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I just saw a clip that really got me down and made me realize something that is probably at the source of all the violence and hatred in this world. I'm in a total swivet over this because it's so global and omnipresent and permanent.
A friend on Facebook shared a clip of a man angrily running at two other young men who are doing something with his front tire. He attacks and they try to keep a distance, but stay close so they can manage to point out to him: he had a flat, and they were volunteering to change it. As a nice surprise or whatever.
The car owner's reaction wasn't unusual, and that's what got me so bad. We live in a world, or in a mindset, where we expect bad things, bad intentions, bad deeds, way more easily and frequently than we do kindness or innocence. We see someone too close to our stuff and we feel threatened. A man approaches a woman and she immediately assumes she'll have to squirm her way out of sexual harassment. Your boss takes you aside for a talk, and you immediately fear you're being fired or warned. Your crush disappears on Whatsapp and you immediately think he blocked you when he's only deleted the app so he can focus on his exams.
And are there ever inciting incidents that turn our trust in the good in people, into this natural, automatic expectation of the bad? Are there, really? Is growing up and facing reality enough to become so fearful? Or are we inherently this broken?
A friend on Facebook shared a clip of a man angrily running at two other young men who are doing something with his front tire. He attacks and they try to keep a distance, but stay close so they can manage to point out to him: he had a flat, and they were volunteering to change it. As a nice surprise or whatever.
The car owner's reaction wasn't unusual, and that's what got me so bad. We live in a world, or in a mindset, where we expect bad things, bad intentions, bad deeds, way more easily and frequently than we do kindness or innocence. We see someone too close to our stuff and we feel threatened. A man approaches a woman and she immediately assumes she'll have to squirm her way out of sexual harassment. Your boss takes you aside for a talk, and you immediately fear you're being fired or warned. Your crush disappears on Whatsapp and you immediately think he blocked you when he's only deleted the app so he can focus on his exams.
And are there ever inciting incidents that turn our trust in the good in people, into this natural, automatic expectation of the bad? Are there, really? Is growing up and facing reality enough to become so fearful? Or are we inherently this broken?