Ray's House of Love (Volume II)

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Oh, and g'morning Komnena.

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I'm not NaNoing, but I have put about 25K into my shiny new WIP this month, so I guess I'd be close to on track for it. But I tend to write a lot and then write almost nothing. It comes in waves for me.

One of the things I've learned from NaNoing is that I don't enjoy novel writing as much as I enjoy songwriting, poetry writing, essay writing and short stories.

I seem to have a very short attention span when it comes to writing. I lose interest if I can't accomplish something in a short amount of time. But I suppose that is a good thing to learn while doing NaNo.
 

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I can't write a short story. I've tried, but I guess I'm too long winded to accomplish it.
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Kevin, you're so sweet. I know you'll get yours done at a different time, but you are too nice to those you want to help.

I'm not NaNoing, but I have put about 25K into my shiny new WIP this month, so I guess I'd be close to on track for it. But I tend to write a lot and then write almost nothing. It comes in waves for me.
That is how I used to be and since starting Nano this month I've learned that I not only can do this, it keeps me in my story and I'm more consistent.

Kevin, I never do NaNo, but I've done a personal one-month push to write a bunch several times. Want to do that after your big trip? Maybe others in the House of Love will join us.

How about it, a month where each person sets a goal that forces more writing? It can be 50,000 words like Nano, or maybe only 20,000. Whatever each person would see as a viable goal works for me.

Maryn, slightly better than yesterday's slightly better
I'm in! I'll do it...I'll do it....*jumps up and down*

Oh, sure, sounds like fun. :)

Glad you are feeling better.
 

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I'm so proud of myself. I got Rob's 421 joke.

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I need to share this and I don't even know what to say. I went out with my coworkers for lunch and missed my husband's lunchtime phonecall because I left my cell at home. When I got back, I gave him a quick call before a meeting. He tells me that his mom called him this morning to let him know that one of his stepsisters killed herself today.

In some backwoods twisted way his family works that I can't even explain with out 500 words and a PowerPoint presentation, his stepdad (who is not with his mother anymore) found her after he dropped her little boy off at the babysitter for her. She just adopted this boy a couple of years ago when he was an infant.

I just can't even imagine what made her think this was the answer. My husband's pretty shook up. I didn't know her all that well, but we got along pretty good the few times we were at the same places. I'm at a loss here. I don't even know what to do for my husband.

Anywho, I just need to get that off my chest.
 

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I need to share this and I don't even know what to say. I went out with my coworkers for lunch and missed my husband's lunchtime phonecall because I left my cell at home. When I got back, I gave him a quick call before a meeting. He tells me that his mom called him this morning to let him know that one of his stepsisters killed herself today.

In some backwoods twisted way his family works that I can't even explain with out 500 words and a PowerPoint presentation, his stepdad (who is not with his mother anymore) found her after he dropped her little boy off at the babysitter for her. She just adopted this boy a couple of years ago when he was an infant.

I just can't even imagine what made her think this was the answer. My husband's pretty shook up. I didn't know her all that well, but we got along pretty good the few times we were at the same places. I'm at a loss here. I don't even know what to do for my husband.

Anywho, I just need to get that off my chest.
I'm really sorry, Tj, it's so hard to know what to think or do during a time like this. I had a friend whose son killed himself two years back and all I could do was listen and cry with her.

*hugs* Just keep talking to us, that's why we're here.
 

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Oh, man, that's so sad. I don't understand when anybody who's not in horrific physical pain thinks this is the way to deal, but I understand that she must have been suffering psychological pain, and now she is not. May she be at peace, at last.

And that poor child, motherless for the second time... My heart breaks for him.

What can you do for him? Lots of physical contact while your kids are up and about. Once they're in bed, time alone with him when the TVs not on and neither of you is doing anything else. He probably needs to talk, scream, rage, or cry. And of course you can ask him what you can do to help him through this. He may not know, now, but he'll know he can ask when he thinks of something.

So you be there for him, and we'll be there for you. Deal?

Maryn, so sorry to hear this
 

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I can't even find words, TJ. It is so terribly tragic. Trying to accept a loved one taking their own lives it just a nearly impossible task.

