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ScotchBonnet
02-01-2010, 01:56 AM
This list I made up covers all types of romance...YA, romantic comedy, historical, genre romance, ect.

I'm just curious...which types of romantic relationships do you generally write about when it comes to your main MCs? I came up with a list of the general romance situations/conflicts I see in movies and books...though they are usually always expressed in different ways....


1. Love at First Sight
I guess this one describes the typical fairytale/standard romance. Think Disney, The Princess Bride, . Usually, the conflict seems to revolve around a quest or rescue mission. They fall in love fast, but some outside force is keeping them apart rather than tension within the couple.

Princess Bride...Wesley....hawt...lklsjskljfksdljfsdlkds ::drools:

2. “Oops!”
A strong-willed or career-minded character doesn’t intend to fall in love, and happens upon it by accident… with consequences that could destroy their dreams/career…undercover cop falls for a criminal, tabloid writer falls for subject of trashy interview, ect. (How of Lose a Man in 10 Days, Zoolander, Van Wilder movies)
Often, one character needs to choose between love and their career, or must find a creative way to obtain both!

3. Forbidden Love/"Romeo and Juliet"
This one seems to fall into paranormal romance, human/vampire (Bella and Mr. Sparkles) Sometimes its as simple as simple as a high school jock infatuated with a "nerd" character, or an office relationship, notable age difference, even step-siblings.

4. Love/Hate
The characters start off disliking each other, and we all know what that means!
Examples: Rhett Butler and Scarlet , Han Solo and Princess Leia

5. Childhood Friends
Characters have known each other since childhood. I think of Anne of Green Gables and Gilbert...(though it crosses into love/hate a bit :P
Sometimes the relationship is sweeter and involves a childhood promise. Many anime and romance manga comics feature childhood friends relationships.

6. Best Friends/ Friends First
The characters all ready know EVERYTHING about each other at the beginning of the story. However, something is keeping them from realizing their true feelings. Does anyone remember Dawson's Creek?

Heehee. This is the one I actually see the most of in real life (for successful couples who are now married and happy, anyhow) : P


7. Rivals/ Protagonist vs. Antagonist
Sometimes this crosses into Love/Hate, sometimes not...I think of Xena and Ares from Xena: Warrior Princess, or if a protagonist character falls for the bad guy/girl.

8. Love Triangle
Pearl Harbor (bleh), Twilight (the whole Bella/Edward/Jacob deal). The main character has to choose between two suitors.

9. "Sorry, I'm Taken"
Usually, this one involves a couple that seems perfect for each other, but one of the subjects already has a nasty/ boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse they can't let go of...
Titanic comes to mind...

10. "In Disguise"
Shakespeare came up with it first (though he came up with most romance tropes, didnt he?) Think of "Twelfth Night" which inspired a variety of movies and books in which a girl character is in disguise as a boy,causing quite the confusion situation for the male love interest! I recommend a fantastic Asian drama called "Coffee Prince" for this one. The "disguise" situation could also happen for "undercover" characters like detectives, reporters, ect.

11. “Different Worlds”
Not necessarily forbidden, but this couple struggles with bridging the gap between their two worlds, sometimes causing friction when they don’t understand each other. The different "world" could be literal in fantasy and sci-fi, or could deal with "real world" issues such as class, race, religion, ect. I'm thinking of Pride and Prejudice, Ask the Dusk, or even funny movies like “My Big Fat Greek Wedding”.

12. “ Second time around”
Two lovers who already knew each other (and lost contact or broke up) prior to the beginning of the story, meet again and the sparks fly...

13. “Tragic Past”
I see this on so many crime shows/shows geared towards men. Two characters click well, but one character cannot get over the tragic past of losing a loved one, ect. Usually one of the subjects lost a lover or spouse who died years before meeting their love interest.

14. "Long Distance Relationship"

One character is captured, goes away to war, college, and the chemistry between them is shown through letters or phone calls, leaving readers in anticipation of their reunion. Sometimes they are tested by temptation or other forces trying to tear them apart...
This probably works well for army stories.


