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I have a story in which one of the protagonists is a gay male high school teacher. During the course of the story, he comes out because he enters into a relationship. The setting is a middle American small town (population 5 - 10k people).
Now, I live halfway across the world from the US and I was hoping for some help with realism.
From my own experiences and talks with two gay teachers from my high school, I got the impression that being gay was something that was gossiped about, talked about, but mostly in secret. Major excesses came rarely, in the form of disgruntled parents (only if they had issues with his child's grade, nothing in any other situation) or bad students who would make slurs.
My first professor is one everyone 'knows' she's gay, but no one has hard proof. She's taught in the same high school for 40 years so it's become a sort of 'myth' (she told me it's true she's lesbian). I got to talk to her about it, and mostly what I said above stands for her. The principal has never talked, or hinted about, her sexuality. She feels it's not because it's such a non-issue, but because it regarded as something shameful everyone sort of pretends it's not there.
The other teacher was a younger geography professor who currently has a same sex partner. He takes a little more heat and gossip from the younger crowd, but it's also not something that would be brought up in conversation as an issue for the principal. He is open about it in the teacher's lounge with other teachers who are more liberal. If he gets abuse, he deals with it on his own most of the time.
My only resources for behaviours towards gay teachers coming out are some movies (In & Out) and real newspaper stories from teachers who got a lot of public attention due to getting fired, suing their schools, parents with pitchforks etc... So my impression is mostly how coming out as a gay teacher could be a huge spectacle, and it seems like really extreme conservatives can have a bigger voice than when I'm from. And that's probably not true to most real life cases.
I'd probably have my character go through some gossip, staring, whispering. But I'd mostly leave him alone. I don't want to make it a major conflict, but I don't want to make it a non-issue if real life dictates it wouldn't be.
So, what do you feel a gay teacher would have to face after 'coming out' in a small US town? In and out of the workplace. I know there are anti-discriminatory laws for the workplace, but it's probably different than actual reality.
Thanks for your help and insight.
Now, I live halfway across the world from the US and I was hoping for some help with realism.
From my own experiences and talks with two gay teachers from my high school, I got the impression that being gay was something that was gossiped about, talked about, but mostly in secret. Major excesses came rarely, in the form of disgruntled parents (only if they had issues with his child's grade, nothing in any other situation) or bad students who would make slurs.
My first professor is one everyone 'knows' she's gay, but no one has hard proof. She's taught in the same high school for 40 years so it's become a sort of 'myth' (she told me it's true she's lesbian). I got to talk to her about it, and mostly what I said above stands for her. The principal has never talked, or hinted about, her sexuality. She feels it's not because it's such a non-issue, but because it regarded as something shameful everyone sort of pretends it's not there.
The other teacher was a younger geography professor who currently has a same sex partner. He takes a little more heat and gossip from the younger crowd, but it's also not something that would be brought up in conversation as an issue for the principal. He is open about it in the teacher's lounge with other teachers who are more liberal. If he gets abuse, he deals with it on his own most of the time.
My only resources for behaviours towards gay teachers coming out are some movies (In & Out) and real newspaper stories from teachers who got a lot of public attention due to getting fired, suing their schools, parents with pitchforks etc... So my impression is mostly how coming out as a gay teacher could be a huge spectacle, and it seems like really extreme conservatives can have a bigger voice than when I'm from. And that's probably not true to most real life cases.
I'd probably have my character go through some gossip, staring, whispering. But I'd mostly leave him alone. I don't want to make it a major conflict, but I don't want to make it a non-issue if real life dictates it wouldn't be.
So, what do you feel a gay teacher would have to face after 'coming out' in a small US town? In and out of the workplace. I know there are anti-discriminatory laws for the workplace, but it's probably different than actual reality.
Thanks for your help and insight.
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