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Okay, pressured might not be the right word. But it seems like any time I sit down and talk to friends or family about my writing, in particular the book with the agent, the person always asks me about self-publishing.
It's usually in the form of, "You know, a lot of people are making it really big with e-books right now," or "I've been hearing in the news about how nowadays the way to make money is to go through Amazon," or other variations of the same tune. Often, this isn't a one-time conversation, either. I'll talk to someone, they'll ask, I'll explain why I'm wary of self-publishing, and then they'll ask a few weeks later how the book's doing and I'll end up having the same conversation.
It shouldn't bother me, but it bugs me that people keep encouraging me to go down this path. I think what makes it difficult is that people always assume that this is the best path based on that news article they read or they heard from their friend who knows someone in publishing and so on. I've been actively learning about self-publishing for a year now, researching it and what it takes and who is successful and how and so on. And yet when I bring up concerns or point out that I'm not sure about it, people still say it as if it's an easy thing and I should just do it.
I have a couple of friends in particular (non-writers--it's different when a writer asks because they usually understand and genuinely are curious as to which path you're taking) who bring this up, and for some reason it always makes me feel like crap. Maybe it's because it makes me feel a little like they don't think I can succeed the old-fashioned way, or (more likely) because I think I'd fail horribly and self-publishing and then what would they think? I feel like they think I'm just dismissing their (in their eyes) great suggestions if I say I'm not interested, but I don't want to do it, either.
This is just something I've noticed a lot over the past few months, and I'm wondering if other people get similar comments from the lay-people in their lives. If so, how do you approach it? Is there a good way to handle it without being rude?
It's usually in the form of, "You know, a lot of people are making it really big with e-books right now," or "I've been hearing in the news about how nowadays the way to make money is to go through Amazon," or other variations of the same tune. Often, this isn't a one-time conversation, either. I'll talk to someone, they'll ask, I'll explain why I'm wary of self-publishing, and then they'll ask a few weeks later how the book's doing and I'll end up having the same conversation.
It shouldn't bother me, but it bugs me that people keep encouraging me to go down this path. I think what makes it difficult is that people always assume that this is the best path based on that news article they read or they heard from their friend who knows someone in publishing and so on. I've been actively learning about self-publishing for a year now, researching it and what it takes and who is successful and how and so on. And yet when I bring up concerns or point out that I'm not sure about it, people still say it as if it's an easy thing and I should just do it.
I have a couple of friends in particular (non-writers--it's different when a writer asks because they usually understand and genuinely are curious as to which path you're taking) who bring this up, and for some reason it always makes me feel like crap. Maybe it's because it makes me feel a little like they don't think I can succeed the old-fashioned way, or (more likely) because I think I'd fail horribly and self-publishing and then what would they think? I feel like they think I'm just dismissing their (in their eyes) great suggestions if I say I'm not interested, but I don't want to do it, either.
This is just something I've noticed a lot over the past few months, and I'm wondering if other people get similar comments from the lay-people in their lives. If so, how do you approach it? Is there a good way to handle it without being rude?