EDIT: Never mind. I'm not going to get into the cisgender lesbians vs. transsexual lesbians debate here. I think some of the generalizations were a bit unnecessarily hostile, even if sometimes true in very specific cases, and don't think "most" is much better than "all" when accusing a group of bigotry.
EDIT2: Also, I'm really uncomfortable with this sort of unnecessary infighting, and think it diminishes us all.
EDIT3: I'm also going to be honest and say that those two above statements are me pulling my punches as much as possible. I try to be really understanding, and I know it's been modded now, but I feel I need to say this. I tried to just go to bed and let it go, but I can't.
I'm a woman. I'm gay. I happen to be transsexual. I'm sorry if someone else had bad experiences. But that does not excuse people making slurs against gay women, and I take that f***ing personally. Especially when those slurs also pretty much imply that I'm a naive sap who will never really be accepted as a real woman. That my friends are lying to me and laughing behind my back. That the community of which I'm part, which has always welcomed me, is really my enemy. That basically every difficult step I've taken in my life was a waste of time because I'll always be seen as a dirty "tranny" and a fake.
If a particular trans woman wants to internalize that kind of homophobia, transphobia, and mysogyny, fine. I feel sympathy, and would love to help or listen. But don't project that onto me or other trans women. Because some of us are quite capable of integrating just fine with other women, including other gay ladies, and get a little tired of some people trying to call us liars or try to bring us down when we finally have a good day after so much struggle and pain. When we want to make other trans people feel better about themselves, and know that they don't have to live in fear of always being alone.
I'm sure you're frustrated, and I'm trying to understand. But don't try to tell me that my friends are super-rare exceptions for being able to connect to me as a woman, because that's bullshit. And don't tell me I'm imagining it, because that's also bullshit. Other women connect to me for genuine reasons. I'm really sorry if you don't have that experience, but it doesn't mean you have a right to belittle mine.
I apologize if in ANY way my happy post was seen by anyone as a "haha, I'm accepted as a woman and you aren't" post. Because it absolutely was not. I just wanted to cheer people up and hopefully make other future transitioners less afraid. If I accidentally hit some trigger, I'm sorry.
EDIT4: But this is absolutely something that trans people need to keep out of our systems, because it's toxic and it makes transitioning a lot harder. And I shouldn't really even call out any specific person, because I had internalized some of this before too, and it comes from problems within the trans community in general. All communities have problems, this is one of ours, maybe our worst.