My thirty-third anniversary is this week, and I've learned a thing or two over the years. The biggie is to put your spouse's happiness at the same level as your own, sometimes higher. Let the everyday petty annoyances go, like water over an unchanging rock. (His snoring used to drive me nuts--until he nearly died. Snoring? Love it.) Show affection when you're not after sex. When you're really enjoying something about her, say it aloud. ("God, nobody makes me laugh like you do." or "Wow, the bedroom looks great. Thanks for vacuuming.") Take time for yourself and make sure she does, too. Share chores, and occasionally assume one of hers for the pleasure she'll derive from not having to do that one today. Make the occasional grand romantic gesture.
Maryn, still working on these