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efreysson
10-15-2008, 01:32 AM
The hairline has been moving steadily backwards for several months now, and I can't help but feel like the pace has quickened. I can't deny it anymore, especially not when I see my reflection from above: I'm going bald.

Now, I'm not going into a big existential crisis about it, agonizing about how I'm no longer manly, or getting old before my time, or desperately looking for some quack miracle cure, but I am still pretty damn bummed out. Call it vanity if you wish, but I LIKE having hair. I like being able to run my fingers through it. I like not being cold on my head in winter. I like the way it looks.
And now it's just a matter of time before I have to shave it down so as not to look ridiculous. Joy.

Well, I just wanted to get this off my chest, really. To make a proper thread out of this, how about some other AW-ers share stories, advice or opinions?

JoNightshade
10-15-2008, 01:38 AM
Hey, no worries, we can hang out together. I'm female, also 26, and I'm going gray. In the past year I've gone from zero gray hairs to... well, quite a few. No, I'm not visibly graying yet unless you look close, but my mother started dying her hair at around age 30. My grandmother was also gray by age 30.

My solution: I don't plan on doing the dying thing. And I'm not going to get a little old lady perm. I'm going to grow my gray hair out long and wear it in a pony tail or braids. So there!

Elaine Margarett
10-15-2008, 01:39 AM
Women love bald men! Must be all that testoserone. ;-)

Still, I sympathize with you about the cold. Are you really in Iceland? Brrrrrrrrrr.

Ageless Stranger
10-15-2008, 01:40 AM
Patrick Stewart went bald young, and he's pretty damn cool.

Dgullen
10-15-2008, 01:45 AM
Use it to your advantage - tell jokes. Harry Hill said he first noticed he was going bald when he noticed it was taking longer to wash his face in the mornings.

shyne
10-15-2008, 01:53 AM
I feel you there man. I had to shave my head for the military, and I just don't look right bald. If I get the first sign of losing hair, I'd be the first in line to have my ass shaved and placed on my head; if that hasn't happened already.

efreysson
10-15-2008, 01:55 AM
Patrick Stewart went bald young, and he's pretty damn cool.

Well yeah, but he's Patrick Stewart. And Patrick Stewart would look cool in a ballerina outfit. :)

Ageless Stranger
10-15-2008, 01:56 AM
Well yeah, but he's Patrick Stewart. And Patrick Stewart would look cool in a ballerina outfit. :)


Damn! You've gone and raised my expectations!

*waiting for Patrick Stewart in a ballerina outfit*

efreysson
10-15-2008, 01:57 AM
Damn! You've gone and raised my expectations!

*waiting for Patrick Stewart in a ballerina outfit*

Yeah, just keep waiting . . . :)

roncouch
10-15-2008, 02:01 AM
Oh, hair where hast thou gone? I know exactly how you feel! My hair started thinning in my mid-thirties - right on top, but I was able to conceal the "spot" for years by combing over it. Finally, at age 53, I went to a place that made wigs, except they called them applicances, or some such term. They took measurements and a month later, I went in for my new hairpiece. It was expensive - around 1500.00, but I loved it so much, when it started looking bad (and they do age) I ordered another one. It was human hair and exactly the color of my natural hair - or what I had left. Eventually, I moved out of state, and ordered my third wig. I received it in the mail. It was jet black (my hair was light brown and gray.) Being too stubborn to return it, I went to a wig specialist who styled it (I looked like an old Elvis) and eventually had it dyed. It never looked natural so I retired it and now wear ball caps. I hate being bald and I'm now seventy. I've tried minoxodyl, vitamins, laser rays - everything but scalp surgery and transplants. It is vanity. People with full heads of hair tell you it's fine to be bald - they lie. Some women claim bald men look sexy - they lie. Men that shave their heads look like maggots. Wigs look okay, but they are expensive and hot as hell. Hair transplants are probably the answer for the especially vain- or a variety of ball caps.

donroc
10-15-2008, 02:10 AM
It is not the baldness that should worry a male but the shape of his head when he is bald.

sheadakota
10-15-2008, 02:18 AM
My husband went bald in his twenties- I never knew him with hair. He is without a doubt the sexiest man I have ever met. Bald is soooo cool.

