*sigh* Toxic Inlaws (Outlaws) - WARNING: RANT, IGNORE AT WILL

Honestly, I am so fed up of one out law I just don't have anymore words for it.

What would you do with a sister in law who bad mouths your kids, blames them for everything wrong in her household or presence - hates you and bad mouths you from day one for 10 yrs then treats you like crap and talks down her nose at you every chance she gets but "pretends" to be sweet as pie when other family members are around and pulls it off with a sneering smile while those family members believe her sniveling big honking and steaming pile of poo poo...

She uses her facebook for drama (she's off mine 2 months now, she used it to cause drama and gossip about me with other family members, lying about why I took her off as well). She stalks all her ex'es and their ex'es. Bad mouths people (one of her ex'es put a keylogger on her computer while he was still her boyfriend because she and her daughter were accusing him of being a pedophile - to which he is far from being and he wanted to be sure he could defend himself. I don't condone the keylogger but what else was he suppose to do?)

She's spent the last 3 years physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually abusing this ex of hers, even cheated on him in the last two weeks of their "relationship". She literally scares me in the fact that she is so delusional of her sense of reality that I think she may even be psychotic...I'm no doc though so I can't dx that by any means...If only I could show examples of it (from FB drama she sent my way) but I won't do that because I don't want to post what is not mine to fully post. Suffice it to say this is a huge rant from another BS drama that she's starting up again for the sake of dramz....she can't live without it this woman...

I have kept my distance, the only time I've spoken up is when she uses disinformation behind my back to make herself look good in front of others and me look like a total Biotch from hell (when the truth is the other way around).

This is a woman who told my hubbs (then boyfriend) from day one to dump me...his own sister, then sticks her nose in every aspect of our lives until finally I cut her off 2 months ago. aadams is right (sorry if I missed spelling that correctly, I'm just so beyond irate with the new "drama in my absence therefore ability to defend myself" BS she is causing right now. I'm 600 miles away from the woman, my motive for moving from the city to the country was strictly city rat race, expenses and her... That says a lot doesn't it?

I have children to defend and keep safe, believe me I've seen what she does with her 4 children and that is not a person I want anywhere near mine. Yes, the authorities have been called on her several times (children's welfare) by schools, other family members and neighbors - no they don't do jack shiote because she can smile them slyly out the door and make it look like nothing is wrong. All the calls from these people were warranted too and yet she gets away with it. *sigh* This is one very - very toxic person that scares me to have around me and mine. I doubt sincerely that the woman would ever win going toe to toe with me in any aspect of the definition of it BUT my kids don't need that type of drama and she is beneath me to even bother.

Thanks for the support, I needed it.

I agree with everything that was said. I think I'll be doing that, and buying that toxic in laws book.

One problem - how do you deal with an impending family reunion that one cannot get out of and was hoping this toxic sil was not going as she said would not but now is going...

That and all the family members she is mouthing off to will be there. It's an unavoidable obligation...one I don't look forward to...I know I can keep it civil and know in turn she cannot.

Silver King said:

It usually takes us until we're about thirty years old to stand up and scrape off the human barnacles that have dragged us down in life. After that, it's more or less smooth sailing, as you'll be quick not to allow more negative growth to inhibit your progress in the future.

People are funny, you know? They'll pretty much walk all over us for as long as we let them.

Three words you'll want to remember going forward are: "F*ck you," and "no." Those may seem interchangeable, but they're often not and have specific applications in life.

For example, a simple "no" might work when someone is trying to take advantage of you, say by asking you to watch her four kids while she goes to the Poconos for a week with her new boyfriend or something.

On the other hand, you might want to bring out the big guns when she tries to belittle you in public, tells lies in front of family members or otherwise makes you feel like crap. Just say to her, out loud in front of everybody, "Fuck you." Depending upon the inflection you convey, everyone should know exactly what you're imparting, and you'll be surprised by how many people agree with you, though they'll be too chicken-shit to admit it to anyone but themselves.

After that brief exchange, don't ever talk to that person again. Don't even look at her, and she will wither from your life in short order, and you will be free from her. Free, free forever.

(And don't make the same mistake I did and let her back into your life, where you'll have to repeat the separation again, even after you knew she'd never change. It causes much more problems and heartache the second time around.)

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I think that answers my last impending doom question...lol....