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Serious post here...
Someone just popped on IM with me and is talking about taking his own life. I know him well enough to know he's probably not kidding. I'm assuming since he's talking to me, it's a cry for help of some sort...but with him, it's hard to tell.
What the hell do I say?
I've gone through the "it's not the answer", "people do care about you", etc. I've asked him questions, tried to keep him telling me what's going on/why he's thinking about it, tried to get him to talk about the good things in his life...you know, trying to listen more than anything, but also try to reassure him. I've suggested counseling numerous times in the past as well as tonight.
I'm really at a loss. I don't want to sound patronizing, but I'm not sure what to say. As I've said in previous posts, I come from a family that sucks at communicating when it comes to difficult topics...that fact is not helping at the moment.
Help?
Someone just popped on IM with me and is talking about taking his own life. I know him well enough to know he's probably not kidding. I'm assuming since he's talking to me, it's a cry for help of some sort...but with him, it's hard to tell.
What the hell do I say?
I've gone through the "it's not the answer", "people do care about you", etc. I've asked him questions, tried to keep him telling me what's going on/why he's thinking about it, tried to get him to talk about the good things in his life...you know, trying to listen more than anything, but also try to reassure him. I've suggested counseling numerous times in the past as well as tonight.
I'm really at a loss. I don't want to sound patronizing, but I'm not sure what to say. As I've said in previous posts, I come from a family that sucks at communicating when it comes to difficult topics...that fact is not helping at the moment.
Help?