JoNightshade
10-15-2008, 02:31 AM
Where's III?

TrainofThought
10-15-2008, 02:44 AM
The hairline has been moving steadily backwards for several months now, and I can't help but feel like the pace has quickened. I can't deny it anymore, especially not when I see my reflection from above: I'm going bald.

Now, I'm not going into a big existential crisis about it, agonizing about how I'm no longer manly, or getting old before my time, or desperately looking for some quack miracle cure, but I am still pretty damn bummed out. Call it vanity if you wish, but I LIKE having hair. I like being able to run my fingers through it. I like not being cold on my head in winter. I like the way it looks.
And now it's just a matter of time before I have to shave it down so as not to look ridiculous. Joy.

Well, I just wanted to get this off my chest, really. To make a proper thread out of this, how about some other AW-ers share stories, advice or opinions?Well, I can't change how you feel about it, because when something is out of our control it can be tough.

Let's see... what's wrong with me... hmmm... the list is very long so I'll have to get back to you. Oh, yeah, I've put on weight. I quit smoking but I put on weight. I'm in the process of taking it off, but I did put it on. It's gross.

If it's any consolation, I'm VERY attracted to bald men, but it depends on the bald man. One who does the come over, not so attractive. One who just shaves his head or has stubble going around the head, VERY sexy. ;) I guess me admitting I'm fat and find bald men attractive isn't much consolation. LOL!

I'll go now. Maybe someone will come by and make you feel better.

Ol' Fashioned Girl
10-15-2008, 02:44 AM
It's not 'bald'. It's a solar panel for a sex machine.

rhymegirl
10-15-2008, 03:11 AM
My nephew is losing his hair and he is 29. It doesn't matter 'cause he is still a good-looking guy. And he's a really nice guy, too.

My husband has been losing his hair year by year. He usually wears a baseball cap to cover up his bald spot. He also likes to grow a beard to make up for the loss of hair on his head which he can't do anything about.

rhymegirl
10-15-2008, 03:16 AM
If it's any consolation, I'm VERY attracted to bald men, but it depends on the bald man. One who just shaves his head or has stubble going around the head, VERY sexy. ;)

You mean like Jason Statham?

Williebee
10-15-2008, 03:23 AM
Could be worse. Could be your head.

Besides, there are a stack of studies out there that link loss of hair to high levels of virility.

TrainofThought
10-15-2008, 03:44 AM
You mean like Jason Statham?;) You sure know me.

willfulone
10-15-2008, 04:00 AM
It is fine to mourn it. I prolly would. If I were a guy I mean. Or, I suppose I would as a gal too. Mmmmm, yeah, it would devestate me. I gotta tell you though - for someone else had a thread about chest hair (what is too much and such). Confidence is the bomb. Hair, no hair chest or head. If a dude has confidence (do not read arrogance here) a chick will find him sexy. So, feel bad in private when the mood strikes - but walk with pride when the ladies can see you. For, they will be attracted to you for liking of yourself.

Chumplet
10-15-2008, 04:26 AM
I've been going grey since my twenties and I'm damn well gonna keep dyeing it until my face catches up!

Do you know John Robertson, the CNN anchor who used to be with CBS? Plugs.

His first gig was as a VJ for Much Music (Canadian MTV) in Toronto. His hairline started creeping upward, and then, bang! It was back to normal. Plugs, baby.

Shadow_Ferret
10-15-2008, 04:32 AM
Relax and listen to Rush. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5zaMbclNhuo)

SouthernFriedJulie
10-15-2008, 04:53 AM
I found a white hair at 28. I was so distressed I called my mother. No other woman in my family started to turn gray before 40 something. My mother had a blast telling me how SHE had none at 50 something.

