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Biding my time before I remove my eldest from the school. Hubby says we need to wait until the break to make the departure less obvious.
I spoke with the teacher this morning. Gah, it's gotten really bad. We're to the point that she set aside class time to tell the class not to harass or threaten my son.
Yeah, that should do it. I think she's nice, and she's trying, but I also think she was absent during some crucial lectures on social psychology/classroom management while at college.
He's a good kid: straight A's, 0 behavioral problems, even his teacher says he's "academically misplaced" in his current grade.
I might suggest he learn to cope if it were just a couple of irascible twits causing the issue. But this, no, this is more like little frightened villagers with pitchforks trying to erect an Auto de Fe in his honor on a daily basis.
He's not small for his age, he's not obnoxious or rude...he's just smart. He's smart to the point of being really different. And you'd think that would be such a wonderful thing, but it's not. It's miserable to watch because his only mistake in the whole thing is just being smart. Not mean, not socially inept, not rude...just smart.
I'm not saying his brother isn't smart, and that's why he gets along. It's just that my older boy is different. It's so hard, because there's a real rift growing because my older guy sees his brother being accepted while he's not. And I can't tell him why.
But, I'm wondering how any of this is valuable? Where is the value in learning to take abuse? I don't see how this relates to the "work world" since I can't think of a single instance where you wouldn't sue the pants off of any company that allowed verbal and physical harassment to go unchecked on a daily basis. Any sane person would quit a job where things are thrown at them and they are physically threatened.
I'm all for coping skills, but... is it really a coping skill to force my kid into a situation that puts him in line for Prozac, Jr. and makes him feel the only way to get on in life is to NOT be yourself as much as possible??
I don't really want to wait until break. I didn't even want to send him today. Blah. I wish I knew why things are so easy for my younger guy and so damned difficult for my oldest.
I spoke with the teacher this morning. Gah, it's gotten really bad. We're to the point that she set aside class time to tell the class not to harass or threaten my son.
Yeah, that should do it. I think she's nice, and she's trying, but I also think she was absent during some crucial lectures on social psychology/classroom management while at college.
He's a good kid: straight A's, 0 behavioral problems, even his teacher says he's "academically misplaced" in his current grade.
I might suggest he learn to cope if it were just a couple of irascible twits causing the issue. But this, no, this is more like little frightened villagers with pitchforks trying to erect an Auto de Fe in his honor on a daily basis.
He's not small for his age, he's not obnoxious or rude...he's just smart. He's smart to the point of being really different. And you'd think that would be such a wonderful thing, but it's not. It's miserable to watch because his only mistake in the whole thing is just being smart. Not mean, not socially inept, not rude...just smart.
I'm not saying his brother isn't smart, and that's why he gets along. It's just that my older boy is different. It's so hard, because there's a real rift growing because my older guy sees his brother being accepted while he's not. And I can't tell him why.
But, I'm wondering how any of this is valuable? Where is the value in learning to take abuse? I don't see how this relates to the "work world" since I can't think of a single instance where you wouldn't sue the pants off of any company that allowed verbal and physical harassment to go unchecked on a daily basis. Any sane person would quit a job where things are thrown at them and they are physically threatened.
I'm all for coping skills, but... is it really a coping skill to force my kid into a situation that puts him in line for Prozac, Jr. and makes him feel the only way to get on in life is to NOT be yourself as much as possible??
I don't really want to wait until break. I didn't even want to send him today. Blah. I wish I knew why things are so easy for my younger guy and so damned difficult for my oldest.
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