I know you are excited about the forthcoming article, but here a few more thoughts:
You are not required to send any kind of thank-you message.
No, not required, but we think it's extremely nice, especially after all the horrible things people say about journalists most of the time. Thank you notes/emails make our day.
Most people interviewed never thank the reporter.
True, but see above.
Don't send a note before the article appears, because that can look like you're pressuring the reporter to say nice things.
It can be taken either way.
Don't call the reporter before the article appears to learn its status. If you must, you might ask about date of publication, but even that can be perceived as exerting a little pressure.
It can be frustrating, especially if an article has been put off for awhile by our editors.
You'd be surprised at how many interviewees mistake a reporter for a publicist. It is not the reporter's job to promote you or your business--no matter what friendly feelings may have arisen between you.
That's true, but I enjoy working with willing, interesting, excited interviewees. However, there are some who get a bit crazy. (I'm sure that's not you, Fenika!)
The tea comes with the territory.