Man takes g-friend & kids to see Batman, shooting starts, he ditches them, & later proposes marriage

Plot Device · Jul 25, 2012

Man takes g-friend & kids to see Batman, shooting starts, he ditches them, & later proposes marriage

Should she accept his proposal of marriage?? (Thread poll question.)

She already said "Yes," but the internet is full of thousands of people who are blogging and postinng and Tweeting to her "PLEASE DON'T MARRY THE BUM!!"

http://www.theblaze.com/stories/an-...y-man-after-he-ditched-her-in-aurora-theater/

(Link conbtains two separate video interviews.)

An Awkward Engagement: Woman Agrees to Marry Man…After He Ditched Her in Aurora Theater

by Mytheos Holt -- July 24, 2012

Jamie Rohrs, of Aurora, Colorado, took his girlfriend Patricia Legarreta to a midnight showing of “The Dark Knight Rises,” as you might expect many boyfriends did as a date. In fact, in a mildly kind gesture, he also brought both Legarreta and her two young children.

But then the shooting which has rocked the nation happened, and Mr. Rohrs demonstrated that, far from being kind, he actually might be exactly the wrong person for someone to date. According to reports, Mr. Rohrs not only didn’t try to protect his girlfriend or her children, but he actually rushed for the exit and got into his car, leaving them behind.

Fortunately for Leggareta, there was someone in the theater who was willing to try and help them – a 19-year-old college student named Jarell Brooks who escorted her and her children to the exit, where miraculously enough, the Leggaretas escaped the shooting virtually unharmed. Brooks, however, took a bullet to the leg.

Which brings us back to Mr. Rohrs. Despite his earlier show of cowardice, or perhaps because of it, Rohrs found his girlfriend and her kids at the hospital, and once there, he made the rather counterintuitive move of proposing marriage to Leggareta. And rather than slapping him for leaving her there, she apparently said, “Yes....”

fireluxlou · Jul 25, 2012

There's already a thread on him and what he did, and we've talked about it extensively. I don't have the energy any more. Except all the talk was basically victim blaming on what people thought he should have done, when no one knows.

Plot Device · Jul 25, 2012

fireluxlou said:
There's already a thread on him and what he did, and we've talked about it extensively. I don't have the energy any more. Except all the talk was basically victim blaming on what people thought he should have done, when no one knows.

Sorry I missed the thread. :e2paperba

Roger J Carlson · Jul 25, 2012

Well, either she's a wacko or she knows something about the incident and her finance's actions that all of us opining on the internet don't.

Alpha Echo · Jul 25, 2012

Plot Device said:
Sorry I missed the thread.

How could you???

:tongue

Plot Device · Jul 25, 2012

I found the other thread. It's the one with the word "Counter-irritant" in the title. I mistook that thread for another one and never even read that one.

William Haskins · Jul 25, 2012

most people should turn down marriage proposals. but i don't get involved because it's none of my fucking business.

Xelebes · Jul 25, 2012

Her finance's actions are probably all messed up.

Chrissy · Jul 25, 2012

I've heard that making a major life decision after a traumatic event isn't necessarily a good idea.

But, best of luck to them.

fireluxlou · Jul 25, 2012

Plot Device said:
Sorry I missed the thread.

Here you go

Alpha Echo · Jul 25, 2012

Chrissy said:
I've heard that making a major life decision after a traumatic event isn't necessarily a good idea.

But, best of luck to them.

This was my thought also.

clintl · Jul 25, 2012

It's for them to decide, and not for any of us to judge.

Monkey · Jul 25, 2012

I'm not surprised he proposed to her. As I said in the other thread, that woman is BOSS. A hero.

At least in terms of "handling a crisis," this man is swinging way out of his league. But we don't know anything else about their relationship. He may be fantastic in other ways.

And I wonder, when it comes down to it, what we'd say if the roles had been reversed. What if she'd been the one to panic and bolt, and he'd stayed behind to shield the children with his body even after taking shrapnel to the leg? Would we think it odd if she was so impressed with him that she asked him to marry her? (Other than a woman being the one to propose marriage, I mean?)

IMO, the dude's acting sensibly this time.

TerzaRima · Jul 25, 2012

The time for him to propose to that poor woman would be before she had his kid.

And my heart shrank three sizes this day!

dolores haze · Jul 25, 2012

If it was me I don't think I could get by it. Probably not every minute of every day, but I think there would be too many times when I'd think: "you just left us there." Yes, I have read the other thread. Yes, I am being judgmental.

frimble3 · Jul 25, 2012

The older child is what, four years old? So she's known him for a while, and has a clearer idea what he's like than those few horrible minutes showed.
And, they've had a few days to deal with explanations/recriminations/emotions.
If it was a first date? That's a different story.

Roger J Carlson · Jul 25, 2012

dolores haze said:
If it was me I don't think I could get by it. Probably not every minute of every day, but I think there would be too many times when I'd think: "you just left us there." Yes, I have read the other thread. Yes, I am being judgmental.

