One of my goals this year is "No more bullshit." Not from friends, not from family, not from co-workers. I want none of it.
It's only January 5, but all ready, I'm doing well with my goal and wanted to share.
The lease on my apartment is up on January 31st, but for the past 6 months, I've been living with my SO. All my clothes and shoes (the important stuff!) has been moved into his house, but we are still working on the rest.
The week of Thanksgiving, my friend told me she had boxes I could use to move. She got out of work early Wednesday (she normally doesn't get home until 7pm - I get out at 3:30 - I'm not waiting around), so we decided to meet then. I ended up getting out earlier and didn't want to wait for her, and since she lives an hour from me, I didn't really want to go home only to turn back around. So I suggested Black Friday thinking while I was out shopping with the Little One, we could meet up. Well of course my friend didn't want to meet me, and I wasn't going to take a 5 year old for an hour ride to get boxes. My friend started an attitude telling me her husband wants to get rid of them. I told her go ahead b/c I just don't know when it'd be practical for me to get them.
Still, she wanted me to get them, so I told her maybe that Saturday if we went to my apartment to move another load of stuff, but I really didn't know what we were doing (it was the Monday after Thanksgiving). Thursday, she asks if I'm still coming to get the boxes b/c if not she was getting rid of them. I told her GO AHEAD! Geez. I'm sorry I can't make plans, but I just don't know what I'm going to be doing! We had tentative plans to go to my SO's sister's, and we wanted some time alone, but I had no idea what we'd be doing, where we'd be. She went off about how I didn't have to bring my SO and never do anything w/o him (not true) and how it was only an hour. But an hour out of my way when I might have other plans..for BOXES?
Finally, she said they'd give them to a friend.
The following Friday she saw my Facebook about playing poker and sent me a nasty sarcastic text saying "I'm glad you found time for THAT." or some such bs.
Haven't heard from her since but decided give our friendship one more shot. This was not, BTW, the first time I'd experienced something this petty with her. It seems like she's always looking for something to be upset about, and she's very negative. When my life was shit, she was a great friend. Now that things are good, she has to go looking for problems. So I emailed her:
Today, I got this:
I wrote back this:
Anyone else have a story about getting rid of the bullshit? Snuffing out the toxins and negativity in your life?
It's only January 5, but all ready, I'm doing well with my goal and wanted to share.
The lease on my apartment is up on January 31st, but for the past 6 months, I've been living with my SO. All my clothes and shoes (the important stuff!) has been moved into his house, but we are still working on the rest.
The week of Thanksgiving, my friend told me she had boxes I could use to move. She got out of work early Wednesday (she normally doesn't get home until 7pm - I get out at 3:30 - I'm not waiting around), so we decided to meet then. I ended up getting out earlier and didn't want to wait for her, and since she lives an hour from me, I didn't really want to go home only to turn back around. So I suggested Black Friday thinking while I was out shopping with the Little One, we could meet up. Well of course my friend didn't want to meet me, and I wasn't going to take a 5 year old for an hour ride to get boxes. My friend started an attitude telling me her husband wants to get rid of them. I told her go ahead b/c I just don't know when it'd be practical for me to get them.
Still, she wanted me to get them, so I told her maybe that Saturday if we went to my apartment to move another load of stuff, but I really didn't know what we were doing (it was the Monday after Thanksgiving). Thursday, she asks if I'm still coming to get the boxes b/c if not she was getting rid of them. I told her GO AHEAD! Geez. I'm sorry I can't make plans, but I just don't know what I'm going to be doing! We had tentative plans to go to my SO's sister's, and we wanted some time alone, but I had no idea what we'd be doing, where we'd be. She went off about how I didn't have to bring my SO and never do anything w/o him (not true) and how it was only an hour. But an hour out of my way when I might have other plans..for BOXES?
Finally, she said they'd give them to a friend.
The following Friday she saw my Facebook about playing poker and sent me a nasty sarcastic text saying "I'm glad you found time for THAT." or some such bs.
Haven't heard from her since but decided give our friendship one more shot. This was not, BTW, the first time I'd experienced something this petty with her. It seems like she's always looking for something to be upset about, and she's very negative. When my life was shit, she was a great friend. Now that things are good, she has to go looking for problems. So I emailed her:
How are you? How was your Christmas and New Year? How's the baby? I don't know how you feel about me, but I'm really hoping we can move past the box incident and be friends again.
Regardless, I hope all is well. I hope you and the baby are both happy and healthy.
Take care.
Today, I got this:
We are all doing well. Thanks for asking. As far as the friendship goes we will have to see what happens.
I wrote back this:
I am glad you're doing well, but Kristin, if you're going to have that kind of attitude, I think this is where we part ways. This is ridiculous, and I don't have the time, energy, or desire to deal with a friendship conditional on how I live my life. I don't have to justify anything to you, including how I spend my time.
I hope one day you're able to live a more positive life instead of always looking for the negative. Life is difficult enough without looking for and creating problems where there really aren't any.
I wish the best for you and your family. I hope your baby is healthy and happy and beautiful. Take care.
Anyone else have a story about getting rid of the bullshit? Snuffing out the toxins and negativity in your life?