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thethinker42 has developed Tourette's over this. So far, it's restricted its outbreaks to MSN, but it may spread to AW soon...
Scarlet might be onto something there....
Anyway, it sounds like it'd be torture going, and afterward you're still going to have issues with them.
Fake illness then? The flu is going around. So they don't believe you. Big deal. How would they like to have the flu?
Or can you make an appearance where ever they're redoing their vows then claim a stomach virus, you know, even pack a fart machine? My sons have a great remote-controlled one.
...You're not caving in. you are doing what you need to do to maintain your family unit cohesion (you and your husband). That's always the best thing to do. Some people just will never understand what they have put other people through, and sometimes you just need to be okay with that. It is not right, but it's just the way it is sometimes...
Faking your own death wouldn't work because whose picture would they put on your novel once it get's published. It would be really awkward if you appeared again just for the book tour.
I vote for number one but instead of the self-loathing feel satisfaction and pride that you are an adult who can put aside other people's pettiness and toxicity. if htey think everything is hunky dory why should you care? you don't care what these people think of you and you're only doing damage control.
And as for the SIL what she said to you is unacceptable, 200% agreed. The only way to deal with that is walk away. every time she comes near you, go to the bathroom, go get a canape. when she approaches you, say hello, oh excuse me please, i'll brb, and just turn around and walk away.
Write something in your blog about...um...no, that's something I would do, I'm older and crustier.
Do the travel arrangements allow for 1. Only being able to zip in for the ceremony and a quick 'Gotta run!' or 2. Oh, hell! I missed my connection! Sorry I missed your special day!
Keep the hubs but divorce the in-laws?
Write something in your blog about...um...no, that's something I would do, I'm older and crustier. But stay away from them. Their kind of behavior will never stop, they are fucktards now and forever. They should be hung up on, their letters burned unread. Ignore them, bury them.
That's just my opinion, of course
Here's the fun part...what finally put him over the edge was when his mother sent him an e-mail saying "You're not my son anymore." A few days later, it was her birthday, so he didn't call. He wasn't trying to be petty or passive-aggressive, he figured she didn't want t hear from him. (And really, he didn't want to talk to her either)
So she left him a voice mail saying "I hate you! You are dead to me." That's a direct quote and it's NOT the entire message. I practically shoved him into a therapist's office after that and even she was stunned by the message.
In my next life...I'm marrying an orphan.
You know... forget what I suggested before. Here are your new orders:
1. Avoid these people like the plague.
2. Change your phone numbers.
3. Lose their phone numbers and addresses.
4. If anything comes from them, trash it.
Life is waaaaay too short for this BS.