Hubby likes to make something special of it, but he likes special days. I say, if we take care of each other the rest of the year, then every day will be special and occaision for presents and lovings.
But when it comes to the things that are "supposed" to be Valentine's staples, here's how they don't happen in our house.
I would kick him in the jewels if he wasted money on jewelry for me.
I don't care much for flowers because they just die.
I'm allergic to most candy and being ill is hardly an enjoyable way to spend a 'special day'.
I hate, hate, hate the movie theatre and try to just go once a year (my anniversary present to Hubby.)
Because of my allergies, eating out is highly risky.
I get bored with romantic things, both in and out of the bedroom.
Though, Sneaky Devil, perhaps it's not Valentine's Day that's the issue for you... perhaps it's the fact that something is missing from your marriage the other 364 days of the year. If there's no joy or love to celebrate on V-Day, then the day would, I can only imagine, feel hollow and painful. A reminder of what you don't have.
What I WISH Valentine's Day was about: listening. REALLY listening to how your partner feels. For both sides. Whoever yells most/ first should SHUT UP and just listen to their spouse. No rebuttals, no argument, just listen and try to understand. This is the person you said you would always love and care about. If you don't listen, how can you care? And there should be no attacks-- you always do this-- that's not a feeling. Sometimes, in the business and every day arguments, we often forget to listen. When we date, we listen SO intently. Nothing is more interesting than what our partner says. But a few years of marriage and it's now all about ME. Not about us, or about you. It's easy to fall into. I'm currently climbing me ass out of that hole myself. I need to do better listening to my beloved. That's what I'm going to do for Valentine's Day. I started last night. (Now he won't stop hugging me... =/)