I'm the worst daughter ever!

Victoria · Mar 31, 2011

I was supposed to take my family to my mother's house last night for chicken and dumplings, and I FORGOT!!!!! My phone was on silent for some reason, and I missed her calls. I just remembered and called her, said I was soooo sorry, and then I started bawling. We're going tonight, but I feel so awful. She worked so hard, she's 74, and I can just see her waiting, looking at the clock with the table all set...God, I want to jump in front of a bus! Please give me some ideas of how I can make it up to her. She's all I had growing up, and I feel like I shit on her. HELP!

backslashbaby · Mar 31, 2011

Oh! I want to hug you both. Chicken and dumplings, even? Y'all adopt me

You're lucky to have her, and she's lucky to have you appreciate it so. Really

I love that you bawled. Awwww! She knows you're sorry, I'm sure.

jvc · Mar 31, 2011

Cadbury creme eggs and baileys.

And give yourself a break. We all forget sometimes, it's all part of the wonderful world of life. She's your Mom, she loves you, and she understands.

CaroGirl · Mar 31, 2011

What does she love (aside from you

)? Take her shopping, out to dinner, for a drive through the countryside. Whatever she's into, spend some time doing it with her. I'm sure she knows you're sorry. We all screw up.

defyalllogic · Mar 31, 2011

oh that would feel bad. Sometime i just schedule things with my mom even if i don't need to do them just because i know she wants some time together. like going to the mall or getting our hair done or trying the crab cakes at a resaturaunt.

also just stopping by or inviting her over is nice.

good luck. she won't be mad but might be very hurt even though she know is was a mistake. it's not easy to know you kid just forgot about you.

good luck!

SWest · Mar 31, 2011

Flowers.

And a hug.

Add some extra play dates.

And let her laugh it off if that's her way (ask what vitamins she takes) - no point letting it drag on!

Niti Newtfinger · Mar 31, 2011

Eek! I did something similar once. She knows you love her, and it was an accident. Accidents happen, and you've already beat yourself up over it. I guess all you can do now is make it up to her by doing something else together. And this time, don't forget.

Haggis · Mar 31, 2011

What the dragon said.

mccardey · Mar 31, 2011

Awwww.... speaking as a mother of one of the worst daughters ever (no, not really) - she knows what you're like, she knows you love her to bits. She's got a whole lifetime of you to stack one missed dinner against.

I'll bet you feel worse about it than she does...

Ari Meermans · Mar 31, 2011

Awww, Honey, you feel much worse than she does. Don't beat yourself up anymore than you already have.

Seriously, it's not like you forgot to attend the surprise birthday party for her which you planned and for which you were supposed to bring the cake. *ahem*

Victoria · Mar 31, 2011

Okay, you guys are making me cry again. Thank you so much for all the support and suggestions. She loves to go antiquing, so I'll arrange an entire day, shopping, lunch, and lots of laughing. You all are great. Thanks again.

Ari Meermans · Mar 31, 2011

Laughing at all the pm's and the rep point. No, not me...mah youngun. She forgot to tell her dad and when folks started trooping up to our door, hilarity ensued. I'm just glad I was presentable. I don't think her brothers have let her live that one down.

Silver King · Mar 31, 2011

Something similar happened to me recently, but it was my mother who'd forgotten about our lunch date. She's usually punctual, so I started to worry when she she was thirty minutes late. I called her and asked where she was.

She said, "I'm at Red Lobster with your sisters."

I was silent for a moment, and she said, "Are you okay?"

"Oh, I'm fine."

"Why did call?"

"No reason. Just wanted to see what you were up to."

"I have to go. Our salads are coming. I'll call you later."

I stood in the kitchen staring at the food I'd prepared, feeling low and no longer hungry.

We laugh about her memory lapse now, but it wasn't funny to me at the time.

defyalllogic · Mar 31, 2011

Victoria said:
Okay, you guys are making me cry again. Thank you so much for all the support and suggestions. She loves to go antiquing, so I'll arrange an entire day, shopping, lunch, and lots of laughing. You all are great. Thanks again.

That should be perfect, but don't tell her you're only doing it to apologize, but to make up the time. an i'm sorry day isn't as sweet as a i'm sad i missed the time with you.

Also, she was supposed to see your kids, too right? grams love the kiddies!

Cella · Mar 31, 2011

Silver King said:
Something similar happened to me recently, but it was my mother who'd forgotten about our lunch date. She's usually punctual, so I started to worry when she she was thirty minutes late. I called her and asked where she was.

She said, "I'm at Red Lobster with your sisters."

I was silent for a moment, and she said, "Are you okay?"

"Oh, I'm fine."

"Why did call?"

"No reason. Just wanted to see what you were up to."

"I have to go. Our salads are coming. I'll call you later."

I stood in the kitchen staring at the food I'd prepared, feeling low and no longer hungry.

We laugh about her memory lapse now, but it wasn't funny to me at the time.

Awwww, SK

writerterri · Mar 31, 2011

Did you need some one to tell you how much you suck? And these are what pre senior moments are made of.

Feeling terrible is considered time served in this situation.

Don't do it again!

(((HUG)))

Haggis · Mar 31, 2011

Victoria, remember this day when your kids do it to you, sometime down the road. Then you'll realize just how forgiving your mom really was. And you'll be the same way to them.

Cella · Mar 31, 2011

Oh, I meant to hug Victoria, too :Hug2:

Haggis · Mar 31, 2011

Sure. Leave the Chihuey out.

mccardey · Mar 31, 2011

Haggis said:
Sure. Leave the Chihuey out.

Um - you know that a Chihuey is just something you hug if you don't have a Cavalier King Charles spaniel. I mean - you know that, right?

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Just sayin'...

Haggis · Mar 31, 2011

mccardey said:
Um - you know that a Chihuey is just something you hug if you don't have a Cavalier King Charles spaniel. I mean - you know that, right?

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Just sayin'...

A pox on your royalty.

Cella · Mar 31, 2011

Haggis

Haggis · Mar 31, 2011

Cella said:
Haggis

Cella

Cella · Mar 31, 2011

Haggis, you dog

NeuroFizz · Mar 31, 2011

Victoria, it's not true. The worst daughter ever would make up some lame excuse to avoid responsibility. You made a mistake. You faced up to it. That makes you an honest, caring daughter. And believe it or not, you set a good example for your children.

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