Feeling watched

bsolah · Feb 19, 2009

Do you ever get the feeling that people are watching and criticizing everything you do?

This morning, me and my girlfriend were on the train on our way to work. And I leant over and kissed her on the shoulder.

Then two guys whispered to each other, and everytime we did anything they would snicker and laugh. One guy said to the other that I was "under the thumb" and then proceeded to talk loudly how they don't like their wives controlling them etc etc.

Now I'm not on the train now and probably won't see them again, but now I can't shake the feeling that people are watching what I'm doing. Usually I'm fine checking the boards at work but it took me a while to log on this morning because I was worried my workmates were watching what I'm doing.

scarletpeaches · Feb 19, 2009

Oh god yeah. That 'someone else is laughing; is it at me' feeling...

When it happens and it's justified (as seems to be the case with your experience on the train) I tell myself it's jealousy, or a longing for what I have. Or a desire to make them feel big by making me feel small. Epic fail, there.

You have something they long for - a S/O to whom you comfortably show affection in public. Would that they were confident or loveable enough.

Whether that's any comfort or not I don't know, but them's my thoughts.

Wayne K · Feb 19, 2009

bsolah said:
Do you ever get the feeling that people are watching and criticizing everything you do?

This morning, me and my girlfriend were on the train on our way to work. And I leant over and kissed her on the shoulder.

Then two guys whispered to each other, and everytime we did anything they would snicker and laugh. One guy said to the other that I was "under the thumb" and then proceeded to talk loudly how they don't like their wives controlling them etc etc.

Now I'm not on the train now and probably won't see them again, but now I can't shake the feeling that people are watching what I'm doing. Usually I'm fine checking the boards at work but it took me a while to log on this morning because I was worried my workmates were watching what I'm doing.

They're out there.

bsolah · Feb 19, 2009

Thanks scarlet.

I do think it's partly jealously. Or it's just plain, 'We're big men and not meant to show weakness or affection in public.'

scarletpeaches · Feb 19, 2009

Pfft.

I know who I'd rather spend time with.

Ugh. I was just nice. I need a lie-down.

smoothseas · Feb 19, 2009

Now me, I just wouldn't be bothered by it. I have too much else to occupy my thoughts.

'Side, I don't give a single penny, boys, what the world thinks of me.

writerterri · Feb 19, 2009

Siddow · Feb 19, 2009

Learn to have fun with these people. Talk about bondage. Say your rear still smarts from the spanking she gave you. Get on your knees and apologize for not putting her toothpaste on her brush correctly, then beg her for a dollar for lunch.

Or is it just me who feels the need, while being watched, to be outrageous and give 'em a show?

scarletpeaches · Feb 19, 2009

Good god, no, Siddow. I think, "Let's give 'em something to REALLY talk about."

bsolah · Feb 19, 2009

I've done this in the past, and it's quite fun. Usually if I'm having a gay night with eyeliner and some guys make homophobic comments, I'll sit on one of my male friends' laps and watch these guys squirm.

cooeedownunder · Feb 19, 2009

They are everywhere....

scarletpeaches · Feb 19, 2009

bsolah said:
I've done this in the past, and it's quite fun. Usually if I'm having a gay night with eyeliner and some guys make homophobic comments, I'll sit on one of my male friends' laps and watch these guys squirm.

Okay, that just bumped you to the top of my favourite people list.

Mel · Feb 19, 2009

I'm sorry but it makes me smile. Not at you, but at them. I have to wonder what their attitude would have been if their wives had been with them. Better yet, what if their wives had been sitting behind them and they didn't know it.

Maybe some jealousy and insecurity going on there.

bsolah · Feb 19, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
Okay, that just bumped you to the top of my favourite people list.

Awww, shucks.

writerterri · Feb 19, 2009

Mel said:
I'm sorry but it makes me smile. Not at you, but at them. I have to wonder what their attitude would have been if their wives had been with them. Better yet, what if their wives had been sitting behind them and they didn't know it.

Maybe some jealousy and insecurity going on there.

Yeah, the sob probably would have gotten a wack to the back of the head and asked why he never kisses her like that.

It just made them uncomfortable to see a real man in action.

rhymegirl · Feb 19, 2009

bsolah said:
Do you ever get the feeling that people are watching and criticizing everything you do?

Yes, watching. Maybe not criticizing. I was in the bank once and as I stood there at the table, looking down, my pen hovering over the withdrawal slip as I tried to remember the date to fill in, a guy tells me the date. I looked up quickly, amazed and alarmed. I had no idea anyone was scrutinizing what I was doing.

NeuroFizz · Feb 19, 2009

I get that feeling all the time, but it seems to go away as soon as I walk away from the mirror.

Silver King · Feb 19, 2009

One of the nice things about aging is that eventually, you won't give a damn what people say or think about you. Their opinions don't mean squat, since they're almost always wrong anyway, whether they come from family members or friends or strangers on a train.

Until then, ignore their stupid comments. Then they'll feel like the fool, not you.

Susie · Feb 19, 2009

scarletpeaches said:
Pfft.

I know who I'd rather spend time with.

Ugh. I was just nice. I need a lie-down.

Scarlet, you were very nice! I do declare my :Cake:

must be rubbin' off on you.

SouthernFriedJulie · Feb 19, 2009

Susie said:
Scarlet, you were very nice! I do declare my must be rubbin' off on you.

I'd be worried if a flaming cake rubbed me.

RUN, SP, RUN

Susie · Feb 19, 2009

Nah, Southern, virtual cakes don't have any burn power.

SouthernFriedJulie · Feb 19, 2009

Susie said:
Nah, Southern, virtual cakes don't have any burn power.

That's what HE said on his gay night!

DL Hegel · Feb 19, 2009

bsolah said:
Do you ever get the feeling that people are watching and criticizing everything you do?

This morning, me and my girlfriend were on the train on our way to work. And I leant over and kissed her on the shoulder.

Then two guys whispered to each other, and everytime we did anything they would snicker and laugh. One guy said to the other that I was "under the thumb" and then proceeded to talk loudly how they don't like their wives controlling them etc etc.

say it with me--- jealous

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Now I'm not on the train now and probably won't see them again, but now I can't shake the feeling that people are watching what I'm doing. Usually I'm fine checking the boards at work but it took me a while to log on this morning because I was worried my workmates were watching what I'm doing.

If you are an interesting person--people watch you

or if you are just paranoid--doesn't mean you're wrong

bsolah said:
I've done this in the past, and it's quite fun. Usually if I'm having a gay night with eyeliner and some guys make homophobic comments, I'll sit on one of my male friends' laps and watch these guys squirm.

Watching people squirm and having a good time--bonus!

at the end of the day--it doesn't matter what other people think--only what you think of yourself.

rock on my favorite flag waver

Wayne K · Feb 19, 2009

bsolah said:
I've done this in the past, and it's quite fun. Usually if I'm having a gay night with eyeliner and some guys make homophobic comments, I'll sit on one of my male friends' laps and watch these guys squirm.

I'm squirming just thinking about it now. Go on.....

Death Wizard · Feb 19, 2009

Silver King said:
One of the nice things about aging is that eventually, you won't give a damn what people say or think about you. Their opinions don't mean squat, since they're almost always wrong anyway, whether they come from family members or friends or strangers on a train.

Until then, ignore their stupid comments. Then they'll feel like the fool, not you.

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