15. “The Unobtainable Love Interest/ 1-sided”
Usually, one character immediately knows who they want and why they want them...but the other character doesn't seem interested, or has a secret reason for not expressing their interest. I find this love trope common in YA-usually concerning popularity or self esteem issues. Peter Parker and Mary Jane come to mind.

16. “Lovers in Denial”
Borders on love/hate where the characters tease each other, but in a more respectful playful way. They are often good friends at some point in the story, and get in general conflicts and playful arguments but don’t dislike each other, and often have respect for each other. Usually, one or both characters have a pride issue that keeps them from
confessing their love, or they don’t want to ruin their friendship or work partnership. They’re in love, and everyone else in the story realizes it except for them.

I’d say June and Johnny Cash are real life examples, Lois Lane and Superman, Fox Mulder and Dana Scully from XFiles

17. “Passionate Lovers”
I see this in soap operas, dramas, and genre romance...revolves mostly around intense physical attraction/lust at first and sometimes develops into something more...

18. “Sweethearts Forever?”
Lovers that just click, seem sugary sweet, and almost too perfect for each other, usually one or both is/are hiding something…
Ashley Wilkes and Melanie from Gone With the Wind

19. "Opposites Attract"
Two different characters click and deal with each others differences at the same time… usually I see this expressed in YA-between an introvert character and extrovert character. If you've seen the musical, "Wicked", think of Elphaba and Fiyero.

20. "Similarities Attract"
Characters act very much alike, causing both tension and infatuation… Indiana Jones and Marion Ravenwood (passion for archeaology and similar tempers)

21. "Partners in Crime"
Two characters who work as a “bad guy” team…often do malicious things to those who get in their way, but are actually a loyal and devoted couple.
Think Bonnie and Clyde, or various soap opera teams and super villains.

22. “Dangerous Drama”

Passionate, twisted, intense..yet they always come back to each other... even though the couple needs therapy and the characters have done some pretty nasty things ranging from mind games to physical abuse (yikes!)yet there's something about these relationships that keeps viewers or readers waiting for more...
I see this in soap operas, TV dramas, and some YA (gossip girl) Usually involves betrayal, vengeance, dangerous characters, and life-threating situations...

23. “Arranged Marriage/Date”
Two characters are set-up and forced to be together by politics or family pressure, sometimes crossing into other love/hate, love at first sight...Did anyone see "The Fantastics" when the parents secretly set-up their children? ((Great musical!))


24. First Love
Usually a YA trope...the ups and downs of first love...the subjects need to figure out how to handle a relationship while trying to discover their own identities at the same time. I'm thinking of the classic 80's movie, "Say Anything".

25. Long-term lovers
The couple has already been together for awhile, sometimes married!
However, something other than another love interest (kids, adventure situation, family drama) either them closer together or causes tension
Mr. and Mrs. Smith

Sometimes the tropes can be combined. For example, a "best friend" couple could also be a "similarities attract" couple.

Any thoughts or comments to add? Which situations have you used/mostly used? Which ones do you enjoy reading.watching about the most? Can you think of any literary couples? Do you find any of these cliche?

Personally, I think any of these relationships can be considered "cliche" but it all has to do with how the writer expresses the characters and masters their unique interactions.

Collectonian
02-01-2010, 02:30 AM
Hmmm...I think most times a good story has a mix of several bits For my stuff....

In one of my novels- one of my pairings has a combo of love at first sight/lovers in denial (instant connection though word isn't termed love for years and both fight it) and forbidden love (he's human, she isn't). The other pairing would probably be childhood friends, arranged marriage/date (but neither minds). Both are first loves as well. In another, a touch of childhood friends (though they barely remember each other), love/hate (her dog tries to eat him on first meeting), a hint of tragic past (his wife died of cancer, and I'd guess her issues would fall in there since nothing else fits). And for a third - a touch of love at first sight, first love, and some other category in which one is doomed but they fall in love anyway.

