1. marriage
2. kids
3. huge fight, almost got divorced, became closer than ever afterward
4. working through a tragedy together
5. deployments and home comings
6. don't know if this counts because it's not a one-time moment, but we day dream together, it's what has gotten us through some rough patches, we talk about all our hopes, what we'll do, where we'll be, and we just dream out loud. I peg those many moments as some of the greatest in our lives together.
There are moments in every relationship that define the marriage, for good or bad, and it's important to keep rethinking your definition and what you want it to be and to keep moving forward. In December, we'll have been married 14 years. The first seven were filled with a lot of great times, but we're really difficult for us. We're both stubborn, and we're both passionate. . .that can be a tricky mix. After that seven years, even through some terribly trying times, we don't really fight anymore, we know finally who we are as individuals and as a couple, we know what is expected of us and what we expect, and we have a lot of fun trying to outdo the other's expectation. When know when to walk away from a tiff, and when to let the other blow off steam, and when to tell the other to knock it off. It just works now, but it was more work than I could have ever imagined getting to this point, but oh man, was it worth it. It is awesome, indescribably awesome!
Don't know if that's what you were looking for. Hope that helped.