It's still my privacy, which I value highly, and it puts me, the writer, at yet another disadvantage for no good purpose. I've no problem providing names after the fact, but there's no way they need to know names during the process. Period. (And why is standing up for having privacy and an advantage considered difficult to work with in the first place???? They're insisting on taking the advantage and violating my and their fellow agent's privacy? It used to be called being a good self-advocate, esp in business.)
It's a sensitive subject for me. I got burnt TWICE, and a few agents burnt themselves. (The top agent on my list had asked for names. When I told him who, he said, "Oh, well then. I'll just drop out. He's good, we're friends, and I don't want to get in his way." Then he hung up. But. Wait. NO! Then one unprofessionally smacktalked the offering agent. Pass for you, dear agent. And another, she heard I had an offer, and molested and berated my good friend publicly for the name. It was the single most unprofessional thing I've
ever seen. Then, I once saw two agents publically tweeting each other about a writer when that writer shared who'd offered. Nice.) So, yeah. No more offering up of names for me prior to signing, thanks. (Though. Dear gawd, please never let me be in a position for that to happen again, thankyouverymuch.)
Also. I'll fully admit, it gets my panties in a bunch when I hear the "just trying to protect you" and "make sure you're not lying" excuses. It's so insulting.
They can wonder about me all they want. But I'm a professional. I don't care what numbnuts have done before me. If you even suspect I'm unprofessional enough to not do my research or tell the truth, you should not be offering, never mind reading. Agents are not parents. They're fellow professionals. I treat them with respect, so I like to be treated w respect.
And I value my privacy.
If agents are Good, they don't need the advantage of knowing. It's not necessary then. And if they want to sign professionals, then they shouldn't be thinking of offering to anyone they can't trust, esp to query professionally.
And no, James. No one rejected me for not sharing. Quite the opposite.
*climbing down off soapbox*
Sorry. But it does. It gets my panties in bunches.
ETA- A good agent post on why other agents shouldn't ask--http://agencygatekeeper.blogspot.com/2010/10/how-to-handle-yeah-well-who-offered-you.html