For reading, I love reading most any of them except the abusive ones. On forbidden, it was interesting you noted step siblings, but not actual incest there :-P.

sunandshadow
02-01-2010, 03:02 AM
I had fun reading this list. :)

Forbidden is my favorite, often combined with different worlds and in disguise.

I think similarities attract works really well with rivals/protagonist vs. antagonist. Can also be combined with opposites attract - perhaps the mc and love interest are both great at some sport or type of fighting where they have to compete against each other, but they have opposite attitudes toward like, like one is grumpy and one is cheerful.

One thing I think this list doesn't get at is the fact that a romance is more interesting when the two characters look at it differently. For example, it was love at first sight for one but not the other. One doesn't want to fall in love, due to past relationship trauma or social pressure or unsuitability of the other character. One character is stubborn and suspicious while the other tries to charm and woo them. One character is innocent and virginal while the other really wants to screw the first one's brains out. Etc.

Stlight
02-01-2010, 08:06 AM
What a great list. Can't pick a favorite, because it's a mood thing.

The only thing that's consistant is I detest the bully trope, er... the alpha hero trope. I can't buy that a bully is serious in his groveling beyond to get what he wants. I can't believe he won't turn back into a bully again the minute he can.

M.Austin
02-01-2010, 09:40 PM
7. Rivals/ Protagonist vs. Antagonist
Sometimes this crosses into Love/Hate, sometimes not...I think of Xena and Ares from Xena: Warrior Princess, or if a protagonist character falls for the bad guy/girl.

Always my favorite if done well!

The Grump
02-01-2010, 09:55 PM
You're a more organized thinker than I am. I think anyone could enjoy reading any of those types of relationships -- depending on the compentancy of the writing and the other plot elements.

(Like I don't care much for vampires and like ghouls even less.)

Ardelie
02-04-2010, 09:16 AM
Your wonderful list makes me feel like I need to attempt one of each to see if I can reverse the clichés :) It’s very thorough.


2. “Oops!”
I dislike “oops, I fell for you. I want my career. You’re inconvenient and I know it” type romance. If it’s all wrong, how can it be right?

3. Forbidden Love/"Romeo and Juliet"
I love forbidden love but only if the reason is spectacular. A vampire and a human don’t seem forbidden to me cause all vamps were once human. Just change her already! (yes, I know the eternal damnation spiel J)

5. Childhood Friends
This one has sensual power for me. My, how many things have changed since childhood!

8. Love Triangle
Hate. But on the Vampire Diaries, I somehow like. Though Damon doesn’t truly want the same girl, just her dead vamp look alike.

10. "In Disguise"
Eloisa James does a fab job of this in Duchess by Night. I laughed out loud.

12. “ Second time around”
Don’t believe it ever works a second time unless one or both characters are literally 180 of their past selves.

I agree about these types seeming like clichés if there's no blend, but if done right, nothing feels cliché about them. That’s the magic.

In one of my novels, the hero knows he is fated for his heroine but he despises this, truly does not want the relationship despite searing attraction. It was fun writing cause I had to find logical reasons why he resisted. Inner turmoil. It was more about his frame of mind than circumstance.

Regan Leigh
02-04-2010, 09:19 AM
Oh, I love this list! :D *subscribes to thread*

sunandshadow
02-04-2010, 11:14 AM
12. “ Second time around”
Don’t believe it ever works a second time unless one or both characters are literally 180 of their past selves.

I think second time around can work very well if the characters didn't actually get to know each other the first time. But I do like that to happen at the start of the book, not in the backstory - they have a one-night-stand, but then in the morning one finds out something totally off-putting about the other, they have a big fight because emotions are still high and they don't stop to think first, then they go their separate ways in a snit, and only later realize they're still very attracted to each other and maybe what they were fighting about was actually unimportant or a misinterpretation due to not having all the information.

