe you need to take a look in the mirror. You aren't exactly being all sweetness and light yourself.

Actually, HFS is right, though. If you give personal information, you have to expect a response.

scfirenice said:

My first one ever. That should tell you something.

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You're second to be accurate, though thinly veiled as it was.

Either that or there are going to be a lot of locked threads today

Your liberal use of the ignore function simply illustrates the fact that you only want to hear what you want to hear and other opinions are not welcome.

Christine N. said:

I'm just saying that in general most people ARE nice. Even if they can't relate to a situation, they are sympathetic, or just don't say anything, while others say things like "that's stupid" or "Why are you so upset about something so ridiculous". My sister does that to me all the time, and it's infuriating, because whenever SHE'S got some crisis, I would never tell her that. I try to help, or at least just be an ear to bend, even if I think it's minor I TRY to be nice. Telling someone things are just stupid is just mean.

I just don't get it.

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You are right about people, in general. Nice people will always start off with a sympathetic comment or offer some pearly wisdom. Not everyone is nice though and so sometimes you must expect a nasty reply or snide remark meant to hurt you. Difficult situation when it's family or friends though. Best wishes, ...

Putting people on your ignore list is not very nice. I have no one on mine, and I have been on these boards for quite some time, reading what I considered silly or stupid posts, but RARELY do you hear me say anything.

Yesterday was an exception and I apologize if I hurt Alan's feelings.

The rest of you sour pusses can go suck a lemon.

Well many people are mean just for the fun of it....they are on some kind of power trip, which to me is just wrong. I'm not any better than the next person nor will I even attempt to be...

I'm a very nice, generous person...care about others, ect. But I guess some people are mean because they choose to be.

Jean Marie said:

Either that or there are going to be a lot of locked threads today

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Eraser will earn his money. Oh wait....

Take what I have to say with a grain of salt: I have been in very uncomfortable positions on this board. I have received negative points, too. I've been very frustrated in the past, because the words I put down on the thread didn't actually represent clearly how I felt that I stood on a particular subject.

The best thing to do is take a break from posting, or take a break from the board. Put things in perspective.



This is not meant to anyone in particular - but some of the other threads have been locked (and for good reason.)


Once the snowball effect starts - and it happens quickly - it's best to get the heck out of the way for awhile -


There are a few posters on this site who love to pile on. It always happens. The person on the bottom changes frequently, but the ones piling on the top are usually the same.

Yep....life's too short to worry about the little things.

Christine,

I think this is a difficult subject for alot of people to talk about because it does require one to see things from a certain perspective, the other person's moccasins. Empathy is a trait that many have either in a very small amount or almost none at all. Empathy is risky, an empathetic person might end up not giving their viewpoint, and that is challenging for many people. I think many see empathy as a weakness and because our world is soooooo competitive, something to be avoided if at all possible.

When a person is empathetic, it often seems to be the road less traveled and is not very reciprocated. I think an empathetic person runs the risk of getting hurt easily and feeling left out because others aren't inclined to be so sensitive. Empathy requires sacrifice of self, and in this day and age, Self is a god worshipped by many. Community that is based on serving one another, caring for the needs of others and sacrificing for the good of others is not really the ideal.

When a person is truelly empathetic, it takes strength, compassion and wisdom to accept the insensitivity of others, be open to their viewpoint and communicate, in love of self and others, what you're true feelings are. When you tell others what your needs are and that you would appreicate others consideration, they won't have to wonder what is wrong and you won't feel slighted.

Just my opinion, hope some of what I said helped.

kid

Dang!

I wake up from my nap to look-see what’s new and I see nothing but fire and smoke.
Who’s mad at whom?

It’s probably too much vitamins what caused this.?

There are a few posters on this site who love to pile on. It always happens. The person on the bottom changes frequently, but the ones piling on the top are usually the same.

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Oh, and another thing: Back off from posting, even if the only reason is that you want to watch the people attacking you get into trouble again.


And, they will.


Again - some peole are always on the attack with someone - and it doesn't have to be you.

It's fun to watch when it isn't you - you see the parallels.


If you want to be the person in the hole, you know - the one a group of people at the top are throwing spoiled fruits and vegetables and fish heads at - go ahead.


It's your choice. really.

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Eraser will earn his money. Oh wait....

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Jenna loosens the shock collar as a reward