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I hate rejections.
I know, shocker there. No one likes rejections.
Unfortunately, I have yet to experience anything else as a writer. I'm not terribly prolific. I've only got four short stories making the rounds and one novel that just started making the query rounds in October.
However much I hate rejection, I feel better about my experience this week because of my son.
He's 17, and a senior in HS. He tried out for the Winter Percussion group at school. He has been playing the trumpet for eight years, but has never held a drum stick. He has rhythm, but no skill. 24 students tried out for 16 slots, so his chances of being cut were high even the best of cases.
It was the first time he took a chance on anything. He's never been one to take a risk. If it's not a sure thing, he doesn't even try. He was so certain he would make it and I tried to believe with him, but I knew it was a long shot.
He was cut from the group on Monday. He called me to pick him up after practice, and I could tell from his voice that he was on the verge of tears.
So, I showed him my writing submission log. All the rejections over the last six months or so that I have been seriously trying to market my writing. I asked him how he thought I handled each rejection.
He said "You just submit it again."
"Not quite," I said. "First, I cuss at my computer. Then I mentally kick myself for a while. 'You suck. You're never going to make it. You should just give up.' Sometimes, I even cry. THEN I send in another submission."
He said "But you never give up on anything, and you always tell me it doesn't do any good to say things like that."
I nodded. "You're right. I say that. And it doesn't do any good, but you may have noticed, I sometimes do things that aren't good. The truth is, that there is always that moment where I consider giving up, just like you do. Considering giving up isn't failure - only actually giving up is."
I think he got the point. He's going to try out for the musical's pit orchestra next week. It's less of a risk, since he'll be playing his trumpet, but it's a chance he wouldn't take the last three years.
Now, off to prepare another submission...
I know, shocker there. No one likes rejections.
Unfortunately, I have yet to experience anything else as a writer. I'm not terribly prolific. I've only got four short stories making the rounds and one novel that just started making the query rounds in October.
However much I hate rejection, I feel better about my experience this week because of my son.
He's 17, and a senior in HS. He tried out for the Winter Percussion group at school. He has been playing the trumpet for eight years, but has never held a drum stick. He has rhythm, but no skill. 24 students tried out for 16 slots, so his chances of being cut were high even the best of cases.
It was the first time he took a chance on anything. He's never been one to take a risk. If it's not a sure thing, he doesn't even try. He was so certain he would make it and I tried to believe with him, but I knew it was a long shot.
He was cut from the group on Monday. He called me to pick him up after practice, and I could tell from his voice that he was on the verge of tears.
So, I showed him my writing submission log. All the rejections over the last six months or so that I have been seriously trying to market my writing. I asked him how he thought I handled each rejection.
He said "You just submit it again."
"Not quite," I said. "First, I cuss at my computer. Then I mentally kick myself for a while. 'You suck. You're never going to make it. You should just give up.' Sometimes, I even cry. THEN I send in another submission."
He said "But you never give up on anything, and you always tell me it doesn't do any good to say things like that."
I nodded. "You're right. I say that. And it doesn't do any good, but you may have noticed, I sometimes do things that aren't good. The truth is, that there is always that moment where I consider giving up, just like you do. Considering giving up isn't failure - only actually giving up is."
I think he got the point. He's going to try out for the musical's pit orchestra next week. It's less of a risk, since he'll be playing his trumpet, but it's a chance he wouldn't take the last three years.
Now, off to prepare another submission...