Perhaps your memory of the events of that evening are different than hers.

Plot Device · Jul 25, 2012

I can't get over the fact that he drove off. It's one thing to be separated in the crush of a panicked crowd. It's another thing entirely to go and find the car, get in, and drive away.

Devil Ledbetter · Jul 25, 2012

How is this any of our business, anyway?

It'd be more fair if we set up referendums on each others marriages and long-term relationships because hey, at least we know each other a little bit.

Roger J Carlson · Jul 25, 2012

Plot Device said:
I can't get over the fact that he drove off. It's one thing to be separated in the crush of a panicked crowd. It's another thing entirely to go and find the car, get in, and drive away.

I don't see anything that says he drove away.

fireluxlou · Jul 25, 2012

Eh I don't see where it's our place to judge a victim and his reactions to such a horrific crime or judge his fiance as if we know what is best for her and their family. And make life decisions for her. I do think the poll is kind of crass. I'd understand if it were a celebrity.

Roger J Carlson · Jul 25, 2012

Devil Ledbetter said:
How is this any of our business, anyway?

It'd be more fair if we set up referendums on each others marriages and long-term relationships because hey, at least we know each other a little bit.

Nuh-uh! You'd prolly all vote to have my wife dump me. Not that it wouldn't be to her advantage, but still...

Cyia · Jul 25, 2012

Plot Device said:
I can't get over the fact that he drove off. It's one thing to be separated in the crush of a panicked crowd. It's another thing entirely to go and find the car, get in, and drive away.

Not really. It all comes down to the fight or flight response.

I've seen reports that say it's a 95%/5% split in favor of flight. (the other 5% are those who usually become firefighters, police officers, 1st responder type of people).

Among the 95%, there's another extreme 5% that locks down completely. This is where you get instances like the man in question, or the mom who made a the news a few years ago when her house caught fire and she ran outside before remembering she had two children inside asleep. (The older of the two climbed in a 2nd story window to save the younger.)

The incident I got the 95/5 split point from involved a plane that crashed on the runway and caught fire; several of the passengers didn't even get out of their seats (as in, they died with their belts buckled despite the lack of obstructions that would have blocked their escape). It was mentioned then that psychologists consider this the extreme form of the flight response wherein a person's brain reacts like a computer with no input when placed under extreme, sudden stress. If there's no one to tell them what to do, the default is to flee or stay put until directed to do so.

Xelebes · Jul 25, 2012

Cyia said:
Not really. It all comes down to the fight or flight response.

I've seen reports that say it's a 95%/5% split in favor of flight. (the other 5% are those who usually become firefighters, police officers, 1st responder type of people).

Among the 95%, there's another extreme 5% that locks down completely. This is where you get instances like the man in question, or the mom who made a the news a few years ago when her house caught fire and she ran outside before remembering she had two children inside asleep. (The older of the two climbed in a 2nd story window to save the younger.)

The incident I got the 95/5 split point from involved a plane that crashed on the runway and caught fire; several of the passengers didn't even get out of their seats (as in, they died with their belts buckled despite the lack of obstructions that would have blocked their escape). It was mentioned then that psychologists consider this the extreme form of the flight response wherein a person's brain reacts like a computer with no input when placed under extreme, sudden stress. If there's no one to tell them what to do, the default is to flee or stay put until directed to do so.

Yep. Called stupor, I believe. It was what I eventually ended up doing during the violent days of youth.

kayleamay · Jul 25, 2012

Cyia said:
Not really. It all comes down to the fight or flight response.

I've seen reports that say it's a 95%/5% split in favor of flight. (the other 5% are those who usually become firefighters, police officers, 1st responder type of people).

Among the 95%, there's another extreme 5% that locks down completely. This is where you get instances like the man in question, or the mom who made a the news a few years ago when her house caught fire and she ran outside before remembering she had two children inside asleep. (The older of the two climbed in a 2nd story window to save the younger.)

The incident I got the 95/5 split point from involved a plane that crashed on the runway and caught fire; several of the passengers didn't even get out of their seats (as in, they died with their belts buckled despite the lack of obstructions that would have blocked their escape). It was mentioned then that psychologists consider this the extreme form of the flight response wherein a person's brain reacts like a computer with no input when placed under extreme, sudden stress. If there's no one to tell them what to do, the default is to flee or stay put until directed to do so.

Great post, Cyia.

I'm a first responder and I'm married to one of those "lockdown" types. Apparently, I shouldn't have married him despite the fact that he's an incredible husband, father and friend.

Man takes g-friend & kids to see Batman, shooting starts, he ditches them, & later proposes marriage

Should Patricia Legaretta marry Jamie Rohrs?

Yes, he's the father of their children

No, he's a coward and a bum

No, she should marry Jarell Brooks, the young man who saved her and her kids

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