Robin Bayne
02-04-2010, 09:13 PM
I like many of those also, but any story done as a reunion story is my cup of tea.

maggi90w1
02-07-2010, 08:01 AM
In this story I have a #5 and a #11 for my protagonist, wich probably means I also have a Love Triangle. There is also a hinted #7.
I pretty much like all of this options. They can all be intresting as long as there is some drama going on as all of these kinds of relationships come with their own set of problems and challenges.

Satori1977
02-09-2010, 06:56 PM
Great list! I have used several of these, and don't really have a favorite. They can all be cliched (but what isn't a cliche? It has pretty much all been done before), and all of them can work and be original. Depends on the author. Probably the one I don't really like is love at first sight...because I don't think I believe iin it. Attraction, lust? Definitely. I felt something very strong when I first met/saw my now husband. But it wasn't love. Love came months later. Love is something is something you work at. But I do love the Princess Bride.

Oh, and I just giggled at Bella and Mr Sparkles.

AgathaChristieFan
02-09-2012, 01:40 AM
I love this list! I never knew there were so many different types. The kind of relationships I write about are lovers in denial, tragic past (my favorite to write for), second time around (second favorite), best friends/friends first, and childhood friends. For some reason, I love it when the 2 main characters already know each other, and there may be some baggage from their past.

I've yet to write any romance short stories were strangers meet.

Silver-Midnight
02-11-2012, 04:42 AM
Long time lovers, Sweethearts, and I forgot the other. Haha. But this is kind of a good idea; it may help me try other couple types. Maybe. Haha.

Princess Marina
04-13-2013, 06:11 PM
I've used no 15 the unobtainable love interest (one-sided), but it could also be love at first sisht but only on the hero's side. But I write Regency romances and one of my novels does not fit in any of your list. Eventually it becomes similarities attract but not until nearly the end of the book. As it will be published later this year, I'll not expand further on how and why they get together.

Silver-Midnight
04-14-2013, 12:11 AM
I still really like this list. :D

Diver
05-15-2013, 05:59 AM
New here. :hi:

Wonderful list! I'm also subscribing :)


Any thoughts or comments to add? Which situations have you used/mostly used? Which ones do you enjoy reading.watching about the most?

If I may, even though the actual love progression may take any form from 1 to 25 (kindly skip of not appropriate):

26. Tragic love affair
Where you know right from the beginning its going to end badly, and the characters reinforce their love through their struggles. (Tissues required)


Oh, and Erich Segal brought me here...

AnaBlaze
05-15-2013, 04:59 PM
Wow. What a fantastic list. I should print this out at hang it beside my desk. ;)

I'm a fan of a few of these tropes. I love friends first stories, whether they've been friends since childhood or just a few years. I especially love when one of the characters has had a long-standing crush/interest/unrequited love for the other. There is just such a strong emotional pull almost instantly for the reader.

Opposites attract and Love/Hate are great for the snarky banter that turns into hot sexiness.

And love at first sight can be fun if it's mixed with another trope, like Oops or mistaken identities.

Tienci
08-07-2013, 09:32 AM
Hmmm...my latest release (under pen name) combines #1 (love at first sight), #2 (oops!- strong-willed, resistant heroine), #3 (forbidden love- office edition), and #11 (different worlds- race & class edition).
Yippee! :D

Jehhillenberg
08-07-2013, 11:16 AM
I don't strictly write romance, the genre, but this caught my eye.

My stuff involves #2, #4 (I personally find the "love/hate" one charged with fire!), #6, #7, #11, #15-21, and #24. They overlap in my mss of course and I write YA, so...yep.

The manuscript I'm working on now has the "Opposites Attract," "Lovers In Denial," definitely "The Rivals/Protagonist/Antagonist," and maybe even the "Oops"

VERY good list, ScotchBonnet! It's great.

Jehhillenberg
08-07-2013, 11:19 AM
This list I made up covers all types of romance...YA, romantic comedy, historical, genre romance, ect.