When she came to stay with me for a while, imagine how delighted I was to find tons of strands in her own hair. I gleefully reported them to her while sporting my perfectly blck-dyed hair.

Neener.

And bald men are hot, hun. It's fun to rub the noggin.

Phoebe H
10-15-2008, 04:54 AM
Besides, there are a stack of studies out there that link loss of hair to high levels of virility.

Kinda sorta. One of the byproducts of metabolizing testosterone (DHT?) can bind to the hair follicles. At some point, the follicles get choked and start dying. What that point is depends on how much of that chemical there is, and the strength of the follicles.

So, it might be a lot of testosterone, or it might be weak hair follicles, or it might be both.

There are a couple of drugs that do a really good job of clearing out the DHT. Most people are familiar with finasteride (generic Propecia), but dutasteride seems to be even better, although, and this is important, it has not been approved by the FDA for hair loss, though many doctors will write a prescription for them anyway. (It has been approved for prostate treatments.) Both of these should help with hair loss. If the follicles haven't been too badly damaged yet, some of the hair might even grow back.

You would expect these to also reduce body hair (both color and amount), and for some people they have affects on libido. So, you know, keep those in mind. If you buy generic from an overseas pharmacy, you are probably looking at $40/month, if you buy stateside you will pay a *lot* more.

I've seen some amazing results. I've also seen very little change. YMMV. One thing to keep in mind is that once the follicles are dead, they are dead. At that point, all you can do is transplant, if you still have enough follicles elsewhere. So if you really really really care about your hair, don't wait too long. And if you don't, then *own* being bald, cause that's what makes it work.

Prof. Blabbity
10-15-2008, 04:59 AM
I read your message and registered just so I could reply. I started losing my hair at 17 (about 20 years ago) and at first it can be strangely traumatic. You don't feel like you should be worrying about it (worrying isn't macho), but...you still do. I tried Rogaine (lots of money for not much hair) and considered implants but not very seriously. Finally one day I decided that if I didn't think about it so much and just let things happen that I might be OK. Strangely enough, this seemed to work for me. If you can just learn to accept that you are bald or going bald then it doesn't seem as important for some reason. Now that I haven't had a full head of hair for 20 years or so, I don't mind it at all. I've had many people who knew me when I was younger tell me that I look better without it. In a weird way, it has made me a much more confident person because I see myself as more than just my appearance. Don't get me wrong...if there was a miracle cure tomorrow I'd prolly give it a shot. I do miss feeling hair on my head occasionally, but I don't miss having to blow dry or get it cut all the time. In the end, I find that the less that I worry about it, the less other people seem to be notice or be concerned. Hope this helps.

PS--Watch out next time you are in the sun. I got a brutal sunburn on my head one time not long after I lost my hair...definitely not fun.

Bravo
10-15-2008, 05:07 AM
i noticed i've been getting a lil thinner on top of my head as well.

it's been a very trying and frightful experience for me, but i've been taking biotin capsules, zinc supplements, and some sort hair tonic and i feel like my hair has stabilized again.

close call.

i think i have a couple good years left still.

cray
10-15-2008, 06:42 AM
The hairline has been moving steadily backwards for several months now, and I can't help but feel like the pace has quickened. I can't deny it anymore, especially not when I see my reflection from above: I'm going bald.


don't sweat it. cheer up, buddy. i can almost guaruntee you that it will grow back.


you're 26? i'm betting that by the time you're 40 it'll all be back.
of course, it may be not grow back in exactly the same location but it will grow back. it'll be coming out of your nose, your ears, on your back, chest, knuckles, leg pits, toe knuckles, knees, tongue, etc etc.
you get the idea.

