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Mariana
11-05-2013, 11:40 PM
Hi everyone!!
I'm writing a novel about a Japanese guy who lives in France and falls in love with a French girl and in the middle of the story they decide to marry. I was looking for wedding ceremonies etc and I found at the internet so beautiful pictures from shinto wedding so I decided that the marriage will take place in Japan thought the traditional way. Is there any Japanese who can help me with the details??? I found some facts through the net but I want more details about almost everything (dress, preparations, ceremony etc). To be more precise, I've been thinking for a contemporary Japanese way (combination of Shinto and Western style).

Thank you! :)

EMaree
11-06-2013, 12:55 AM
Sorry if you've already read these, but here's a simplified description (http://www.bbc.co.uk/religion/religions/shinto/ritesrituals/weddings.shtml) of the process, a more detailed description (http://kyoto-weddings.jp/ceremony-guide.html), and an article that includes information on the Western elements (http://www.japan-guide.com/e/e2061.html) that usually get combined.

Mariana
11-06-2013, 01:29 AM
Sorry if you've already read these, but here's a simplified description (http://www.bbc.co.uk/religion/religions/shinto/ritesrituals/weddings.shtml) of the process, a more detailed description (http://kyoto-weddings.jp/ceremony-guide.html), and an article that includes information on the Western elements (http://www.japan-guide.com/e/e2061.html) that usually get combined.

Any information is welcome!!! :)

kaitie
11-06-2013, 08:59 AM
This isn't about the ceremony itself (I haven't seen one), but something I do know is that the guests at the wedding give money to the bride and groom rather than gifts the way American ceremonies are done. And I'm not just talking twenty or fifty dollars. Three hundred, four hundred, more. A boss is expected to give more than a simple coworker, but even just a coworker would be expected to pay at least three hundred.

The logic goes that the Japanese have begun taking on more of the western style of super fancy weddings that cost a ridiculous amount, so the guests pay to offset the costs. The thing is, as the costs go up and guests pay more, the couples go for more lavish weddings, and so on until they are now spending ridiculous amounts and guests are paying more ridiculous amounts.

The money would usually be presented in cash in special envelopes. I'm fairly certain the guests usually also receive a small gift in return, but I'd have to check on that to be certain.

This is all just based on what I learned from a friend in Japan who had to attend three weddings in close proximity and complained about going broke.

Siri Kirpal
11-06-2013, 10:26 PM
Sat Nam! (literally "Truth Name"--a Sikh greeting)

I haven't attended one either, but I do have a book on kimonos that says the mothers of the bride and groom wear a special kimono--black with elaborate designs (the ones I've seen are scenic) at the hem.

Blessings,

Siri Kirpal

LupineMoon
11-20-2013, 05:31 AM
I recall very little of what I saw of my parents' wedding, except that my father who is Caucasian had a very hard time with the zori - the shoes - because his feet were so big that they mostly hung off the back.

They both wore the traditional outfits, my mother in her kimono and white tsunokakushi headdress-thing and my father in his hakama. There were vows which I don't think anyone understood, a priest and such. I'll have to ask for more details. Their western reception afterward was much more memorably, probably because I was much more familiar with the concept.