22. “Dangerous Drama”

Passionate, twisted, intense..yet they always come back to each other... even though the couple needs therapy and the characters have done some pretty nasty things ranging from mind games to physical abuse (yikes!)yet there's something about these relationships that keeps viewers or readers waiting for more...
I see this in soap operas, TV dramas, and some YA (gossip girl) Usually involves betrayal, vengeance, dangerous characters, and life-threating situations...


^immediately what comes to mind is...
Chuck and Blair, of "Gossip Girl," most definitely! "Chair/Bluck"



I also love the fact you referenced TV and films for examples. My inspiration.

Myrealana
08-07-2013, 06:31 PM
Mine's kind of a 2+11, with a potential 8 tossed in later, should the series continue.

She's a masked vigilante superhero trying to find out who is making former patients at a small hospital disappear. He's the blogger that's tracking the same story. She's a sheltered telepath from a wealthy NYC family who has trouble making friends. He grew up poor in Glasgow, but because of his charm and ability to connect with people has become well-traveled and respected by people in his field.

As I've outlined the next two books, a minor character I introduced as a red herring in the first book has come up as a potential rival for her affection later in the story.

Jazen
08-16-2013, 06:52 PM
I think my current characters would be 22. She really should run screaming in the other direction, but she just can't seem to stay away.

gingerwoman
08-26-2013, 03:12 AM
On forbidden, it was interesting you noted step siblings, but not actual incest there :-P.
That's because most publishers would reject "incest" in a romance novel. A notable exception is the Flowers in the Attic series of the 80s but this was never a romance novel series. Most Gothic romantic horror, basically lumped as general fiction I guess.

Kathl33n
09-09-2013, 02:12 AM
What a great resurrected thread!

I like (#1) Love at First Sight, (#2) Oops, (#3) Childhood Friends, and of course, (#8) the infamous Love Triangle.

I like #1 and #2 happening together. Add #8 to any of these and it's a home run for me.

I forget where I read this piece of advice, (probably on here one night way past my bedtime, when things start to get fuzzy and I find something great but can't remember where/happens all the time): Don't ever let two people go to bed without at least one other jealous character in the story. Love it!

lianna williamson
01-02-2014, 07:51 AM
The book I'm writing now is a mix of “Oops!”, "Opposites Attract", “Different Worlds”, Protagonist vs. Antagonist, and First Love.

In a previous book, it's “Oops!”, Forbidden Love, “Different Worlds”, and First Love".

In the one I'm planning now, it's “Different Worlds”, “Passionate Lovers”, “Arranged Marriage/Date”, and First Love.

So Different Worlds and First Love seem to be my favorite tropes.

Pushingfordream
01-02-2014, 08:07 AM
(#3 childhood friends) This is an awesome list by the way!

ZachJPayne
01-02-2014, 08:27 AM
My current WIP is a protag/antag first love type of deal. At least, the main couple. And of course, they're a lesbian couple, which is the main wrench in the series.

I'm also pretty sure that my second couple are a first-love couple. I'm confident that they'll end up with their HEA (which totally isn't the focus of the story), but only after the gal ends up going off to college, becoming a sex addict, and having an emotional breakdown (stuff that I absolutely can't hint at in a YA novel, and are totally beyond the scope of the story, but it's nice to know my characters)!

This is interesting. I was taught to examine the different Greek kinds of love ... agape, philos, eros . . . etc.

tatygirl90
01-03-2014, 08:36 AM
I like childhood friends a lot. But my favorite is enemies first then lovers. I don't know I guess I just love those type of relationships and the back and forth and the bickering haha.

Sandbar
01-19-2014, 09:28 PM
2. “Oops!”
A strong-willed or career-minded character doesn’t intend to fall in love, and happens upon it by accident… with consequences that could destroy their dreams/career…undercover cop falls for a criminal, tabloid writer falls for subject of trashy interview, ect. (How of Lose a Man in 10 Days, Zoolander, Van Wilder movies)
Often, one character needs to choose between love and their career, or must find a creative way to obtain both!

