Fahim said:
My experiences usually have been people contacting me and asking me to add my site to their database
And it's usually something like Realty Database etc. which has nothing at all to do with what I write about. Honestly, I don't like to contact people and ask them to put a link to my site on their blog - seems a bit too much of an intrusion. If they find my site, like it and link to it, that's fine with me. That's what I do with other people's sites too. If I like it, I link to them but don't ask them to reciprocate. It's up to them whether they add a link or not. But of course, that's just me
I don't see a problem with contacting someone to be added and vice versa, to me it's about getting the site out there. I don't regard it as an intrusion - nothing ventured nothing gained.
Like I've said, I've only been contacted by people who have royalty sites and I've only contacted people who have royalty sites. There aren't that many royalty blogs out there, at least I haven't found many, and I have commented on some of the blogs, without being put on their links list. Some don't allow comments for whatever reason, so that would make it difficult to develop a relationship.
One way that I have tried to develop relationships with other sites is I once did a 'recommended royalty sites' post and 'discovering royalty' where I did write about the various sites out there that I enjoyed. Hopefully that does develop some type of relationship. Although despite doing that and emailing them, I'm still not listed - oh well! I still enjoy their sites nonetheless.
I have more websites listed, mainly because they're more plentiful and unless I do contact them, they have no way of knowing whether my site exists.
For etiquette, it would be better if someone began their request with "I'm a fan of your site..blah blah blah...would you add me to your site, I'll do the same in return.." That way there shouldn't be any offence either way.
Dawno, if it hasn't already, maybe a thread should be started on blogging etiquette