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This is actually the reason why I came here in the first place. I've been having a crippling case of writer's fear that I'm having trouble coping with. Since I don't have anyone in my life ATM who I can talk to about writing (some of them are outright opposed to me writing) I felt being here, with other writers, would help.
It has. At least I feel comfortable enough now to post about this. I've been trying to understand why I'm so afraid, and I may not have the whole answer, but I realized that it isn't just one thing that's bothering me, it's several things at once.
Fear of Being Unworthy
I have this little voice in the back of my head that constantly whispers "what if you're just not good enough?" I ignore it and keep writing/editing, and then that same voice asks "what gives you the gall to dare presume to be a writer?"
"What makes you so special? You think you can measure up to those people who are obviously more skilled, talented, devoted, and just plain BETTER than you? You'll never make it; it's stupid of you to even try."
This doesn't stop me from working, but when this anxiety gets bad it does slow me down and cause me to procrastinate.
Fear of Failure
While the previous fear is about me not feeling like I deserve to succeed, the fear of failure is about what would happen if I didn't. I'm sure many of you can relate to this one. I've sunk over a decade into writing, learning the craft, and striving to improve. That means a failure at this point will result in all that time, all that effort, being wasted.
Writing is what I want to do, and it is what makes me happy. However, without marketable job skills I'd be stuck with a "would you like fries with that?" kind of job were I to fail. I consider the reward of a fulfilling life doing what I love to be worth the risk, but I always have that fear in the back of my mind.
Fear of the Industry
I really have to stop doing this to myself. I read anything I can about the industry, hoping to understand it so I can be prepared for what I have to face.
The majority of the articles I read paint writing as a path of strife and suffering, something only a sheer lunatic would be dumb enough to pursue. Editors are soulless guardians of the publishing biz that will make it their life's work to keep you from success. Agents are aloof figures who might deign to give you the time of day if you sacrifice a goat while chanting their name.
Okay, so it's not quite so dramatic. The point is that a lot of what I've read portrays writing as a thankless, joyless profession that is nigh impossible to break into. A profession full of traps and pitfalls that will bury you forever. One mistake and you're out. This tone is especially apparent in the articles aimed at newcomers to show them the reality of the craft. One has to wonder: if the reality is truly so unforgiving, why would anyone do it? As for me, I try because I can't imagine myself doing anything else.
This has lead to my overblown perception of the publishing biz as this giant monster with claws and teeth that would delight in my suffering. Yet, oddly enough, even this does not discourage me outright. It scares the hell out of me, yes, but I still work and am determined to face this beast with everything I have. I'm just afraid that "everything I have" might not be enough in the end.
A Side Note
I've noticed that it's also a common problem for some writers to be overconfident, to believe so much in their work that they turn a blind eye to good advice.
I do not understand this mindset at all. Writing, for me, is a daily struggle to get up the nerve to even associate the word "writer" with myself. A part of me actually envies that way of thinking, as foolish as it is, because at least such a person doesn't have to deal with self-doubt and fear.
Conclusion
I deal with my fear well enough on my own. "Well enough", in this case, meaning that I don't stop writing and have no intention of quitting. However, the fear is a paralyzing influence that sometimes makes me put off work for a few hours, then a day, then a week, before I get up the nerve to try again.
I'm looking for information and strategies to help me combat the effects of this fear. I'm not sure if it can be eliminated, but at the very least I need to learn how to work in spite of it.
It has. At least I feel comfortable enough now to post about this. I've been trying to understand why I'm so afraid, and I may not have the whole answer, but I realized that it isn't just one thing that's bothering me, it's several things at once.
Fear of Being Unworthy
I have this little voice in the back of my head that constantly whispers "what if you're just not good enough?" I ignore it and keep writing/editing, and then that same voice asks "what gives you the gall to dare presume to be a writer?"
"What makes you so special? You think you can measure up to those people who are obviously more skilled, talented, devoted, and just plain BETTER than you? You'll never make it; it's stupid of you to even try."
This doesn't stop me from working, but when this anxiety gets bad it does slow me down and cause me to procrastinate.
Fear of Failure
While the previous fear is about me not feeling like I deserve to succeed, the fear of failure is about what would happen if I didn't. I'm sure many of you can relate to this one. I've sunk over a decade into writing, learning the craft, and striving to improve. That means a failure at this point will result in all that time, all that effort, being wasted.
Writing is what I want to do, and it is what makes me happy. However, without marketable job skills I'd be stuck with a "would you like fries with that?" kind of job were I to fail. I consider the reward of a fulfilling life doing what I love to be worth the risk, but I always have that fear in the back of my mind.
Fear of the Industry
I really have to stop doing this to myself. I read anything I can about the industry, hoping to understand it so I can be prepared for what I have to face.
The majority of the articles I read paint writing as a path of strife and suffering, something only a sheer lunatic would be dumb enough to pursue. Editors are soulless guardians of the publishing biz that will make it their life's work to keep you from success. Agents are aloof figures who might deign to give you the time of day if you sacrifice a goat while chanting their name.
Okay, so it's not quite so dramatic. The point is that a lot of what I've read portrays writing as a thankless, joyless profession that is nigh impossible to break into. A profession full of traps and pitfalls that will bury you forever. One mistake and you're out. This tone is especially apparent in the articles aimed at newcomers to show them the reality of the craft. One has to wonder: if the reality is truly so unforgiving, why would anyone do it? As for me, I try because I can't imagine myself doing anything else.
This has lead to my overblown perception of the publishing biz as this giant monster with claws and teeth that would delight in my suffering. Yet, oddly enough, even this does not discourage me outright. It scares the hell out of me, yes, but I still work and am determined to face this beast with everything I have. I'm just afraid that "everything I have" might not be enough in the end.
A Side Note
I've noticed that it's also a common problem for some writers to be overconfident, to believe so much in their work that they turn a blind eye to good advice.
I do not understand this mindset at all. Writing, for me, is a daily struggle to get up the nerve to even associate the word "writer" with myself. A part of me actually envies that way of thinking, as foolish as it is, because at least such a person doesn't have to deal with self-doubt and fear.
Conclusion
I deal with my fear well enough on my own. "Well enough", in this case, meaning that I don't stop writing and have no intention of quitting. However, the fear is a paralyzing influence that sometimes makes me put off work for a few hours, then a day, then a week, before I get up the nerve to try again.
I'm looking for information and strategies to help me combat the effects of this fear. I'm not sure if it can be eliminated, but at the very least I need to learn how to work in spite of it.