6. Best Friends/ Friends First
The characters all ready know EVERYTHING about each other at the beginning of the story. However, something is keeping them from realizing their true feelings. Does anyone remember Dawson's Creek?

Heehee. This is the one I actually see the most of in real life (for successful couples who are now married and happy, anyhow) : P

9. "Sorry, I'm Taken"
Usually, this one involves a couple that seems perfect for each other, but one of the subjects already has a nasty/ boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse they can't let go of...
Titanic comes to mind...

12. “ Second time around”
Two lovers who already knew each other (and lost contact or broke up) prior to the beginning of the story, meet again and the sparks fly...

15. “The Unobtainable Love Interest/ 1-sided”
Usually, one character immediately knows who they want and why they want them...but the other character doesn't seem interested, or has a secret reason for not expressing their interest. I find this love trope common in YA-usually concerning popularity or self esteem issues. Peter Parker and Mary Jane come to mind.

16. “Lovers in Denial”
Borders on love/hate where the characters tease each other, but in a more respectful playful way. They are often good friends at some point in the story, and get in general conflicts and playful arguments but don’t dislike each other, and often have respect for each other. Usually, one or both characters have a pride issue that keeps them from
confessing their love, or they don’t want to ruin their friendship or work partnership. They’re in love, and everyone else in the story realizes it except for them.

I’d say June and Johnny Cash are real life examples, Lois Lane and Superman, Fox Mulder and Dana Scully from XFiles

21. "Partners in Crime"
Two characters who work as a “bad guy” team…often do malicious things to those who get in their way, but are actually a loyal and devoted couple.
Think Bonnie and Clyde, or various soap opera teams and super villains.

25. Long-term lovers
The couple has already been together for awhile, sometimes married!
However, something other than another love interest (kids, adventure situation, family drama) either them closer together or causes tension
Mr. and Mrs. Smith



Any thoughts or comments to add? Which situations have you used/mostly used? Which ones do you enjoy reading.watching about the most? Can you think of any literary couples? Do you find any of these cliche?

Personally, I think any of these relationships can be considered "cliche" but it all has to do with how the writer expresses the characters and masters their unique interactions.

I most often gravitate toward the ones I listed, but combinations work far better than any of them straight, I think. And an orgasmic "yes!" to the bolded part.

ECathers
02-24-2014, 10:31 PM
Give me Forbidden, Love/Hate, Rivals, Tragic Past, Lovers in Denial, Opposites Attract, Partners in Crime, and Arranged Marriage. I can also be convinced on Childhood Friends

My fantasy romance WIP is Forbidden Love, Love/Hate, Tragic Past (if a curse on his family counts) and for part of the book Long Distance.

My YA (not romance focused) will have a Friends First and probably Love Triangle (or quadrangle).

Another:

#27 Fated: Mostly found in paranormal, the lovers come together because of a prophecy, past lives/soul mates, because she was born to be his mate, etc. Have not seen this one done well - feel free to educate me! Any time I've read this, it feels like a shoddy excuse for the MCs coming/staying together. I mostly I just roll my eyes.

aus10phile
02-26-2014, 07:16 PM
Fun thread! My WIP in development has Opposites Attract, Forbidden Love and a smidgeon of Tragic Past.

Kallithrix
02-27-2014, 01:12 AM
I have no idea where my romance subplot fits into that list... I guess it could be 'already taken', as in the MMC is married, but that's not really a barrier in this culture... I guess it could also be different worlds, in that he's a wealthy mover and shaker in society, and she's a penniless nobody. It's not love at first sight, which I don't really believe in, but it's not exactly friends first either.

I think the best way to describe it would be Jane Eyre/Mr Rochester in ancient Egypt.

Is there room for a new entry in the historical category? :D

M.N Thorne
04-08-2014, 09:08 AM
Arranged Marriage is my favorite Romantic relationship because it is quite uncommon in the 21st century. However, I would like to see more Modern Marriage of Convenience Romances novels. It seems like the genre has drop off since the early 90s. I would like to see more writers bring back this genre.

