I know this question might come off as paranoid or silly, but I was wondering if it was safe to present a story about a gay (specifically lesbian) relationship to a critique group of (I'm assuming) straight people. I am just wondering because I'm a very sensitive person, and if someone attacks me or my story unfairly just because it has gay characters, I think I'll be crushed. I still want to go to this group because it's the only writing group in my area that I know of and the people seem pretty nice. But I was just wondering if anyone has any ideas about this. Thanks in advance to all who reply.
Anytime you put your work out there for critique there is a chance for harsh critiques and getting your feelings hurt. Until you can face that possibility, then I'm not sure you are ready for critique. You really do need to get to the place where you story is not you, and if it is critiqued, it doesn't feel like a personal attack.
When choosing a critique group, location isn't all to consider. You also need to consider the members' experience, skill and openness to your story.
You have to decide whether the members of the specific group would be a receptive audience, and, if not, if you can handle some homophobic critiques. Maybe submit something else first, and see how it goes. Or attend without submitting first.
Some heterosexual people, even heterosexual people who think they are open-minded, will be uncomfortable with stories involving containing lgbt characters or same-sex romances or sexual situations. You can't control others' reactions.
So...you need to decide if you are strong enough to hear whatever critiques may come. And if not, then don't submit yet. Or find some online critique partners first, if the in-person critique feels too personal and intense.
And if you do submit, and the critiques feel personal, then put just listen during the group, thank the critiquers for their time, and put the critiques in a drawer. And after a few days, read them. And try to see if any of the comments are helpful.
Good luck.
~suki