Sometimes, it takes forever to make a decision.

Such decisions are never easy. Be sure to treat yourself with very gentle care as you recover.

If it's any consolation, know that your "friends" here are sending supportive, positive and healing vibes your way, Sweetie.

Some decisions, it's good to take your time. You'll always know you considered every possible aspect, and this will be a strength, I expect.

I'm sure there's a bright future ahead for all of you.

Making the decision is always the hardest part, KTC. Be good to yourself, and lean on your friends . We love ya.

(((HUGS)))

You can't be someone you're not, whatever that may be for a given circumstance. But you can model for your kids what to do when you are in an untenable position and how to do it well.

Good luck. Be safe.

It will be alright, KTC. It will take some time to adjust, but as long as everyone's healthy, things will work out. Take care, man.

Hey Kevin, we're glad to have you here. So change away, take all day, but please, sir, stay.

Hang in there.

Sat Nam! (literally "Truth Name"--a Sikh greeting)

(((HUGS)))

Blessings,

Siri Kirpal

Life has a way of getting in the way of your best-laid plans. It just does.

If you're doing the right thing, you're doing the right thing, and all you can do is ride it out until things settle. Hope the trip is as short and smooth as possible for you.

It was my turn to go through that three years ago, and although I hope it's never anyone's turn, I got through it by looking forward to the growth and happiness of both of us. Although I couldn't see how her decision to leave was possibly what she really wanted, I hoped that what she was running toward would give her the happiness she'd not had even since before she found me. If she was that unhappy with me, what kind of marriage could we have had? As much as splitting up hurt, we parted before we became enemies. I hope the same thing has happened for you: even if you are not friends, I hope you are friendly.

to you, Kevin.

... all these hugs are unsettling.
I KNOW they are sincere and all,
but now I am wondering if the reply I am intending is.
Perhaps I am just about to go thru the motions of sympathy.
I know that is not the case, but can't help entertaining the notion.
Shameful to be sure. Anyway, stay strong. Writing is the important thing,
along with your happiness, and that of your kids. And I am sure they want
what is best for you. You are also a role model, like it or not. If they see you
taking measures to improve your lot then they will be inclined to do similar in
their own lives. Not just in relationships but with jobs, etc. Sure you've got re-
servations, despite it all. But that's only natural. Weigh the pluses against the
minuses and if you've got more of the former than you're good, as I'm sure is
the case. G'luck writer !

Good luck. The road may seem steep and hard now, but it smooths out after a bit. Hang in there and try not to dwell on the past. Yesterday is over...and the future is a clean slate. It's only what you make of it.

*hugs*