Smeasking
05-05-2014, 02:05 AM
Fun list!

My current WIP has a combination of: #4 Love/Hate, #8 Love Triangle--though it's more of a love pentagon, lol, #11 Different Worlds--Demons/Humans, #15 The Unobtainable 1-sided love (which ties in with the love pentagon), and #24 First Love :)

reiver33
05-05-2014, 03:50 AM
I'm kind of using 'Love Triangle' in that guy sees girl#1 (across the proverbial crowded room) and is immediately smitten, but events transpire to keep them apart and steer him towards girl#2 - who his best friends think is more 'his type'.

Having slid into a relationship with girl#2, girl#1 then starts work at his firm...

The trope I find least satisfying is antagonists - the couple who can't stant each other, but you just know how its going to pan out...

My second wife and I are an example of 'Second time around'.

Smeasking
05-05-2014, 07:23 AM
My second wife and I are an example of 'Second time around'.

That's neat. My husband and I are examples of 'Love at First Sight'. We've been together for 16 years, and originally we met while I was on my first/last blind date--with his friend. He just happened to tag a long that night. And I'm glad he did. :)

reiver33
05-05-2014, 10:18 AM
We went out while at school, split up, I moved away, both got married. Both got divorced, I moved back to my home town.10 years ago we ran into each other in the bank queue and this year will have been married for 9.

(We were both born in the same hospital and I'm 8 hours older)

Smeasking
05-05-2014, 10:36 AM
We went out while at school, split up, I moved away, both got married. Both got divorced, I moved back to my home town.10 years ago we ran into each other in the bank queue and this year will have been married for 9.

(We were both born in the same hospital and I'm 8 hours older)

Awww... so romantic! Congrats. :)

Latina Bunny
06-12-2014, 02:32 AM
I enjoy friends to lovers, old sweethearts, longtime lovers, partners in crime, some arranged marriages (depends on how it's written), love at first sight, second chance at love, and maybe different worlds, some forbbiden love, and "Oops". I enjoy when characters can be friends and have similar interests, instead of just lusting for each other.

Hmm... Maybe because of my wariness of people in general, combined with my ability to hold grudges for long periods of time, but I highly dislike hate/love or enemies to love tropes. I can dislike someone for a long time. I'm slow to warm up to people at times, so I enjoy some slow-burn romances.

Also, if someone is too opposite or if we have nothing in common (and they annoy me), then I would have problems being friends with them.

I also like some freedom and consent, so I dislike forced seduction, or characters giving into peer pressure.

V.J. Allison
06-14-2014, 06:24 AM
Wow, most of my stories were combinations of more than one idea... The first finished MS was a combination of "OOPS!", "Different Worlds", "Tragic Past" and later on in the story, "Second Time Around".

Second MS: Mostly "Lovers in Denial" and "Friends First", although "Rivals" could cover it too.

Current WIP is "Friends First", although they meet only a short time before the story opens.

Third MS, the one finished a couple of weeks ago is a tough one... I don't want to give away the storyline itself for my own reasons, but the closest I'll say it is publicly is a combination of "Friends First" and "OOPS". It's nothing I had really seen in a romance story before. (Yes, I'm weird and have weird ideas!)

art_to_words
06-18-2014, 09:35 PM
I usually combine many elements from this list. My favorites are forbidden love, passionate love, and tragic past. I'm thinking about writing a series in the future that would basically involve a love triangle, and I'm not sure how that's going to work out.

But then again, it's not really a love triangle, more like she thinks her first choice is dead, so she gets with her second choice, and then the first choice turns up "alive", but a vampire. (Crazy, I know. :-))

JustSarah
08-01-2014, 09:38 PM
Hybrid actually: Love/hate triangle.

I'm happy to explain what I mean.

Littlebit66
12-06-2014, 03:32 AM
I love this list!

