i only know of three people who want me to succeed; my wife and two friends. most other people i know seem indifferent. some seem to want me to fail, ignoring any good news i get and enjoying any bad news.
i no longer talk about my work with anyone unless asked, and then i keep it short. i heard a german proverb that i keep in mind. 'anything that grows makes no noise'. these days i write much more than i talk about writing. i admit it was not always thus.
i cant help but to feel bitter towards those who will not credit my effort.
how many people that you know want you to succeed?
Most people you know seem indifferent? What's wrong with that? Why should they feel any other way? You don't honestly expect everyone to cheer when you talk about something that just doesn't interest them, do you?
If you want to watch eyes glaze over instantly, just start talking about writing.
What difference does it make whether people want you to succeed of fail?
It's good that your wife wants you to succeed, just to keep harmony in the house, but outside of this, who cares?
I suppose it gives you someone to blame if you do fail, but that's about it. I also know that
sometimes those who seem to want you to fail can be those who care the most. Those who know little about writing just go by the numbers, and the numbers say you will fail. This is true is sports, in business, and in writing.
Which means sometimes some people push you to quit because they don't want you living a life of poverty and failed dreams.
But either way, who cares?
Talk is cheap, and impresses no one. Nor should it. It usually comes out as bragging, or complaining, or as a pipe dream.
Other than your wife, you should only talk about writing with other writers, and then darned little. For that matter, you should only talk to your wife about it if you know she's actually wants to hear it. Too many would-be writers talk much and write little.
Are you writing because you LOVE to write, and really want to be a writer, or are you writing to impress other people? If it's the first, you shouldn't need to talk about it to every Tom, Dick, and Harriette, or at all. It shouldn't matter who wants you to succeed or fail. You're already doing what you love to do. You're writing.
If it's the second, you've already failed.
Talk less, write more, and don't expect people to care one way or the other. People are the way they are. They have their own interests, their own lives to live, their own dreams and ambitions, and it's not right to expect anyone outside your immediate family to care one way or the other. And by immediate, I mean anyone living in the same house you do, and your parents. That's it. And even they don't have to gush and cheer. They just have to care about
you.
Talk less, write more. If you fail, it will be because you talk too much and write too little, or lack discipline, or simply lack talent. It won't be because people are indifferent, or even because people hate you and pray for you to fail.