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Perks
02-13-2010, 12:47 AM
My 11 year old daughter is going through a phase. I hope to god it's a phase. She sings. Constantly. And at the top of her lungs.

I am glad that she's a happy kid, but it's really annoying and it would be even if she had a particularly pleasant singing voice, which she unfortunately doesn't. She gets her feelings hurt when I tell her to knock it off.

I can't think straight even when she's in the shower. The pounding water and the closed door is no match for her pipes.

Aaaaagggghhhhhhh!

MacAllister
02-13-2010, 12:50 AM
Xanax?

dgrintalis
02-13-2010, 12:51 AM
My daughter went through this phase, too, and it drove me up the wall. In middle school she landed several roles in different musicals, and it got worse.

But it does pass, though. Eventually. You have my complete sympathy.

DeleyanLee
02-13-2010, 12:53 AM
My daughter went through a phase like this about the same age. My answer: Sing along.

Sometimes it would shut her up. Sometimes we cut loose and totally had fun singing together (some of my favorite memories of her come from this). Sometimes she'd start singing quieter. Regardless of what her reaction was, singing along improved MY reaction to what she was doing.

But she stopped doing it incessantly in a short time after that.

Now when we sing together, it's because we want to--which gets interesting 'cause all her present favorite songs are in Korean and the way I butcher the lyrics sets us both to laughing hysterically.

Good luck.

Perks
02-13-2010, 12:56 AM
Xanax?For her or for me?

Perks
02-13-2010, 12:57 AM
My daughter went through a phase like this about the same age. My answer: Sing along.



I can't work and sing at the same time.

ad_lucem
02-13-2010, 12:57 AM
My 11 year old daughter is going through a phase. I hope to god it's a phase. She sings. Constantly. And at the top of her lungs.

I am glad that she's a happy kid, but it's really annoying and it would be even if she had a particularly pleasant singing voice, which she unfortunately doesn't. She gets her feelings hurt when I tell her to knock it off.

I can't think straight even when she's in the shower. The pounding water and the closed door is no match for her pipes.

Aaaaagggghhhhhhh!

I hear you. My six year old has similar habits. That, and when he's not singing, he's talking. And he doesn't stop talking. He tells you everything that is going through his head or has gone through his head for the entire day and some of what might happen tomorrow.

Right now, he's in talking his brother's ear off. In a little while he'll be back to chew on mine.

He's a good kid, but his report card always comes home with the note "needs to work on not talking so much".

In the shower, singing, in the car, singing...then talk talk talk talk talk talk.

He talks when other people are talking. If something comes into his head...he HAS to say it...and not in a minute when the other person is finished....NOW!

I feel mean sometimes, because I really just want silence. But, I know he desperately wants to communicate and that his endless talking is part of his love of friends, family, and life in general.

Of course, that doesn't keep that voice in my head from screaming inside the confines of my brain: "Oh FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, BE QUIET!!"

Fran
02-13-2010, 01:17 AM
Send her to Simon Cowell? :D

Xelebes
02-13-2010, 01:23 AM
MY sister went through this phase and it was really annoying when she would sing at the top of her lungs while me and my brothers tried to play video games - when we did play video games.

Chris P
02-13-2010, 01:26 AM
Mine's 14 and still in it. She has an okay voice, but doesn't understand that singing along to YouTube doesn't count as practice. We'd get her lessons, but she doesn't have the discipline to stick with them. As soon as it's work, she's done with it!

She might not grow out of it. My mom is 63 and has been compulsively humming "Yellow Submarine" for eight years now. Dad's spent a lot of time in the Man Cave for the last eight years...

quickWit
02-13-2010, 01:30 AM
My 11 year old daughter is going through a phase. I hope to god it's a phase. She sings. Constantly. And at the top of her lungs.

that's why God created duct tape

ether
02-13-2010, 01:31 AM
Mine's 7 and has ADHD. The medication helps her quiet down to 'normal 7 year old level,' but if she hasn't taken it, oh my god. She'll sing at the top of her lungs and she'll talk. Constantly. And when I mean constantly, I mean to the point that my 3 year old niece turned to look at her one day in the car and said (I kid you not), "Stop talking, why are you such a chatterbox?" It was hysterical, and oh-so-true.