My couple first meet at during their junior year at University, start out as friends (#6) but 3 months later after a dance, confirm that they're attracted to each other. They start a relationship thinking that it will end after graduation because they're both dedicated to achieving their career goals but end up realizing they're in love (#2). They break up after graduation partially because she's having a hard time forgetting about her fiancé who died the summer before (#13) and partially because she's Jewish and he's not ready to convert because it would upset his close knit Latino family (#11). They keep in contact as friends though letters and emails while he's away out of state for his new job and she's at University for her Masters (#14?), and both discover that they still have strong feelings for each other (#12?).

Whew, I didn't realize I had that many types of romantic relationship tropes. Does a romantic story use only a few of these tropes or are the amounts listed 5 or 6 okay?

travelgal
05-13-2017, 09:01 AM
Ancient thread, but what the heck, it's a fantastic thread!

Littlebit, I don't see why not. What matters is the execution.

Castellan and Ruth:
He's a human from different planet and his religion forbids love and marriage. Too, he's wanted for war crimes. Secrets, secrets, and he's in total denial.

She's a divorcee 12 years older whose kids had died, Korean, a stanch Christian, and her father wouldn't approve of a black man.

Although immediately attracted to each other, they become friends instead. This works for a few months until Castellan accidentally kills a student and tries to break off the friendship. Bad move; she becomes curious and starts to pursue him.

Cindyt
05-13-2017, 09:13 AM
All three of my WIPs are a mix, but the major ones for each are:

WIP 1 Historical--She's his love at first sight; he's her pawn
WIP 2 Crime novel--an oops that turns into a triangle
WIP 3 Autobiography--An oops that turned into a Romeo and Juliet of a sort. No one died, but I did seriously contemplation suicide.

Sweet Escape
05-13-2017, 01:15 PM
Oh, I like this thread! Of course anything can sound like not such a cliche if the execution is different. And there can be a combination of some things to create something more unique.

My favourites are:
Love/Hate & Rivals (If done well and it doesn't end up being abusive. Love/hate pairings can end up being written really badly if you are not careful. Know the differences between characters disliking each other at first for whatever reasons but grow to understand each other and what is just bullying),
Childhood Friends,
Best Friends/Friends First (Friends to lovers is my favourite trope, the best type of relationships come from strong friendships first in my opinion). What is also interesting is a combination of Love/Hate or Rivals and Friends First and making it Enemies To Friends To Lovers. Takes a while longer for a relationship to develop, but it could be really good. I also like Different Worlds, Second Time Around, Lovers In Denial.
Passionate Lovers (If it's friends with benefits turning into something more, I like it).
I like both Opposites Attract & Similarities Attract, or a combination of both. Some sort of balance between being two characters being similar yet different.
Partners In Crime.


My least favourite romantic tropes:
Love At First Sight (Just, ugh. Who falls in love at first sight anyway? It's just first lust).
Oops (Yeah, no thanks, people should not need to have to decide between career and romance when you can have both.)
Love Triangle (Love triangles are overdone, and feel unnecessary)
Sorry, I'm taken (Sometimes it encourages cheating, and if it makes the boyfriend or girlfriend look like they are a total bitch or asshole and the character is told "they deserve better" it gets annoying. No need to dehumanize the partner of the character if they are going to fall in love with someone else).
Sweethearts Forever (Just why? The whole your partner keeping so many secrets from you is getting boring and it is not healthy for a relationship)
Dangerous Drama (Usually absusive towards each othee? No thanks. Not something the media should promote).

Nothing against Long Term Lovers, but I can get bored with established relationships in fiction. I find it more fun to read two characters falling in love and how they finally end up together.

The other ones I feel neutral about. To Arranged Marriage I also want to add... Fake Dating? Can be fun and if they actually end up falling in love and the relationship is* not all that fake after all!

I find this thread quite useful, makes me thing of what kind of romances I woule want to write though romance would be more of a secondary theme and not the main thing for my stories!