luv,

cray

Yeshanu
10-15-2008, 08:14 AM
I read your message and registered just so I could reply. I started losing my hair at 17 (about 20 years ago) and at first it can be strangely traumatic. You don't feel like you should be worrying about it (worrying isn't macho), but...you still do. I tried Rogaine (lots of money for not much hair) and considered implants but not very seriously. Finally one day I decided that if I didn't think about it so much and just let things happen that I might be OK. Strangely enough, this seemed to work for me. If you can just learn to accept that you are bald or going bald then it doesn't seem as important for some reason. Now that I haven't had a full head of hair for 20 years or so, I don't mind it at all. I've had many people who knew me when I was younger tell me that I look better without it. In a weird way, it has made me a much more confident person because I see myself as more than just my appearance. Don't get me wrong...if there was a miracle cure tomorrow I'd prolly give it a shot. I do miss feeling hair on my head occasionally, but I don't miss having to blow dry or get it cut all the time. In the end, I find that the less that I worry about it, the less other people seem to be notice or be concerned. Hope this helps.

PS--Watch out next time you are in the sun. I got a brutal sunburn on my head one time not long after I lost my hair...definitely not fun.

Definitely one of the best first posts ever, Professor. Welcome to the Cooler!

Pagey's_Girl
10-15-2008, 04:31 PM
Welcome to the cooler, Professor! And speaking for myself, hair or lack thereof is not what decides a man's attractiveness. A great sense of humor, intelligence and a kind spirit are what I look for - although sexy eyes are always a plus. ;)

As for me, well - I started going gray when I was sixteen - a ginormous white streak down the back of my head. A year later, I found the first white one up front. It's been going in slow streaks ever since. (Kind of like nadine Cross in The Stand, although so far as I know, there's no mysterious and slightly sinister dark man in my life - unless you count Jimmy Page.) I can't dye it because I also perm, and my hair is fragile enough as it is. (It's about five inches below my shoulders right now - I wear it kind of long and messy.) Since I'd rather have the curls than the color, I'm just letting it go gray.

Speaking of Jimmy Page, he finally stopped dyeing his hair last year, and it's white - very white. And he looks very, very hot....

James81
10-15-2008, 04:35 PM
Shave it all off and grow a goatee. that's a pretty damn manly look if you ask me.

My hair is pretty thin on top. If I ever see a bald spot, I'm ridding myself of hair forever. Nothing worse than a man trying to cover up the fact that he's going bald.

Embrace it brother. Embrace it. It's a pretty common and normal thing. And aside from some kids who might make some baldy jokes at your expense, I really don't think anybody will even notice or care.

williemeikle
10-15-2008, 08:15 PM
It doesn't hurt :)

I too started going bald in my mid-20s. I knew it was coming, as all the men on my dad's side are the same.

I decided way back never to do anything to hide it. I've shaved the sides down many times, but I'm getting too old now to be vain anyway :)

Do what i do... use a Scottish accent and pretend to be Sean Connery :)

http://www.williammeikle.com/me.jpg

quickWit
10-15-2008, 08:30 PM
Being bald is no big deal. Don't sweat it.

Hell, III is bald! I'm bald! No further endorsement of the kewlness of the clean-scalp-hairy-face necessary.

Lock thread. :D

Pagey's_Girl
10-15-2008, 09:16 PM
Sean Connery got hotter in inverse proportion to the amount of hair on his head.

James81
10-15-2008, 09:17 PM
You could always spray paint hair on your head.

Pagey's_Girl
10-15-2008, 09:34 PM
You could always spray paint hair on your head.

Me and a friend had a long-running joke about using spray paint as hairspray - but then again, it was the 80's.

Prof. Blabbity
10-16-2008, 01:09 AM
Actually when I said I was bald, I was just practicing my fiction writing skills. I really look like Brad Pitt. Seriously.:D

Ageless Stranger
10-16-2008, 01:15 AM
Me and a friend had a long-running joke about using spray paint as hairspray - but then again, it was the 80's.


That reminds me of the Malcom in the Middle episode where Francis had all his body hair cut off, and draws it back on with a permanent marker.