I'd suggest earplugs. ;)

Cella
02-13-2010, 01:34 AM
I used to sing while I would swing on my tree swing and think that no one could hear me :crazy:


boy was I embarrassed when I found out otherwise.

ad_lucem
02-13-2010, 01:38 AM
Mine's 7 and has ADHD. The medication helps her quiet down to 'normal 7 year old level,' but if she hasn't taken it, oh my god. She'll sing at the top of her lungs and she'll talk. Constantly. And when I mean constantly, I mean to the point that my 3 year old niece turned to look at her one day in the car and said (I kid you not), "Stop talking, why are you such a chatterbox?" It was hysterical, and oh-so-true.

I'd suggest earplugs. ;)

Your three year old niece has much better manners than my 2 year old princess...of course, she spends her time in the car sandwiched between my boys...so...maybe this is why... The other day her response to the chatosaurus next to her was "Just shut up, already!"

My guy doesn't have adhd, but his mouth does. I'm afraid it's catching because my princess is turning chatterbug, too. The main reason she wanted him to shut up was so that she could talk...

I think all parents could definitely benefit from an investment in a quality set of earplugs.

Perks
02-13-2010, 01:42 AM
Luckily, my daughter is reasonable. And she never holds a grudge. If I tell her enough times, I can buy myself some peace. She just forgets and the songs come bubbling - and blaring - up. There are times when it's fine, but mostly it's quite rude even if it's inadvertent. So, I don't actually feel all that mean, really, now that I think about it.

I was gratified that it's not just me, though. My husband's working from home due to snowy weather and he just had to bellow, "Hey! I'm tryin' to work, here!"

Lol!

Shadow_Ferret
02-13-2010, 01:46 AM
Mine's 7 and has ADHD. The medication helps her quiet down to 'normal 7 year old level,' but if she hasn't taken it, oh my god. She'll sing at the top of her lungs and she'll talk. Constantly.

I'd suggest earplugs. ;)

This, only mine's a 9-year-old boy.

scarletpeaches
02-13-2010, 01:47 AM
Jamie, Jamie, Jamie, did you learn nothing last summer?

Repeat after me: "Shut up or I'll send you back to the nasty Scottish lady."

Maryn
02-13-2010, 01:49 AM
The Kid (our adult daughter) attended a college well known for its music conservatory program. The non-music students could request a non-musical dorm, because singing good and loud was so common. Every time we visited we'd see some normal looking young man or woman walking around singing loud enough to be heard in the back row of the balcony.

Apparently the use of masking sounds was very popular at school. A fan or a radio between stations can minimize distant singing, and noise-reduction headphones playing something you either wanted to hear or could ignore made a huge different when the soprano on the other side of the partition felt like belting it out. (Sony makes a good pair that's fairly cheap. Any household with a singer might consider at least one pair a good investment.)

Maryn, whose child escaped

CaroGirl
02-13-2010, 01:49 AM
I can relate! My daughter's ten and if I have to hear chopsticks played at top volume on our out-of-tune piano one more time I'm gonna lose it. I know, I know, I could get the piano tuned but who has time to arrange THAT?!

Hey, maybe you can get her tuned!

Little Red Barn
02-13-2010, 01:52 AM
::hums theme to mayberry AND barney::

ah there's jamie, uhm. here (http://kimmirich.wordpress.com/2010/02/11/love-it-is-not-pink/).

Perks
02-13-2010, 01:56 AM
Jamie, Jamie, Jamie, did you learn nothing last summer?

Repeat after me: "Shut up or I'll send you back to the nasty Scottish lady."She'd go, you know. The girls liked you very much!

scarletpeaches
02-13-2010, 01:57 AM
She'd go, you know. The girls liked you very much!Two children liked me?

Dear God. My reputation ruined by a couple of well-behaved, pretty relatives of yours. The shame.

Shadow_Ferret
02-13-2010, 01:59 AM
No accounting for taste.

scarletpeaches
02-13-2010, 02:00 AM
Screw you, Fuzzface.

Perks
02-13-2010, 02:00 AM
Two children liked me?

