Identify this character

I am putting this here because I know it's going to turn into a free-for-all no matter what so why not make it a party right? But what kind of man has the following habits:

Asks for and makes appointments only to cancel at the last minute with the reason, "my dear friend just found out they have cancer yesterday and I want to go be supportive"...keep in mind he's known all day and declared that his appointment with the other person was the only thing he had going and looked forward to. (by appointment I don't mean date, I mean an international business call)

Sends text messages to said business associate that say, "If you were here: where would I be taking you out for dinner tonight." (totally out of the blue and random)

Drops random Facebook messages titled as "My favorite movie--lake house"
or "This is the week." and gives an acquaintance his entire week schedule.

Sends business associate photos of his kids, dog and home, randomly, over and over again.

When conversing with business contact via email take offense at a benign comment and goes off on tangents meant for someone else. (probably a female)

Posts the most embarrassing, self incriminating videos on Youtube from his younger years and links them on Facebook.

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So I could go on but I hope that's enough. I think this guy is quirky enough to be a great character, BUT I can't figure out what he has. Is this a social disorder, mental disorder, self esteem deficiency or over inflated ego...or, maybe, I don't know, taught no manners and has no filter for appropriate interactions?

Help me out. What's up with this guy and what kind of characters have you come across in your life that you just know you have to write a character based on them.

stormie said:

Cass, your character sounds self-important. Most likely from the time he was a baby, and never left the ego stage. Maybe parents who fostered that him, allowing him to have his way and also praising him for every poop he did 'til he was an adult.

I knew a guy like that; he even would tell business associates about his colonoscopies or "severe" back pain. "Me,me,me."

It would make a wonderful character!

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thanks stormie, I do think he's showing that whole, I'm so important and you just don't get it so let me explain this to you, syndrome

Wicked said:

I'm having flashbacks to the Aspergers thread. *flinches*

It struck me as something of a social disorder. Difficulty recognizing boundaries.

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A mutual friend says they suspect he has it. He's completely brilliant at maths, taught at a university for years. he's now a business consultant in another country.

Which is part why I bring this up. Is this cultural?

kayleamay said:

I vote narcissist.

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oh interesting...why do you say that?

stormie said:

No, Wicked, I'd say not Aspergers. I have two sons and a nephew--all young adults, and I've read a lot about it. Yes, their social sense isn't quite there, but Cass' character and the person I knew was more very self-absorbed. Many Asperger's have a hard time with Facebook and MySpace and texting and IMing.

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now see that's what I thought too. but then, i think right now that Asperger's is the prescription pad diagnose of the last decade.

oh did I mention that he also wants to tell anyone who will listen why everything is his wife's fault. She's cold, unfeeling, dead emotionally, spiritually based in fundamentalism and unevolved and the list goes on. Nothing seems to be his fault.

stormie said:

Yes, I've noticed that. My sons were dxd way back when hardly anyone knew about it.

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yes. i know some real asperger children and then wham, suddenly we all have it (okay I exaggerate, is there a disorder for that too)?

ad_lucem said:

It doesn't sound like Aspergers. Being socially clueless and being in perpetual over-share mode is probably the hallmark of some other sort of disorder. From what I've ever understood, ASD tends to make people far less "chatty"...they may have trouble discerning social cues and trouble with interactions...but not so much the massive over-share and in-your-face sort of thing. If I understand it correctly.

You might try flipping through the DSM-IV. There are all sorts of personality disorders that fit the character you described in whole or in part.

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okay I know I'm gonna get smacked for this but couldn't it just be he's a complete jerk?