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I was good friends with a guy named Craig in grade school and high school. Craig was a really smart guy (always whipped me in chess, for example), but after high school (we graduated in 1989) he got a job at Wal Mart and stayed there. Meanwhile, I went to college, got married, went through different jobs, bought a house, went through more jobs, and make decent money now and have a baby on the way.
Craig stayed living at his parents' house, living in the basement, buying movies, video games, whatever he wanted, I suppose he was happy. He dated sometimes, but things never went anywhere. I didn't actually talk to him all that often while I was in college. Well, one time in the 90s he went to Utah to find his birth mother and hoped to maybe start a new life there. Things "didn't work out" (never went into detail) and he moved back home, went back to Wal Mart.
After the 2000s and we bought our house, I more or less lost touch with him until the last couple of years or so when he started calling again. By this time, I had pretty much moved on. He wasn't a close friend anymore (I'm horrible to say this, I know) and we had nothing in common any longer. But we still talked, he visited a couple of times. He still worked at Wal Mart and told me he made $12 an hour working about 39 hours a week, his schedule was opposite mine.
Getting to the point soon.
He's 40 now. A few months ago he called and excitedly told me that this girl we went to high school with started working at Wal Mart. They met, started dating, and suddenly decided to move in together. She's divorced and has three kids. They decided to buy a house together that cost I belive $140K. (We paid $104K for ours, and I know how much mortgages cost every month.) How were they going to afford this? I wondered. They both work at Wal Mart. They'll be on food stamps. Assuming she has child support and actually gets it timely, it's still going to be really tough.
But this was none of my business. And he is kind of an estranged friend. What would I tell him? Don't do it?
He told me his father said they would not support him morally or financially. Fine, he told them and moved out. They bought their house.
I was thinking this could only lead to disaster.
Today I got a very long message on the voice mail from him. It seems he can't pay his bills, they don't have money for mortgage, all their latest checks are bouncing, their credit cards have been cancelled, and I fear they're going to lose their house. He asked if I could lend him $100 if I could afford it.
We can afford it, but it's only a temporary band aid. Craig is obviously a victim of the sub-prime mortgage fiasco about which the shit has hit the fan, as we are all aware. He's the first person I know who is likely being foreclosed on, now just one of the statistics.
What do I do? I can't afford to continuously loan him money, and neither will he want a lecture. He mentioned he's afraid to talk to his parents because he knows they're going to yell at him; and they probably will.
Advice?
Craig stayed living at his parents' house, living in the basement, buying movies, video games, whatever he wanted, I suppose he was happy. He dated sometimes, but things never went anywhere. I didn't actually talk to him all that often while I was in college. Well, one time in the 90s he went to Utah to find his birth mother and hoped to maybe start a new life there. Things "didn't work out" (never went into detail) and he moved back home, went back to Wal Mart.
After the 2000s and we bought our house, I more or less lost touch with him until the last couple of years or so when he started calling again. By this time, I had pretty much moved on. He wasn't a close friend anymore (I'm horrible to say this, I know) and we had nothing in common any longer. But we still talked, he visited a couple of times. He still worked at Wal Mart and told me he made $12 an hour working about 39 hours a week, his schedule was opposite mine.
Getting to the point soon.
He's 40 now. A few months ago he called and excitedly told me that this girl we went to high school with started working at Wal Mart. They met, started dating, and suddenly decided to move in together. She's divorced and has three kids. They decided to buy a house together that cost I belive $140K. (We paid $104K for ours, and I know how much mortgages cost every month.) How were they going to afford this? I wondered. They both work at Wal Mart. They'll be on food stamps. Assuming she has child support and actually gets it timely, it's still going to be really tough.
But this was none of my business. And he is kind of an estranged friend. What would I tell him? Don't do it?
He told me his father said they would not support him morally or financially. Fine, he told them and moved out. They bought their house.
I was thinking this could only lead to disaster.
Today I got a very long message on the voice mail from him. It seems he can't pay his bills, they don't have money for mortgage, all their latest checks are bouncing, their credit cards have been cancelled, and I fear they're going to lose their house. He asked if I could lend him $100 if I could afford it.
We can afford it, but it's only a temporary band aid. Craig is obviously a victim of the sub-prime mortgage fiasco about which the shit has hit the fan, as we are all aware. He's the first person I know who is likely being foreclosed on, now just one of the statistics.
What do I do? I can't afford to continuously loan him money, and neither will he want a lecture. He mentioned he's afraid to talk to his parents because he knows they're going to yell at him; and they probably will.
Advice?