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So from time to time I see us discussing this topic and I'm putting this here so SK or OFG can port it somewhere else if it doesn't belong.
Having said that, I just want to say, please PLEASE do not bicker.
Yeah right...right?
I had an experience recently with a guy. (shock I know, I said I'd never venture that direction again) But something is really nagging at me and because of it, I basically told him in the nicest possible way to fuck off.
Here's what happened.
Me: I have a blog, did you know that?
Him: hmm. no.
Me: Here's the URL. Give it a go sometime.
Him: So here's a photo of the bike I want.
Me: If you do read it, start from post one. It will make more sense.
Him: Don't even ask me to read your stuff. I have tons of friends who want me to.
Me: No worries.
Okay so, that pissed me off. Why? I didn't ask him to read a novel or some huge dissertation I'm working on. It's a blog. About something very important to me.
I even went as far as to tell him I was disappointed. Why? Because I'm soooo sick of my life being about everyone else' interest and just for once, I'd like someone to talk to me about what interests ME.
Do I ask him to ooo and aww over my precious darling words. NO! Just read the damn thing already.
Here's the thing, we've been told thanks to Pop Psychology that we aren't to "expect" things from others.
Okay fine. But what about wanting or needing? I need someone I am interested in to show that what matters to me, will be respected and at least given some attention.
He doesn't have to become a writer. He doesn't even have to read my three WIP's but dangIT!...at least talk to me about my damn blog!
Okay so I'm done ranting. Have fun with the poll and tell me, is this and expectation, a want or a need? Right or wrong? (always subjective that one anyway.
Having said that, I just want to say, please PLEASE do not bicker.
Yeah right...right?
I had an experience recently with a guy. (shock I know, I said I'd never venture that direction again) But something is really nagging at me and because of it, I basically told him in the nicest possible way to fuck off.
Here's what happened.
Me: I have a blog, did you know that?
Him: hmm. no.
Me: Here's the URL. Give it a go sometime.
Him: So here's a photo of the bike I want.
Me: If you do read it, start from post one. It will make more sense.
Him: Don't even ask me to read your stuff. I have tons of friends who want me to.
Me: No worries.
Okay so, that pissed me off. Why? I didn't ask him to read a novel or some huge dissertation I'm working on. It's a blog. About something very important to me.
I even went as far as to tell him I was disappointed. Why? Because I'm soooo sick of my life being about everyone else' interest and just for once, I'd like someone to talk to me about what interests ME.
Do I ask him to ooo and aww over my precious darling words. NO! Just read the damn thing already.
Here's the thing, we've been told thanks to Pop Psychology that we aren't to "expect" things from others.
Okay fine. But what about wanting or needing? I need someone I am interested in to show that what matters to me, will be respected and at least given some attention.
He doesn't have to become a writer. He doesn't even have to read my three WIP's but dangIT!...at least talk to me about my damn blog!
Okay so I'm done ranting. Have fun with the poll and tell me, is this and expectation, a want or a need? Right or wrong? (always subjective that one anyway.
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