I am really, really spoiled by my husband. I never thought I'd be treated like this. I never thought my standard of living would be anything more than living hand-to-mouth and giving up one thing have another.
I know how fortunate I am.
But I am really frustrated. My husband spoils our daughter. My stepdaughter, technically. She's 9.
Part of me gets it. We have the money. She doesn't act like a spoiled little brat (yet.) Why not give her what she needs and then some? It isn't like we always say yes when we're shopping and she wants something. But...Christmas' and Birthdays are ridiculous. And we give her more spending money for vacations than I saw in a year of my childhood. On top of THAT we buy her other stuff while on vacation. And not to mention the random stuff throughout the year like a $150 deer head mounted on her wall. Yes, we have a strange child.
My husband swears that as soon as she starts acting entitled and spoiled, that's when it all stops.
But this Christmas is just way, way over the top. DH originally just wanted to get her a computer. She's starting to use ours for stuff. I was okay with that, especially since we're going used. But, DD says she wants an iPod Touch...so DH just bought her one of those too. And this was all after a good $400 set of jewelry.
Then there's the iPod accessories and other "little" stuff.
I think, and I hate this, but if I'm honest with myself, part of me is jealous as hell. Not because my life isn't amazing, but because I had it so different as a kid. I was the oldest, and still somehow I had hand-me-down clothes. I got one "big" gift at Christmas or for my Birthday, somewhere in the range probably of $50. If it was more, it was my Christmas AND Birthday present that year. We ate fish sticks and Roman Noodles (DD gets filet. Or salmon. Or crab meat and lobster and shrimp.)
She doesn't even know what she has. Not at all. I am afraid she's going to grow up to expect this kind of life rather than realizing she has to work for it. Despite the fact that my husband leads by example as a very hard worker and does make her help him do things - from changing the oil to mowing and cleaning up the yard and even takes her to a job site sometimes.
I guess it could go either way.
And I needed an outlet. Because no matter which way you look at it, since I don't bring in the real money, and let's face it, since I'm just the stepmom (even though DH does not treat me that way, nor does DD), there is nothing I can do about it.
I know how fortunate I am.
But I am really frustrated. My husband spoils our daughter. My stepdaughter, technically. She's 9.
Part of me gets it. We have the money. She doesn't act like a spoiled little brat (yet.) Why not give her what she needs and then some? It isn't like we always say yes when we're shopping and she wants something. But...Christmas' and Birthdays are ridiculous. And we give her more spending money for vacations than I saw in a year of my childhood. On top of THAT we buy her other stuff while on vacation. And not to mention the random stuff throughout the year like a $150 deer head mounted on her wall. Yes, we have a strange child.
My husband swears that as soon as she starts acting entitled and spoiled, that's when it all stops.
But this Christmas is just way, way over the top. DH originally just wanted to get her a computer. She's starting to use ours for stuff. I was okay with that, especially since we're going used. But, DD says she wants an iPod Touch...so DH just bought her one of those too. And this was all after a good $400 set of jewelry.
Then there's the iPod accessories and other "little" stuff.
I think, and I hate this, but if I'm honest with myself, part of me is jealous as hell. Not because my life isn't amazing, but because I had it so different as a kid. I was the oldest, and still somehow I had hand-me-down clothes. I got one "big" gift at Christmas or for my Birthday, somewhere in the range probably of $50. If it was more, it was my Christmas AND Birthday present that year. We ate fish sticks and Roman Noodles (DD gets filet. Or salmon. Or crab meat and lobster and shrimp.)
She doesn't even know what she has. Not at all. I am afraid she's going to grow up to expect this kind of life rather than realizing she has to work for it. Despite the fact that my husband leads by example as a very hard worker and does make her help him do things - from changing the oil to mowing and cleaning up the yard and even takes her to a job site sometimes.
I guess it could go either way.
And I needed an outlet. Because no matter which way you look at it, since I don't bring in the real money, and let's face it, since I'm just the stepmom (even though DH does not treat me that way, nor does DD), there is nothing I can do about it.