Dear God. My reputation ruined by a couple of well-behaved, pretty relatives of yours. The shame.
I've got a picture to prove it. How much will you pay me not to post it.

scarletpeaches
02-13-2010, 02:01 AM
Don't make me post that photo of you and Greyfriar's Bobby.

Perks
02-13-2010, 02:02 AM
email it to me. I don't remember that one.

ether
02-13-2010, 02:13 AM
This, only mine's a 9-year-old boy.

Haha, I'm hoping mine will grow out of it. Someday. Soon.

Shadow_Ferret
02-13-2010, 02:15 AM
Haha, I'm hoping mine will grow out of it. Someday. Soon.

Mine seems to be growing out of the medicine. Have to talk to the doctor about increasing dosage.

CheekyWench
02-13-2010, 02:23 AM
I hear you. My six year old has similar habits. That, and when he's not singing, he's talking. And he doesn't stop talking. He tells you everything that is going through his head or has gone through his head for the entire day and some of what might happen tomorrow.

Right now, he's in talking his brother's ear off. In a little while he'll be back to chew on mine.

He's a good kid, but his report card always comes home with the note "needs to work on not talking so much".

In the shower, singing, in the car, singing...then talk talk talk talk talk talk.

He talks when other people are talking. If something comes into his head...he HAS to say it...and not in a minute when the other person is finished....NOW!

I feel mean sometimes, because I really just want silence. But, I know he desperately wants to communicate and that his endless talking is part of his love of friends, family, and life in general.

Of course, that doesn't keep that voice in my head from screaming inside the confines of my brain: "Oh FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, BE QUIET!!"
My 6 year old is the SAME way.
She will come into the bedroom at 4 in the morning and talk to me in her SLEEP until I wake up and realize.. omg there's a small child asking me questions...
I'm so glad I'm not the only one lol

Perks
02-13-2010, 02:27 AM
Oh lordy. I used to get up in the night and talk to my mother. She was a night owl and I'd be basically sleepwalking and come in talking utter gibberish. I'd come closer to consciousness with my mother's making this trying-not-to-laugh face and telling me, 'Uh-huh. That's good, honey. You should go back to bed, now."

tjwriter
02-13-2010, 02:32 AM
My 4 yr old talks and talks and talks. If it gets quiet on the way home, it means she fell asleep.

rhymegirl
02-13-2010, 03:00 AM
My kids have good singing voices. One was on TV last month.

kayleamay
02-13-2010, 08:11 PM
Perks, I feel your pain. My daughter just turned 14 and has Down's. She plays Miley Cyrus CD's over and over again, singing along in unintelligible words...off key...while spinning in circles and dancing in front of her mirror. She pops her head out every once in awhile and asks, "I'm good?" I'm her mom, so of course I say, "You're excellent." Then she giggles and starts all over again.

I survive with ear plugs and a permagrin. Smile and nod. Just smile and nod.

robeiae
02-13-2010, 08:20 PM
Well, let's see...

The baby--now 2 1/2--yells at everyone, beginning with the phrase "I TOLD you..." but--remarkably--apologizes immediately afterwards for yelling.

My son--nine--doesn't have any annoying habits to speak of.

The oldest--twelve--DANCES FRIGGIN' EVERYWHERE! She dances to the dinner table, she dances to bed, she dances while she's watching TV! And when she's not dancing, she's sitting on the couch or the floor stretching! Gah!

*sigh*

kayleamay
02-13-2010, 08:29 PM
Well, let's see...

The baby--now 2 1/2--yells at everyone, beginning with the phrase "I TOLD you..." but--remarkably--apologizes immediately afterwards for yelling.

My son--nine--doesn't have any annoying habits to speak of.

The oldest--twelve--DANCES FRIGGIN' EVERYWHERE! She dances to the dinner table, she dances to bed, she dances while she's watching TV! And when she's not dancing, she's sitting on the couch or the floor stretching! Gah!

