Why I am the worst best friend in the whole wide world

Sweetleaf · May 18, 2009

It's my best friend's birthday today.

I missed her when I rang before she went to work, so I sent her a big colourful happy birthday email, with this message in small letters at the bottom:

'I hope your boss isn't too much of a wanker today'

She rang half an hour later and said 'Thank you for the email, but could you please not do that again as this morning my boss figured out that he can read my emails.'

Bugger.

The worst part is that she's pregnant and NOTHING is funny right now. She sounded like she was trying not to cry.

I am the worst friend in the whole world. No word on whether her boss actually read that particular email, but the damage has been done.

I suck so much.

scarletpeaches · May 18, 2009

Nah, you don't suck.

Her blaming you for her boss being an interfering wanker is what sucks.

bsolah · May 18, 2009

The boss can read her emails? That's totally an invasion of privacy.

I can put him in a blender in my boss-killing novel if you like :tongue

Manix · May 18, 2009

Aw, I'm so sorry. I said something to a friend today, too, that I hope didn't damage our friendship, but I fear it has.

Clair Dickson · May 18, 2009

Well, I don't think you suck, overtired. Sometimes the best of intentions go awry. She's being a little hard on you, and you're being dreadfully hard on yourself.

Ask her if you can make it up to her and then move on.

As for the boss reading email-- if it's on a company-owned computer and/ or with a company-provided email account, it belongs to company. There's no privacy with the company's stuff. So, professionalism always on company email.

But other than that, overtired, stop beating yourself up for trying to be a good friend. You're making a mountain out of a molehill for no good reason and with no benefit.

JoNightshade · May 18, 2009

Don't worry too much; she's probably freaking out a little, but if it was little tiny and at the bottom of an otherwise large email - the boss probably never saw it. Even if he is monitoring employee email, he would probably just click it, see "Happy Birthday" and move on.

...Unless he seriously is a wanker, and then he deserves to see it anyway.

Susie · May 18, 2009

Don't worry, overtired. I bet it'll pass. Come on over to the :Cake:

& cheese side, you'll be aok.

bsolah · May 18, 2009

Clair Dickson said:
As for the boss reading email-- if it's on a company-owned computer and/ or with a company-provided email account, it belongs to company. There's no privacy with the company's stuff. So, professionalism always on company email.

Well maybe the laws are different in America but in Australia, most company policies state that email is private unless there is a reason a person needs to be investigated.

You won't see me working for a company where a boss can read my emails.

Wayne K · May 18, 2009

My last boss was a dick sometimes, but we would go out and have a few drinks and work things out--it was simple.

My new boss doesn't drink--there's no dealing with a lunatic.

Perks · May 18, 2009

Oh no! You tried. I'm so sorry. For the both of you. This will be very funny next year. Take her to lunch, if you can. Poor things.

scarletpeaches · May 18, 2009

Wayne K said:
My last boss was a dick sometimes, but we would go out and have a few drinks and work things out--it was simple.

My new boss doesn't drink--there's no dealing with a lunatic.

This is why I love you.

scarletpeaches, born in Scotland, half-Italian, Irish surname and therefore genetically programmed to be a piss-head.

Wayne, let's do lunch and by that I mean liquid lunch. By lunch I mean 'all day'.

Okay, let's get drunk together.

jodiodi · May 18, 2009

If her boss truly is a jerk, then you were just stating a fact and the boss shouldn't object to that. Besides, the message was sent TO your friend, not FROM her computer, so screw her boss.

Sweetleaf · May 18, 2009

Yay!

Her boss just bought her a lovely lunch (with champagne, that she can't drink because she's pregnant) so pretty certain he didn't read it.

I'm not in trouble anymore

wannawrite · May 18, 2009

Aw, good for you, OT. And you can be my buddy anytime. You were sweet enough to remember her on her special day, and thoughtful enough to worry about hurting her feelings.

Have a good one, sweetie. Glad it turned out okay for you.

fringle · May 18, 2009

It sounds like she's just being emotional due to pg hormones. See? She's over it already. Don't eat the ice cream in her freezer though or she might kill you.

Matera the Mad · May 19, 2009

I like happy endings

Manix · May 19, 2009

Me too! True friendship stands the test of misunderstandings.

Why I am the worst best friend in the whole wide world

Sweetleaf

Momentary lapse of reason

scarletpeaches

bsolah

AW's Resident Commie

Manix

Mutatis mutandis

Clair Dickson

A dark core to every cloud

JoNightshade

has finally arrived

Susie

Thanks, special friend for my avi!

bsolah

AW's Resident Commie

Wayne K

Perks

delicate #!&@*#! flower

scarletpeaches

jodiodi

Reflections of Reality

Sweetleaf

Momentary lapse of reason

wannawrite

fringle

always abroad

Matera the Mad

Bartender, gimme a Linux Mint

Manix

Mutatis mutandis