I miss that show sometimes.

efreysson
10-22-2008, 03:36 AM
Well, I'd just like to thank everyone who added to this little thread. I do feel a little better now.

polarqueen
10-22-2008, 07:51 AM
If it makes you feel any better, I had a friend who went pretty much old man bald at the ripe old age of 19.

Pagey's_Girl
10-22-2008, 06:06 PM
I was talking to a male friend (via phone) and somehow this topic came up. I thought he seemed unusually interested in my opinion. Then I saw him a couple of days ago.

Yup. He'd shaved his head. He looks pretty darn good, too. Of course, it's also just turned really cold here, so my ears are freezing just thinking about it.

But yeah. He does look good....

donroc
10-22-2008, 06:13 PM
I always refer to my pate as a reverse Mohawk.

Jcomp
10-22-2008, 06:30 PM
I feel your pain, brother.

Started losing mine at about the same time. I used to have braids, and a mini-fro before that. I wish I could at least grow it out thick enough to have a good fade instead of having to go faux-baldie... I miss my hair...

Ah well...

truelyana
10-22-2008, 09:52 PM
The hairline has been moving steadily backwards for several months now, and I can't help but feel like the pace has quickened. I can't deny it anymore, especially not when I see my reflection from above: I'm going bald.

Now, I'm not going into a big existential crisis about it, agonizing about how I'm no longer manly, or getting old before my time, or desperately looking for some quack miracle cure, but I am still pretty damn bummed out. Call it vanity if you wish, but I LIKE having hair. I like being able to run my fingers through it. I like not being cold on my head in winter. I like the way it looks.
And now it's just a matter of time before I have to shave it down so as not to look ridiculous. Joy.

Well, I just wanted to get this off my chest, really. To make a proper thread out of this, how about some other AW-ers share stories, advice or opinions?

Why don't you grow some fake hair instead? If you like hair.

I am 26, and have had white hairs since I was 17, though I have double the amount now, and they are just stranded through my brown locks. I do like my hair as it is, and appreciate those white hairs even more. :)

III
10-22-2008, 10:11 PM
Where's III?

What, like I have an automated text message sent to my phone every time there's a thread in AW with the word "bald" in it? How dare you madam!

But yeah, I had long rock star hair throughout high school and college and started going bald around 25 and ended up just shaving it all off when I was 27 (11 years ago). It was friggin' traumatic.

There are lots of good things about being bald. It's SO comfortable in the heat or humidity. You can take off your shirt or roll down the car windows or play sports and not worry about messing up your hair. You can take a shower and dry off in like 5 minutes. Lots of women do find bald men attractive.

But I'd give just about anything to have a great head of hair. I still have dreams where I've suddenly grown back all my hair overnight and I wake up sad. I have to use sunblock on my head if I'm gonna spend the day in the sun.

There was a good quote in the last Indiana Jones movie. "I think we've reached the point where life stops giving us things and starts taking things away."

Just make the best out of it. Or get hair plugs. It worked for Steve Carell and Kirk Hammet. I feel your pain, bro.

NeuroFizz
10-22-2008, 10:19 PM
In the grant scheme, worry when you start losing something that matters to more than just your appearance (which isn't diminished by a lack of hair). That "other stuff" will make you realize just how little a noggin carpet means. Also, people with hair go through the same worry when their do starts going gray. Look at how much both males and females spend to color their hair to hide the silver.

cray
10-22-2008, 10:21 PM
In the grant scheme, worry when you start losing something that matters to more than just your appearance. That's the stuff that will make you realize just how little a noggin carpet means.


you're not talking about keys and/or socks, are you?

donroc
10-22-2008, 10:26 PM
Also, there are those places we do not want hair to grow as we age.

Irony of ironies, as I was in the final stages of losing my hair on top I ghosted a book for a famous in the 1950s-60s "health food" guru proving that with a proper diet you could not only stop losing your hair, you could grow back what you lost over the previous five.

He was so famous, we had access to Max Factor, the UCLA Nutrition Department, and Gloria Swanson"s people (he also had an idea for natural cosmetics and wanted her name on the line).

