As I've gotten older and more experienced, I've improved at spotting liars. There are certain things I've noticed people do, or angles that people take, that fairly shriek "I'm lying!" Since I find this amusing (when it's not infuriating) I thought I'd share a few of the tell-tales I've learned over the years, and ask you all to share any you're aware of.
Two sides to every story/you don't know whole story
Someone who is outed for a misdeed offers an "explanation" that sounds like this. "Well, there are two sides to every story. You've only heard one side of the story. If you knew my side, you wouldn't think that. If you knew the whole story, you'd know I'm innocent! Very few people know the real truth. The truth is out there. It will come out! The side you heard is only half the story." Of course the person alluding to this mysterious, untold other side -- which if known would prove her innocence -- never really explains what that truth, or what her side of the story, actually is.
It's all really complicated. You wouldn't understand.
This one is often part of "you don't know the whole story," cover up. The liar's side of the story is so complicated she just doesn't have time to go into it, and if she did, why, it's so complex that your simple brain could barely process it. Besides, she's much too overwhelmed to explain because ....
My dog is deathly ill/I've been in a head-on crash/my mother-in-law is in hospice
A liar who is called to account gives a sob story instead of working to make things right. You request some completely reasonable resolution and they cry tragedy and demand sympathy in hopes that their feigned "delicate emotional state" will trick you into not holding them accountable.
You can trust me, I'm a _________ (insert religion here)
This is the go-to lie of skeezy contractors and door-to-door salespeople. "You can trust me because" is the sound a scam artist makes when he's getting good and ready to rip you off.
I'm so offended that you even think that!
Someone's wrongdoing comes to light and rather than an explanation or apology, they turn the tables and make you the criminal for daring to even suggest such a thing. The more dead to rights you have them, the more highly offended they are that you would think that of them. The closer you are to the truth, the louder and more belligerent their high dudgeon.
Too much detail
This is the opposite angle of "it's all too complex for you to possibly understand why I'm innocent." This is where the person throws in a ton of pointless detail, much of it truth mixed in with the lies. When you point out the parts that are lies, they''ll point to the true parts and insist that it's proof of their veracity.
Let's have fun with liars. How do you know when you're being lied to?
Two sides to every story/you don't know whole story
Someone who is outed for a misdeed offers an "explanation" that sounds like this. "Well, there are two sides to every story. You've only heard one side of the story. If you knew my side, you wouldn't think that. If you knew the whole story, you'd know I'm innocent! Very few people know the real truth. The truth is out there. It will come out! The side you heard is only half the story." Of course the person alluding to this mysterious, untold other side -- which if known would prove her innocence -- never really explains what that truth, or what her side of the story, actually is.
It's all really complicated. You wouldn't understand.
This one is often part of "you don't know the whole story," cover up. The liar's side of the story is so complicated she just doesn't have time to go into it, and if she did, why, it's so complex that your simple brain could barely process it. Besides, she's much too overwhelmed to explain because ....
My dog is deathly ill/I've been in a head-on crash/my mother-in-law is in hospice
A liar who is called to account gives a sob story instead of working to make things right. You request some completely reasonable resolution and they cry tragedy and demand sympathy in hopes that their feigned "delicate emotional state" will trick you into not holding them accountable.
You can trust me, I'm a _________ (insert religion here)
This is the go-to lie of skeezy contractors and door-to-door salespeople. "You can trust me because" is the sound a scam artist makes when he's getting good and ready to rip you off.
I'm so offended that you even think that!
Someone's wrongdoing comes to light and rather than an explanation or apology, they turn the tables and make you the criminal for daring to even suggest such a thing. The more dead to rights you have them, the more highly offended they are that you would think that of them. The closer you are to the truth, the louder and more belligerent their high dudgeon.
Too much detail
This is the opposite angle of "it's all too complex for you to possibly understand why I'm innocent." This is where the person throws in a ton of pointless detail, much of it truth mixed in with the lies. When you point out the parts that are lies, they''ll point to the true parts and insist that it's proof of their veracity.
Let's have fun with liars. How do you know when you're being lied to?
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