Memory is good...and long!
1-Calling a family "the black people," or "you know, the lesbians", instead of "Spot's owners" (like a straight, white family would be designated). It's half-whispered, so you
know they're being sensitive, wink, wink.
2-Making complete sport of a trans lady, who otherwise minds her business, looks after her pets and pays her bills. And not being particularly concerned if she might be within ear-shot, or be able to take note of the employees running in-and-out of the back rooms to gawk.
3-Saying something's "gay", "retarded" or "black" in order to distinguish the subject from "normal", "acceptable" or "right".
4-Nobody works here who is not white. I mean, the really
right kind of white. "She just didn't - you know -
fit what we're looking for."
Subtle? Maybe, when the bigot is used to sneak-bashing. The higher the education, the more "cleverly" the comments are constructed.
Is it bigotry, even when the speaker is unenlightened to their own prejudicial habits? Sure.
Here's Pat Robertson claiming that the Haiti earthquake was the direct result of the country's pact with the devil (?!?):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f5TE99sAbwM
But he enjoys a good gay-bash on a practically daily basis. People take him seriously.