His first book about curing arthritis through diet (oiling your joints was his phrase) sold a million hard cover copies in six months in 1955, and he filled stadiums in Australia and South Africa. Life did a 10 page article on him, negative of course.

Actors John Gavin and Troy Donahue among others came to him for advice about their receding hairlines.

I am sure you are wondering what was the big secret ingredient in his cocktail blend aside from alfalfa, seaweed, dessicated, liver, wheatgerm and such while cutting out soft drinks, potato chips and the like.

Drum roll: Raw fertile eggs. As he said repeatedly, "You never see a bald chicken."

Only in Hollywood.

quickWit
10-22-2008, 10:27 PM
But I'd give just about anything to have a great head of hair. I still have dreams where I've suddenly grown back all my hair overnight and I wake up sad.

Really? I'm just the opposite. If I woke up tomorrow with a full head of hair I think I'd still shave it all off. I much prefer the bald me.

The hairy me was a tool. :D

III
10-22-2008, 11:03 PM
The hairy me was a tool. :D

You mean there was a worse version of you????

cray
10-22-2008, 11:04 PM
get out of my head, III

III
10-22-2008, 11:15 PM
Holly: Can anyone else think of time-wasters?
Stanley: You mean like this meeting?
Michael (to Holly): You can't set them up like that.

quickWit
10-22-2008, 11:18 PM
You mean there was a worse version of you????

Yes, but that was Quick 1.0. I can't be held responsible for all the things that guy did.

TsukiRyoko
10-22-2008, 11:18 PM
My boyfriend's 25 and going through the same thing. Honestly, being/going bald isn't a bad thing. Just so long as you don't do the combover thing. Ugh....

Worse comes to worst, shave it. Rock the cue ball thing. Chances are, it's male pattern baldness. What does this mean? It means that 1. you are a true man! Only men can get it! and 2. you have something you can blame your mother for (if it is male pattern baldness, it's carried in the X gene, even though it only affects the Y gene).

TsukiRyoko
10-22-2008, 11:21 PM
Oh, and no matter what, I guarantee any baldness isnt' as bad as this:

http://img2.timeinc.net/people/i/2007/startracks/070226/britney_bald300.jpg

If you don't look like Uncle Fester-Spears, then it can't possibly be that bad.

waylander
10-23-2008, 01:56 AM
Kinda sorta. One of the byproducts of metabolizing testosterone (DHT?) can bind to the hair follicles. At some point, the follicles get choked and start dying. What that point is depends on how much of that chemical there is, and the strength of the follicles.

So, it might be a lot of testosterone, or it might be weak hair follicles, or it might be both.

There are a couple of drugs that do a really good job of clearing out the DHT. Most people are familiar with finasteride (generic Propecia), but dutasteride seems to be even better, although, and this is important, it has not been approved by the FDA for hair loss, though many doctors will write a prescription for them anyway. (It has been approved for prostate treatments.) Both of these should help with hair loss. If the follicles haven't been too badly damaged yet, some of the hair might even grow back.

You would expect these to also reduce body hair (both color and amount), and for some people they have affects on libido. So, you know, keep those in mind. If you buy generic from an overseas pharmacy, you are probably looking at $40/month, if you buy stateside you will pay a *lot* more.

Quite correct. The 5-alpha-reductase inhibitors designed for prostate enlargement will reduce testosterone levels (and testosterone metabolite levels) and induce some regrowth.
However, if you stop taking them you'll lose the hair that grew back.
These really work. I know a pair of identical twins (now in their 40s). One takes Propecia, the other doesn't and the difference in their hair is really clear.

Fingers
10-23-2008, 04:38 AM
Dude! Just this morning I was noticing a bunch of hairs in my brush. This must be all the hair you been losing. Good thing I read this cause I was just gonna throw all that hair out. Will have to figure out a way to get all this lost hair back to you. By the way, does anyones head feel the draft in here?


yer pal Brian