When I was in 4th grade, my best friend's teenage sister hung herself (my bf found her). Then two weeks later, my step sister died in a self inflicted accident (can't be sure if it was suicide or reckless stupidity). My siblings, parents, and I never spoke about it. Never. Big mistake. Just be there for your hubby the best way you know how. You know him better than anyone, I'm sure sometimes he'll want to vent, talk, and grieve, and sometimes he won't want to say anything at all. Just be there, be available, and supportive, and understanding, like you are now, and that's about the most you can do. It's such a shame, such a waste. That poor boy who doesn't have a mom now, your husband's poor family, left angry, mourning, and confused. I just wish that we could somehow make it better, but I know we can't. Just know we are ALWAYS here for you!!!

(((hugs))) to you and yours.
 

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Hey HOLers. I'm still kickin', but I haven't written any fiction in ages. I'm struggling to get that big non-fiction project topped off in time for December.

So sorry, tj.
 

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Hey Fizzy! Nice to see you.
 

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Who's that dashing stranger? Some non-fiction writer? Zounds!

Maryn, who rarely gets to use that word
 

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Good day, House...

I'm all dolled up and off to go meet with an HR Specialist to go over my resume and find out how I can best present myself in today's market. (you'd think being an HR Specialist myself I wouldn't need help but I think this is a case of the roofer who can't fix his own roof).

Then it's back home to hit the books and more writing. :)

*waves* Hi Fizzy, good to see you.
 

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*flops down in her chair while flinging her fancy leather bound notebook and purse onto another chair*

Maryn, I have a job for you. The NEXT time I think I don't know what I'm doing, please, kick me in the butt.

I just wasted 2 hours...count them TWO listening to someone who touted herself as a resume expert only to find out, she's an unpaid volunteer, disguising herself as an authority, so she can convince unsuspecting people that she needs to do their resume for them for oh, a small fee.

And she tried to get us "business owners" to pay the small fee of $6500 to join their networking "network".

GAH! I hate flimflam men/women.

Kim, going off to have a real snit fit!
 

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Snit fit, hell. Kick something. Wear shoes, of course. We're not madmen, after all.

I'm back from mammogram land. Isn't being a woman fun? However, I did impress a woman by doing the crossword puzzle in ink while we all waited our turns. I didn't get to finish it, though, and it's only a Tuesday, not all that hard.

Maryn, who used to do the crossword often
 

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Is there a way to complain to whoever sets this up, or promotes it? I assume there wasn't really a valid option of saying, "Pardon me, but obviously you see this as a sales opportunity and I wouldn't want to waste your time. Good afternoon."

I'm fortunate to be in the enviable position of not having much concern for what people think, in the job market or my area of expertise, but you probably have to be classier than I'd be. Everybody knows everybody, and you wouldn't want a moment of rudeness to bite you in the ass later on.

Maryn, her white gloves soiled
 

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Is there a way to complain to whoever sets this up, or promotes it? I assume there wasn't really a valid option of saying, "Pardon me, but obviously you see this as a sales opportunity and I wouldn't want to waste your time. Good afternoon."

I'm fortunate to be in the enviable position of not having much concern for what people think, in the job market or my area of expertise, but you probably have to be classier than I'd be. Everybody knows everybody, and you wouldn't want a moment of rudeness to bite you in the ass later on.

Maryn, her white gloves soiled
It was actually a church sponsored workshop that I have no idea how she managed to get given the opportunity to do it. She could barely speak her mind if anyone looked directly at her.

Then there was this man who sat there in the meeting and took up 30 minutes telling us that what he was looking to do about his life was put a bullet through his head and he gave us this entire story, to which I politely stopped him and said,

"Sir, please tell me you don't say all of this at a job interview."

He blinked and didn't answer me. GAH! I hate this.

That's it! *kicks the desk*

I think I need the hottub.
 

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Climb on in. I think we've got some nice bath salts somewhere, if Rob didn't snort them.

I don't think it's unreasonable to contact the church, whether it's your own church or another one, to tell them how unprofessional this was and how very disappointed you were with what was offered. In a pleasant, professional way, of course.

Maryn, rubbing your shoulders
 
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