*sigh*

He needs to try harder.

robeiae
02-13-2010, 08:32 PM
Nah, he's great (so are the other ones, really). He's semi-addicted to Call of Duty type games, but just the other day, he added Stone Temple Pilots to his iPod (after having added AC/DC and Motley Crue in the recent past). What more could I possibly ask for?

kayleamay
02-13-2010, 08:33 PM
Metallica.

Perks
02-13-2010, 08:52 PM
Well, let's see...

The baby--now 2 1/2--yells at everyone, beginning with the phrase "I TOLD you..." but--remarkably--apologizes immediately afterwards for yelling.

My son--nine--doesn't have any annoying habits to speak of.

The oldest--twelve--DANCES FRIGGIN' EVERYWHERE! She dances to the dinner table, she dances to bed, she dances while she's watching TV! And when she's not dancing, she's sitting on the couch or the floor stretching! Gah!

*sigh*Yay! Rob's mean too.

I can't help but cringe when I remember calling my mother into the room repeatedly while my sister and I perfected our robot-dance.

It's really amazing any of us survive adolescence unabandoned.

Adam
02-13-2010, 08:58 PM
I used to sing at that age too. Dad fixed it by saying, "Adam, you cannot sing. Stop it."

Bless 'im. ;)

mscelina
02-13-2010, 09:07 PM
All this is merely fleeting. Trust me. My daughters now sing to their wincing, screwing up their faces to bawl babies. And, as a result, musical taste has suddenly reared its ugly head in my daughters' households.

*grin*

While I sit in blessed silence two states away. Life is good.

kayleamay
02-13-2010, 09:10 PM
I used to bounce the basketball in the house non-stop. Then one day I was standing in the dining room with my brother and the house started shaking. My mom tore around the corner with smoke coming out of her ears yelling, "Goddammit! I'm going to donate you and your ball to The Salvation Army!". Then she realized that we were having an earthquake. She shoved us under the dining room table to save us from falling debris. It would have been quite heroic, but she accidentally slammed my brothers head into the table on the way down, causing him to need stitches.

I'm pretty sure there's a moral to that story. Maybe.

robeiae
02-13-2010, 09:21 PM
I'm pretty sure there's a moral to that story. Maybe."Don't watch so much of Happy Days"?

kayleamay
02-13-2010, 09:36 PM
Hmmm...I was thinking more along the lines of, "if you piss your mother off too often, someone will end up with stitches."

But, I'm tired, so I'll settle for Happy Days.

Nah, I think somewhere in my confuzzled and very tired mind, I was trying to say that yes, kids annoy parents at times, but parents will still sacrifice themselves to protect their children. Even annoyed, she wasnt' thinking about how to lose the kids and protect herself. (The stitches were just an untoward effect of her freakish upper body strength.)

I don't think getting annoyed makes you mean. I think it makes you human.

Yeshanu
02-13-2010, 10:47 PM
Mine's 14 and still in it. She has an okay voice, but doesn't understand that singing along to YouTube doesn't count as practice. We'd get her lessons, but she doesn't have the discipline to stick with them. As soon as it's work, she's done with it!



And there's your answer. Get her lessons, pronto. If it shuts her up, it's worth the price. And if it doesn't, at least she'll sing better.

Gretad08
02-13-2010, 11:02 PM
I hate to admit this but apparently I'm the annoying one...it started in childhood. I play the piano and when I was a kid I practiced constantly. (I was actually pretty decent, but the volume was excessive )

We had a very small house and my parents never, ever asked me to stop. They did tell me once I reached adulthood how annoying it was. The piano was only about 10 feet from their bedroom and they told me they'd be in there watching t.v. talking about how much they wished I'd stop.

More recently, my 1 1/2 yr old daughter covered my mouth and told me to "stop it mommy!" when I was singing to her.

When she gets older she's so grounded for that one :)

brainstorm77
02-13-2010, 11:15 PM
I used to sing at that age too. Dad fixed it by saying, "Adam, you cannot sing. Stop it."

Bless 'im. ;):roll:

brainstorm77
02-13-2010, 11:18 PM
I don't have kids but my sister has two.... I love to hear her stories about them and their habits, then I put down the phone and larf my head off. :)

ad_lucem
02-14-2010, 12:12 AM
He needs to try harder.

I must agree...someone is slacking in the nuisance department.